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Would you sack nanny over this?

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YourMerryBrickRobin · 07/06/2024 23:42

AHave name changed as potentially outing.

Nanny has been with us for 6 years, since our joint biological eldest turned 1 (DH has two kids aged 18 and 14, eldest lives with us full time youngest visits in school holidays)

We have never really had any problems although we will admit a boundary has been slightly pushed lately but we let it go- her long term boyfriend was left homeless, so we agree he could TEMPORARILY move on but would be in the caravan outdoors as he wasn’t DBS checked and didn’t want him staying in the house. He seems a nice enough guy and I’m pretty sure he wouldn’t harm my children and appreciate a DBS doesn’t stop that, but it was a boundary we put in place.

He started coming into the house around the DC while we weren’t there. Got a bit more annoyed, but chose not to rock the boat as Nanny is a diamond

Anyway today- she left our youngest (9 months) in the care of her boyfriend while she went and collected DS from nursery, which is literally a 5 minute walk away. Reason being- we had DDs car seat in our car. She didn’t attempt to contact either me or DH (we are both self employed and always within 10-15 miles of home) despite noticing this morning when she was going to take her to the park (DH dropped DS off, we have 2 same stage car seats hence why it wasn’t an issue with DS this morning)

Im pissed off if I’m honest. Like I said, nice enough guy but don’t know him well enough to look after my child even if it was for under 10 minutes

AIBU?

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MotherFeministWoman · 07/06/2024 23:44

Well I wouldn't have let him move in in the first place.

TeaKitten · 07/06/2024 23:44

It’s up to you if you want to sack her and start again searching for a nanny… but there are other things you can do, like kick him out or give her a formal written warning. Your boundaries aren’t firm enough and he’s become way too lax which I wouldn’t be ok with.

Zebrasinpyjamas · 07/06/2024 23:44

If she's normally a good nanny, I would not sack her but I would be strong about that being unacceptable. Also reiterate he should not be in the house during her working hours.

YourMerryBrickRobin · 07/06/2024 23:43

Should say I don’t understand why she didn’t just bundle DD into her buggy and walk it.

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