Should people 'mind their language' in pubs?

I was in quite a small, expensive restaurant with my DD (18), and has never knowingly sworn other than when she got her first uni offer!
There was an adult family at another table and what I assume was the grown up son was loud, probably a bit drunk and swore repeatedly, not in an angry way but as part of his conversation, though he was a bit forceful. It was awful and threatened to ruin our evening. The waiters were all twitchy but didn't do anything. After their food arrived he did calm down a bit.
I think one should moderate their language in a public setting. But there's a difference between saying 'well it was all a bit shit' and 'I asked for the fucking bill and the fucking idiot took his fucking time'.

I long for the days when kids weren’t allowed in Pubs.

Nope. If you don't want your kid exposed to bad language, don't take them to a pub. The exception would be in a child area, but I would still expect the possibility of overhearing bad language.

You don't mind them swearing at their Teacher or Doctor ?

I wish they would, in front of young children, but kids will soon hear it all in school/on the school bus… and when mummy swears at an asshat driver on the school run. I think you just have to point out that those are grown up words, and not very clever ones at that, and that they will get into big trouble if they use them. And then move on.

Although I like the no tech idea. One of my fav places has no signal. Its refreshing

So no soul then... Like weatherspoons

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If you don't want kids to hear bad language in a pub then the answer is obvious. Why should an unrelated adult have to modify their language because a parent has decided that their child absolutely must be at the pub, because it's not like there are other places to take said child is there??

My granny was notoriously foul-mouthed and was once banned from her local for a week. She upset some Irish road engineers, who asked her to tone her language down.

She told him not to be such a fucking wet ponce. I was in kinks, every time one of her pals re-enacted it!

This made me lol!

My parents were both sweary, and so am I. But they explained that some people found the word "fuck" very rude, and told me that I must never say it at school, in front of my grandmother or my Auntie Eileen.

I don't know why they were so worried about grandma, one of my uncles lived with her and he was an even worse potty mouth than Ma and Pa.

At least you can explain that one as kids being badly behaved, adults in pubs doing the equivalent is meant to be tolerated and if you’re not impressed by the pathetic display you’re a prude, or a pearl clutcher.

The bus is worse for swearing imo, teenagers trying to look hard in front of their mates and others swearing loudly into their phones. I try to distract DS as much as possible and hope he doesn't notice.

Unless you are ranting and raving or asking a fellow drinker if their mother can sew, in which case the publican will have you hoiked out into the street, then a pub is where you go to swear and blaspheme.

And to overindulge, of course.

Strangely, the worst behaviour I've ever encountered in a pub was from someone with a child. It was a calm, quiet local and there was a couple with a child of about 5 or 6. The parents let the child run riot to the point that they were discreetly asked to stop him running around. No drama and a reasonable request. Next thing you know, they're dramatically leaving, and have to pay. They were paying by card, and when they were told the amount due, the father actually spat on the card before handing it to the barman. I was horrified. And the spitter worked for a well respected multinational. I'm guessing he wouldn't have done that at work. So swearing would have been very mild in comparison!

Agree with this.

I don’t like people swearing in public - on a train, shop etc - but in a pub at football anywhere like that it’s to be expected.

Yes.

There's always one man or woman shrieking and using foul language for attention.

Sad that you can’t hold an interesting adult conversation without swearing, even worse the lame come back calling me a pearl clutcher, because I don’t want to listen to a try hard thinking they’re super edgy for swearing.

To whom?

But why should the world have to revolve around other people’s kids?

I actually don’t think I’ve ever had a conversation in public that would offend a non-pearl-clutching adult, but if there are no children in my party then I don’t feel the need to be explicitly PG in a pub!

Or people can watch what’s coming out of there gobs when there are kids, or other adults that don’t want to listen to their dull attempts at being expressive.

Or just don’t take your kids somewhere you know there’s likely to be swearing if that bothers you? Plenty of parks and coffee shops around.

I'm glad they said sorry, I thought it was going to lead into a big horrible argument! To be honest I think we could all do with watching our language , bad language just makes everything a bit less friendly or something (sitting watching a reality tv show on YouTube with the teenagers last night and every second word was the f word and after a while it started to really bug me!!) It's just not necessary (form an ex curser that's trying to get fully rid!!!)

I used to work in a Wetherspoons for my first job.

A group of about 5 lads were sitting at one table in a little alcove in the pub. It was around 9pm on a Saturday night and they were normal men in their early 20s. Not too boisterous, not pissed, not rough.

An older couple then decided to sit at the table next to them.

Later that night, I heard the old man was yapping on about disgusting language and how he hadn’t come out to listen to filth. The lads weren’t too happy and one of them started mouthing off to him - I had to break it up and the old man was still chuntering on about language etc, no self awareness and was doing nothing to help the situation. If the lads were from another part of town, he’d have probably been knocked out!

It’s always stuck with me because what exactly did he expect? He was in a pub on a Saturday night, next to a group of lads who were out for a few drinks!

So I think swearing in pubs is largely fine, though I would temper my language (somewhat) if kids were around.

Years ago I saw a Geordie Shore twat in Newcastle swearing and using repulsive language at the top of his voice where loads of kids were, at around 12 noon on a Saturday in Northumberland Street. That’s something I don’t agree with, and the parents at that time looked like they wanted to hit him.

People that think they’re being really edgy and authentic because they swear are so tedious.
Surely these types can wait to demonstrate they know some swear words when there are no kids around.