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Feeling hurt and pissed off at friends

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catsandcargopants · 08/06/2024 08:57

I was out yesterday with one of my closest friends and her husband, lets call them Angela and Jimmy. A few years ago I fell and fractured my back in two places. I have since been diagnosed with osteopenia. The fractures were towards the bottom of my spine. This happened during covid and I spoke to doctors over the phone probably about 10 times. It was only after about 3 months after I fell that I got sent for an x-ray by which time the fractures had healed. I worked from my bed the whole time. Anyway I take strong painkillers, not because I want to but because I am in a lot of pain if I didn't I certainly wouldn't be able to work. The doctor thinks I may have nerve damage also. I took the tablets yesterday and Jimmy asked what I was taking. I told him and he told me to stop them and that I was basically a junkie and addicted. Angela agreed with him. I asked Jimmy what I should do then and he said just suck it up. I don't crave these drugs and take less than I am allowed to. I only remember to take them when I am in pain. I'm feeling pretty hurt just now and to make it worse my DH never said a word to back me up, although he did seem pretty drunk at this point. WWYD?

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Lucy377 · 08/06/2024 09:07

So many people don't understand chronic pain. They don't understand that you are only 'normal'and 'fine' because you do take them.

You could say 'I used to think like you until it happened to me. People don't understand chronic pain until it happens to them.'

Octavia64 · 08/06/2024 09:03

Yeah I'm sorry he was a dick.

I was in an accident ten years ago and take painkillers pretty much every day. There are plenty of people who will judge you for taking them but have no idea how bad the pain can get.

I'm sorry you had to experience it.

MarshmallowChocolate · 08/06/2024 09:02

One thing you'll find about having a chronic condition, there are always people who just know what will fix it or how you should manage it.

cansu · 08/06/2024 09:01

Your error was in engaging in any conversation about this with him. You should say that it is your health and that you and your doctor have decided what's best I would probably have told him to show me his medical degree

SpringerFall · 08/06/2024 09:00

If you need it why would it matter what other people think, is caring this much causing you other issues?

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