To think this is disgusting

When I asked for people who voted the OP is U to show themselves you said ‘loads of us have posted already’ so I assumed that means you voted she was unreasonable. Must have misunderstood you.

No. I’d be very, very upset.

I don’t care what other pp say, I’ve been married almost 30 years and I couldn’t be with someone who thought that was funny. I’d have a very serious talk with him and stay in the spare room until he really understood that nothing like that can happen again.

Was it out of character for him, op?

@Oooooooodieeeee I never said she was?

@LuckySantangelo35 I mean, I wouldn't be turned on by it but I wouldn't be as disgusted as everyone on here claims to me - I'd probably laugh and try and shove it back under his own nose 😂

Personally I’m not necessarily saying LTB but I would say she needs to have a serious talk to her husband because she is disgusted by it.

personally I’d be feeling really disrespected and grossed out by him doing something like that. And I’d also wonder if he has been watching some kind of weird porn. It could be the start of a slippery slope.

I would never tolerate that behaviour now but when I was in my early 20s there was one guy who would deliberately fart near me in the bed and laugh despite knowing I was disgusted by it . He was about 7 years older than me as well. His behaviour slowly become more degrading over that summer and I’m glad I escaped him a couple of months later. It turned out he had what I think is called a degradation kink.

@Bearface28 has your DH been watching the Kevin Smith classic ‘Mall Rats’

This could explain his actions

I can’t believe you can’t believe it 😂 It’s one of the grimmest things I’ve read in here and just feels so base, juvenile and pathetic. It is just not something I’d expect a fully evolved grown up man to do. I saw a gorilla put his finger on another gorillas anus and smell it once. This man is as unevolved as that. What an utter turn off.

Ok. So you find it funny and wouldn’t be grossed out but why is the OP unreasonable for being grossed out?

I think @Cas112 is quoting the wrong poster …

@Bearface28 could you explain that the smell of shit isn’t a turn-on for you and say “oh well, at least we won’t be needing contraception for the next [insert number] years while I get my desire back”?

Fine thanks. You?

I appreciate that a large proportion of people don't find this amusing, and I can understand that some people might find it distasteful, but the level of over-reaction is quite astounding, even for Mumsnet. I can't quite believe that people are seriously suggesting that the OP should leave her husband, who she presumably made a lifetime commitment to, because he scratched his bum and put his finger under her nose! 😆😆😆

@Bobbotgegrinch are you ok🤔

When I first read it, I thought maybe a joke and he didn’t actually touch his arse. The fact you could smell it is fucking vile. What a pig. I would be repulsed and want to leave. Is he usually so disgusting?

For me this is far more worrying than the initial "incident"

I think we're all capable of misjudging situations and doing stupid things in the spare of the moment - but refusing to apologise or acknowledge that he's messed up and upset you is a big red flag

@Cocka2

grow up

@fieldsofbutterflies

you would find it funny if your partner made you smell his shit?!

This has put me off my lunch. Your husband is a disgusting cretin. Even a pig has more decorum.

This is just horrible. It reminds me a bit of an ex who used to do nasty long pretend burps (mouth ones not bottom) and I told him that I didn't find it attractive and I needed some sense of romance for the bedroom. He found what I said even funnier and didn't stop doing it. He also used to fart with abandon which I don't like in a relationship. If one slips out, fair enough, but don't make a point of it. He seemed to get off on being told off. Sad to say, I got the ick very strongly soon after and our relationship ended.

That's horrible.

I do hope your DH isn't a pastry chef. 🤮

In true MN style and following on from another thread on here......LTB!!😆

This is ten year old boy to another ten year old boy behaviour. Hugely wrong from an adult let alone husband to wife.

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I don't know, I think this is more likely a man who is very comfortable with his wife and forgot for a moment that gross out humour isn't most women's cup of tea.

He may find it arousing if his wife did that back, but I think that's just him defending himself now after the fact. I don't think his intention was to arouse but to gross out. I don't know though, maybe he swung on something new he wanted to try and missed by about seven lightyears. But I'd put my money on it being a very poorly aimed joke.

Also sorry for assuming your heterosexuality, as a bi person myself that was bad of me!

Loads of us have posted already 🤷‍♀️

Everyone has a different sense of humour and finds different things funny - even farts and bums 😂