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lets all share our locations with someone

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cannonballz · 08/06/2024 13:27

specifically while wondering around in a holiday destination on our own, but generally, really at all times. I go birdwatching, or camping, or running, and my son has my location tracked on my phone. My daughter goes on nights out, and I know where she is. My son goes to festivals, and his father can track him. Basically, all of us can be found by at least one relative, if anything unexpected happens.

Surely, most people carry phones, and surely, this function is one of the major benefits?

OP posts:
Mydogisagentleman · 09/06/2024 07:46

Terrington St Clement currently, going to Walpole Highway soon

xxSideshowAuntSallyxx · 09/06/2024 07:07

No thanks, also my parents are old and I'm well past the age of telling them where I'm going.

NewtGuineaPig · 09/06/2024 07:05

"Yes, my friend used this facility when her husband fell and knocked himself out trail running - it was literally a life saver. I am not sure exactly how it works, but seems like if it detects a fall then it rings a designated person? Or something similar."

Yes @cannonballz it sends an alert to designated contacts and it sounds a fairly loud alarm. There was a British runner in a training camp in Portugal recently who was only able to escape being raped because her Garmin alarmed when he threw her to the ground really hard and her attacker believed her when she said it was sending the police so he ran off.

ManilowBarry · 09/06/2024 06:19

Neither myself or my husband or my sisters and their husbands or my brother and his wife would set off alone on holiday feeling unwell as we care about each other and either spouse or group would accompany us.

That's a better way of keeping safe rather than tracking phone movements.

ThreeFeetTall · 09/06/2024 06:06

What happens when your phone battery runs out? Would other people worry and call the police?

FindingMeno · 09/06/2024 05:04

Myself and my dc's have life360 at their request.
It's bloody useful for all sorts of mundane reasons.

Tarkan · 09/06/2024 03:17

We use it between me, DH and both DC but only check it when absolutely necessary.

It's come in very handy when I've lost my phone and when DC2 was younger and once got lost with a dying phone. They phoned me in a total panic (they're autistic and have bad anxiety related to it) so I was able to check where they were and tell them where to go before their battery died.

DH is a bus driver and it's handy to check whereabouts he is when he's late home from work, he works late shifts so often doesn't finish until 1am, just a couple of weeks ago he had a shocker of a shift and didn't get home until 2.30am when he was meant to be back at midnight. He can't even check his phone, never mind call me or answer a call, when he's working so it helps me to know when to expect him back.

Glitterblue · 09/06/2024 02:54

DH, DD and I all use the “find my” app.

It gives us peace of mind when DH and I are driving to work, to know we’ve arrived safely, and when DD is out with her friends.

coupdetonnerre · 09/06/2024 02:36

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SpringerFall · 09/06/2024 02:23

cannonballz · 09/06/2024 00:55

true, but a generation ago the birth rate was higher, and it was more acceptable in society to lose more children - worldwide, that culture changes whenever the birth rate comes down.

Not that I would have wanted to lose a child or other relative 40 years ago either, but on a population level, it happened a lot more.

now we have phones, why not use them

What happens if someone loses a phone in a vehicle, the person gets lost then the phone is tracked assuming the person is with it, person gets kidnapped the first thing the kidnapper would do is get rid of the phone, person gets raped and loses the phone

Phones are not the answer people taking sensible precautions are, which would not prevent all scenarios but again they are not the answer

Remaker · 09/06/2024 02:19

I think it’s up to the individual. It can definitely be misused and I’ll probably advise my kids not to use it in their relationships until they’re at a very serious stage.

We use Life360 for me, DH and 2 teens. It’s really handy for picking them up from the train station and timing dinner being ready when they’re all home to eat it.

DH loves a long walk but he tends to head into bushland with terrible coverage so occasionally it looks like he is in one place for a long time when he’s actually not. I suppose if he didn’t come home at least I would be able to give the police a starting point on where to look.

DD17 has started to drive and it does feel like a safety net. It’s a balancing act giving her privacy versus knowing she’s safe. Once she’s 18 and goes to Uni it will be her choice but if she agrees to keep it turned on it will be only for emergency use.

For DS16 it was very useful when he left his phone on the train. Within 2 minutes we could see which station’s lost property it was in and went straight there to retrieve it.

Catsmere · 09/06/2024 01:51

Who am I supposed to share it with? I don't have family around - my sister is 2000km away and my mother in care. I don't do remote stuff, I'm purely urban. The idea of someone being able to track where I am is more disturbing than reassuring in my situation.

MrsTerryPratchett · 09/06/2024 01:02

We all have trackers/Life360. We used to live in an earthquake zone. I also go so far off the beaten track without the rest of the family (think 100s of miles from paved roads) that I'd rather be found before I'm a desiccated husk.

However, I also worry about stalkers and hackers and plain old abusive men. So I don't recommend it. Unless people actively choose it.

LadyWiddiothethird · 09/06/2024 01:00

My son tracks me,always makes me tea for when I arrive home from the gym in the evening,I am all for it.Started after I had a nasty accident in a remote location.

cannonballz · 09/06/2024 00:55

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 09/06/2024 00:39

Same.
I just don't like the idea. Not because of any wrongdoing, just I like to just go off and do my own thing sometimes!
Is it a generational thing? There were no such things as mobile phones when I was little never mind us all tracking each other!

true, but a generation ago the birth rate was higher, and it was more acceptable in society to lose more children - worldwide, that culture changes whenever the birth rate comes down.

Not that I would have wanted to lose a child or other relative 40 years ago either, but on a population level, it happened a lot more.

now we have phones, why not use them

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Airyfairy99 · 09/06/2024 00:45

I have never tracked ? I have 4 kids all with iphones and varying age groups. We communicate via text and im happy with that. Knowing each and every location seems intrusive to me. Sorry

Starseeking · 09/06/2024 00:45

I only ever share my location with my closest friend when I go on a date with someone I met on an app e.g. Tinder, PoF etc

XenoBitch · 09/06/2024 00:45

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 09/06/2024 00:39

Same.
I just don't like the idea. Not because of any wrongdoing, just I like to just go off and do my own thing sometimes!
Is it a generational thing? There were no such things as mobile phones when I was little never mind us all tracking each other!

It is Airtag things now too.
I have seen them being suggested to keep track of people, and not "stuff".

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 09/06/2024 00:39

Hermittrismegistus · 08/06/2024 13:29

No. I don't want to be tracked.

Same.
I just don't like the idea. Not because of any wrongdoing, just I like to just go off and do my own thing sometimes!
Is it a generational thing? There were no such things as mobile phones when I was little never mind us all tracking each other!

GordonBlue · 09/06/2024 00:38

I am in FY3 9RB.

Please send feds if no response.

DiscoBeat · 09/06/2024 00:35

Thanks OP, you're right and it's a reminder as we keep meaning to do this.

Notthatcatagain · 09/06/2024 00:26

Pretty sure I would never learn to use it and certain DH couldn't, its taken him months to master the airfryer. I know how to reach mountain rescue and the coastguard though. My son has led an interesting life🤣

MonsteraMama · 09/06/2024 00:20

I insist my daughter share hers when she's out riding in case she has a fall. I share mine with my husband when I'm on holiday or abroad without him mostly just because he likes looking at my little blip and imagining what I might be up to.

Other than that I don't utilise it as much as I probably should, considering how much true crime I watch 👀

XenoBitch · 09/06/2024 00:16

Irishmama100 · 08/06/2024 22:44

As a family we all share locations with each other. If you have nothing to hide I don’t see why it matters.

What is someone hiding if they don't share their location?
Tracking/tagging etc is relatively new thing.

Elphamouche · 08/06/2024 23:32

me, dh, my mum, my sister and mine and dhs best friend are all on my find my friends. Its really bloody handy 😂

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