To think this is disgusting

Why is getting bacteria from your arsehole on your hands, before putting it in the face of your partner “highly amusing”?

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Absolutely disgusting and yet highly amusing at the same time!

So...the ordinary, civilised, polite, great guy you've lived with for years, all of a sudden decided to do this bizarre and disgusting thing, having no form whatsoever for this sort of 'humour'? I find that odd in the extreme. If my DP acted so far out of character I'd be very concerned and wonder if it was passive aggression. Because imo you either think that sort of thing is funny, or you don't and never ever would. You don't usually move from one view to the other once you've passed childhood.

I have been decorating today and the paint fumes made me feel sick. Reading this has now practically made me vomit.
What a disgusting pig of a man. I would never, ever have any respect for him after that. Absolute deal breaker. Ugh.

That would give me the permanent ick. I'd think of it every time I looked at him forevermore and I'm being deadly serious I genuinely would.

Also, please tell me he washed his hand after doing this 🤢🤢🤢

He was testing you to find out if you share his new (and delightful!) poo fetish🤢. Grim.

And he’ll probably have the audacity to be fucked off when you refuse to ever have sex with him ever again.

So fucking disgusting.

And I thought my OH was gross! Farts in the bedroom and the other day was taking a poo in the cloakroom loo with the door open. When I went downstairs to get something he said ‘you might want to close that’ 🤮 what a stench, gave him a lecture about mutual respect etc generally had a go at him… (of course this was unjustified 🙄) but over next few days he was being much more courteous.

NEVER has he ever done what OP described her parter has done I would not tolerate it. If it’s a new action, and considering the comment about being aroused if you did it to him, I have to agree he might be dabbling in porn relating to this erhm ‘area’. Or he’s just lost all respect for you. Whatever inspiration behind it, it’s not coming from a good place is it.

I hope he did wash his hands thoroughly after his ‘joke’ - that would be a non negotiable for me. I’d be furious and repulsed on a new level. Also I’d have the ick, he’d have a lot of making up to do!

I'm wondering if it was the underside of his ball sack. As the owner of one, they can also get a bit pungent after a long day.

If the underside of your nackers smell like your arsehole, you need the doctor.

The romance is dead

I’d also be furious, and it would give me the ick, but to be fair, this made me laugh.

Sorry but this really made me laugh.

Yes, it's gross but he was clearly just mucking around. Just tell him he's a pig and not to do it again.

I'm finding it hard to believe that he's never done anything remotely similar. That doesn't stack up unless he was drunk maybe.

gross. just gross! When I married my husband, he was the most polite man. I had never heard him fart! and any little burp was met with an "oh excuse me" So on our wedding night he let one rip, and pulled the blankets up (dutch ovened me) and said..rings on now baby!! I told him that if he ever did that again , the ring would be off immediately. Hasn't done it since lucky for him. Idiots. Why do they find toilet humor so funny? Reality Check..it is NOT FUNNY

Find it really hard to believe that someone who behaves like this and then doesn't see anything wrong with it is also a good father and husband.

Fucking hell, people, I thought it was a joke,
pretending to scratch the actual bumhole etc.
No words.
🤬🤯🤢

It was a one-off misjudged action. It's not remotely a "no coming back from this" situation.

Those that are saying op shouldn’t leave him if marriage is otherwise good…

tell me, how do you propose op fancies him and wants to shag him after smelling his shitty arse crack? Cos I couldn’t.

Christ, how old is he!? What a rancid little toad. Indefinite sex ban until he can learn how to wash his crack and not stick his stinking fingers where they aren't wanted.

So he's watching porn going in that direction. Make it clear that you aren't into it. I'd worry about the lack of boundaries and were this is going.

Same🤣🤣🤣🤣

This comment had me chuckling for ages

Oh my gosh that’s gross. He effectively stuck the residue of his faeces under your nose. I wouldn’t even expect a 12 year old boy to do that to his girlfriend or even a female friend. Let alone a grown man to his wife. That’s quite mean spirited. Don’t let him gaslight you into thinking this is normal.

was he drunk?

Edit: just reread it and I see he put his finger under your nose. For some reason I thought you meant he put it under his nose! Which I still thought was rank but this is grim and very disrespectful that he put his finger to your nose.