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To think I need to end this, he's messing me about

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Overpluckedmyeyebrows · 07/06/2024 18:56

Someone I've been 'seeing' if you can even call it that.
In the beginning he was good at texting, now doesn't reply to lots of them or takes over a day.

It's not that I mind, it's just that he didn't used to. I did ask him about it and he said 'oh I'm just rubbish at texting' but like I say he didn't used to.

Not saying at all that someone has to text constantly and reply immediately, not in the slightest. But when they ignore almost 50% of your texts, it's hard to feel special.

So I stop texting for a bit then he's friendly/flirty again.

We've been out a few times for drinks and to a film etc. I was going on a day trip to a city about an hour and a half from where we live. I casually asked him if he wanted to come and he looked at me like I had two heads or something. Made me feel embarrassed tbh.

I feel like it's mainly me initiating tbh. He's never said anything sweet or really bought me much other than a drink.
It's only been around 6 weeks, but it's just not making me feel special at all, quite the opposite. He's 31, you'd think he'd be a little more mature but maybe not.
He said 'i'll try and get better and texting you back ' , wow I can see where I am on the priority list.

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Overpluckedmyeyebrows · 07/06/2024 19:24

I guess they keep you dangling on like this in case there's nothing better 🙄

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Olika · 07/06/2024 19:21

I agree with the others, he is not interested. If he was he would make it happen.

Wulfeniii · 07/06/2024 19:19

Sapphire387 · 07/06/2024 19:12

When a man is interested in you, it's obvious.

Bin him.

This. An interested man will contact you regularly (and not just in response to you messaging first) and he will be desperate to spend time with you. You're second guessing yourself and him, and this situation is making you neither happy or secure. Chuck him back and find someone else who makes the effort and makes you feel good about yourself.

Bigcat25 · 07/06/2024 19:17

That he looked at you so strangely when you suggested a day trip may mean he lacks curiosity, or not being willing enough to do fun things/leave the house.

Sapphire387 · 07/06/2024 19:12

When a man is interested in you, it's obvious.

Bin him.

pictoosh · 07/06/2024 19:10

The chemistry isn't there. If it was he'd love to go on a day trip with you.
You're the standby girl.

Too shabby for you.

Boxina · 07/06/2024 19:08

Just bin him. He's not that into you, you don't sound that into him. It should be fun at this stage not hard work.

Overpluckedmyeyebrows · 07/06/2024 19:05

PossumintheHouse · 07/06/2024 19:04

So you think the answer to him being 'cool' is to be cool back?

Total waste of time.

That's what I've seen advocated on here soo many times.

"play it a bit cooler and you'll get him interested/wanting you more".

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PossumintheHouse · 07/06/2024 19:04

So you think the answer to him being 'cool' is to be cool back?

Total waste of time.

RickyGervaislovesdogs · 07/06/2024 19:03

Gosh finish it. It’s so much stress, it’s only been six weeks.

Spirallingdownwards · 07/06/2024 19:03

Doesn't text for a whole day. Good grief no wonder phones and social media is wrecking young people's mental health.

Overpluckedmyeyebrows · 07/06/2024 19:02

It's making me feel like I need to pull back and be a bit 'cooler', but I just think why should I need to do this? Even if it made him more interested, once I started being myself again he'd probably lose interest once more.

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pikkumyy77 · 07/06/2024 19:01

There us nothing in this relationship—its not even a relationship really. Just end it. Tell him you aren’t interested and don’t meet up ir accept texts in the future.

PashaMinaMio · 07/06/2024 18:59

He’s not that into you. It’s making you anxious, concerned, frustrated?

Accept it, dump him, move on.

You should be a priority, not an option.

Cas112 · 07/06/2024 18:59

If your gut is saying he's not interested then more than likely, he's not interested

Don't ignore the signs