Women with rich husbands looking down noses at others

@blueshoes I think that may depend on the coffee brand? My ex-husband consumes coffee expelled by the rear-end of a civet and he believes he's 6 ft 2.

So is the story true or not? Caffeine does not make me exaggerate.

@doeeyedstan Still dont understand why on earth all of the assets are in your name? I hope your husband has protected himself financially as he sounds like an incredibly hard working man and has been all his life.

Oh which reminds me, Philip Green did that too.

I’m sure many highly paid escorts feel ‘blessed’ too.

I know a woman whose husband put all his assets in his wife’s name. He was a people trafficker! He was a millionaire though with staff so that’s alright then.

Dodgy, dodgy.

@blueshoes

I get the point that not all rich husbands are arseholes. But something in your story makes me think the lady doth protest too much.
No. I just had caffeine too late in the day and can't get to sleep.

You aren't coming out of this looking great. You are sounding more and more bitter

I get the point that not all rich husbands are arseholes. But something in your story makes me think the lady doth protest too much.

@doeeyedstan And the great thing is if he lost his well paid job tomorrow you could leave him and still be wealthy! 😀

This sums up my situation too, I would never judge another mum for working and not raising her own child by herself.
However I receive so much judgment from those mums, and I don’t I have my own investments so I don’t have to depend on DH either. Sad world we live in where lots of women only want to tear others down.

@blueshoes
Yep. It is. 32 years and counting.

The whole point is that not all women who do not work are living miserable controlled lives dictated to by their narcissistic abusive husbands

@doeeyedstan A true love story as @blueshoes put it.

I don’t ‘work’, I often do lovely things and look after myself while my children are at school.

Many of my mum friends aren’t employed either - but they generally work extraordinarily hard keeping the cogs of family life running, and picking up the mental load while their husband / partner works mad hours.

you see the Pilates + lunches. You don’t see the diary management, the entertainment schedule etc. You don’t see that many of them have excellent degrees from good universities and pre-child professional careers. My husband always says there is no management consultant on earth who could maximise the efficiency of our team like I can - partly because I am good at it, but mostly because I know + love them. it’s a huge privilege to be able to put my energy and intellect into my family. I am aware of that. But it’s not all pedicures + padel.

I don’t think the women in the same boat as me are particularly snobby at all. Plenty of working mums in our school gang. It is easier to make time for people on the same schedule as me (and it’s certainly easier to find space for people who don’t think my life choices render my existence hollow…)

You really are desperate to believe something negative. It is beyond your ability to accept that some people are really very blessed and that both partners feel that way.

A true love story. Thanks for sharing.

What pressure?

@doeeyedstan Any chance you many have misheard him?

You mean the meagre part time pay? So that is all they are bringing? The SAHM contribution is worthless? The only contribution is money? Seriously?

Well by that reasoning, their contribution is so pathetic that they are living off their dh

Yes well said, I am on the receiving end of this.. I would not describe myself as snooty and have many wonderful friends from all backgrounds but I quite often get a lot of judgment for being a SAHM… people ask me what I do all day and how dull it must be. So much so I often think about going back to work, but I love spending time with my son and DH travels a lot for work.
It really gets to me tbh. These women probably aren’t snooty once you get to know. Perhaps they aren’t as confident as you think so give off a standoffish vibe. Staying at home to raise kids post partum can actually be quite damaging to your confidence.

Boring and vacuous individuals with little but money and pampering in their lives.

Maybe they are sick of people with chips on their shoulders who think everything revolves around them and who come up with conspiracy theories 'omg she looked at me and is judging me' and they probably don't spend as much time and effort thinking how hard done by they are?

@doeeyedstan Poor guy. All that pressure.

You have weirdly just decided I requested the assets be put in my name. I've clearly stated he chose to do this for financial planning reasons.

You are so so desperate to make this a bad story. It's not. I'm a very fortunate person. And he feels he is also. He tells me regularly that he feels blessed.

I stopped work because his job required him to travel abroad for up to 3 weeks at a time frequently during the year. Many more short week long trips too. His hours were horrendous. He would leave before sun was up and get home in the dark. Had I continued to work neither of us would be present to parent our dc.
We also relocated abroad with his work for several years. I had actually started another degree but had to give this up due to this relocation but it made sense for us as a family. We had a fantastic time.
I enabled him to focus on his career and be able to enjoy his time with dc as much as possible and enabled us to afford domestic help so neither of us were blind with fatigue. He would desperately try to get home in time to put them to bed where ever possible and would read and sing them to sleep.
He is as loving and smitten with me as he was on day one. He is truly the nicest man I know.