I hate my 19 month old

Does he speak? It gets much much easier when they can effectively communicate. Imagine how frustrating it would be to know what you want/need/feel, but to have no real way of expressing it. Two of mine have been mildly speech delayed and teaching them basic sign language helped immensely. It’s just a stage, and it will pass.

People saying things get easier at 2.. I don't think this is the case for the majority. Generally 18 months - 3 being difficult is more accurate in my experience, but of course all children are different. Sympathies OP, my toddler (almost 3) has had an extremely difficult day.. and now she's asleep (after a massive tantrum lasting half an hour or so) far, far too early and will be awake at God knows what hour. It's not easy.

Some children are just harder than others at any given stage (but not necessarily at all stages!). Don't tell yourself that other people enjoy it because they are good parents and you're not - that's not it at all! An 'amazing parent' can have a tricky second baby and realise that the reason the first one was easy wasn't actually brilliant parenting! A lot of it is sheer luck. This stage will pass.

Is he talking OP?

As pp’s said, it’s the stage that you dislike.

Mine is 18 months and I also just had twins in April. I’m reminded again x2 about how much I hate the newborn stage but I’m actually enjoying DC more at 18 months.

It’s different for everyone and will get better, I promise.

Some kids are just much, much harder work than others. It’s stressful, thankless and yes, pretty miserable day in day out.

One day you’ll be able to look back and thank your lucky stars that your toddler wrangling days are well behind you.

It gets better.

Could you get a babysitter/helper - 1-2 nights a week? Say you 18:00 - 21:00 or on the weekends.
Maybe a student.
They clean up the kitchen, put a wash on, hang up washing or what ever time consuming jobs you need doing.
You can concentrate on putting your baby to bed and then maybe put Your feet up a bit. My son often babysits while the parents are in the house

I remember this feeling op! DS is now nearly 3 and it’s getting better but you are in the thick of it now. It was around 2 that it started to get better for me, he started sleeping and talking more and stopped fighting so much.
I use one of the nursery workers to babysit every so often so I can have a few weekend hours to myself and I take a half day/full day holiday every few weeks and just stare at the walls! Can you do that sort of thing?
I thought about 4 days too but the lack of guarantee of being able to go back full time later on held me back.

You need help!! Have a day or 2 off to yourself while dc is in nursery. Money isn't everything you need your sanity. Mine is nearly 2.5 with everyday tantrums so I know where you're coming from

I absolutely hated the toddler stage, and very much felt like I was just pushing through and wishing the time away. At around 3.5-4 they became much more enjoyable again.

18m-3 is the worst, it will get better. Sounds like you need a break- do you have a partner? Can you have a nice day out by yourself doing something you enjoy or can they take the little one out while you have a nice soak in the bath and relax?

I'm in the same stage. Fortunately I have an older one and I know it passes. I think once they can talk more it gets easier. My little boy can barely say anything at all and this adds to his frustration in my opinion.
Closer to 2 things get better, I think. It all gets better.

Hang in there OP, I promise you it will get easier!

You don’t hate your child, you hate this stage.

i mainly hated the 18-3 years old stage as it is RELENTLESS. Yes there is lovely bits in there and i love my children but man… they could test anyone’s sanity.

not much helpful advice but you are honestly not alone in feeling like this.

i hope your partner is hands on and helps and gives you a break.

You don't hate him, you hate the stage he's at and tbf it sounds like he is at a tough one right now.

This stage will pass.

As children get better at speaking and making themselves understood, their tantrums/hitting often lessen as they aren't as frustrated anymore.