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To not want to socialise with my work colleagues?

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nobeans · 08/06/2024 16:59

I work part time so I don't earn as much as them yet they seem to forget this and complain when I kept turning them down for after work socialising. I just want to get home and see my family. The latest complaint is that I won't go to the pub to watch football with them - it's the euros I think? . 1. I don't drink and 2. I find football dull. My husband says I should make an effort and go once for every twice I say no as it's team building. I just don't see the point. I go out with people I am friends with. Aibu?

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nobeans · 08/06/2024 17:27

MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 08/06/2024 17:25

It's nice they invite you.

But you should never be coerced or expected or pressured to attend.

Just say thanks for the invite and hope they have a lovely time.

Yeah it's nice to be asked I guess but it's the pressure and oh come on oh you never come out. It's just tiresome.

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MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 08/06/2024 17:25

It's nice they invite you.

But you should never be coerced or expected or pressured to attend.

Just say thanks for the invite and hope they have a lovely time.

trader21c · 08/06/2024 17:22

Really do what you want you spend quite enough time with them already! I am the same

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nobeans · 08/06/2024 17:14

Do you think there's a nice way I can say look stop nagging me?

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Ciderlout · 08/06/2024 17:13

I never go out with work colleagues and they all know. I see them all day and don’t want to spend my free time with them too 🤣

YANBU

UrbanFan · 08/06/2024 17:11

If you are not up for it then don't do it.

Bettedaviseyes111 · 08/06/2024 17:07

You aren’t being unreasonable at all, you want to get home to your family and home.

I always find work events a bit of a conflict of interest anyway so tend to stay away.

Don’t feel pressured, it’s entirely your choice what you do with your free time.

strawberryjeans · 08/06/2024 17:06

YANBU, I never do

HelplessSoul · 08/06/2024 17:02

Fuck em and fuck "team building". That shit can be done in work time, not in your free time.

If they dont like it, tough titties for your fake team "mates".

HannahT10 · 08/06/2024 17:00

nobeans · 08/06/2024 16:59

I work part time so I don't earn as much as them yet they seem to forget this and complain when I kept turning them down for after work socialising. I just want to get home and see my family. The latest complaint is that I won't go to the pub to watch football with them - it's the euros I think? . 1. I don't drink and 2. I find football dull. My husband says I should make an effort and go once for every twice I say no as it's team building. I just don't see the point. I go out with people I am friends with. Aibu?

I think if you don't feel comfortable then don't go. It's entirely up to you what you do with your free time.