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I’m aware this is privileged and pathetic but…

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Littleacornnut · 07/06/2024 15:52

How do you shake that ennui/ Boredom/ depression after coming back from a really expensive holiday? (For me that is, it’s all relative i suppose)

honeslty since coming back to the drudgery of everyday I’ve felt really low. Normally I get a bit of post holiday blues I book somewhere else but now I can’t afford to.

I’ve been back a month and still feel pretty low.

yanbu this normal and everyone feels like this after a big hols. It takes a while to shift

yabu- bit of post hol blues is normal but not for this long. Take a wider look at your life

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Summerof2024 · 07/06/2024 16:08

Sounds like the holiday was an escape. Is it somewhere you would want to move to? If not, is there something you can adjust here to make yourself happier?

Maybe try journaling? That helps me. I've lived abroad a few times and it's really really hard to adjust to coming back here, but it's more the weather and lack of outdoor socialising which I find hard. After a few years I've started to enjoy life more but it took a lot of journaling/therapy, small changes etc. (And knowing I'll probably one day live abroad again when circumstances change).

crayfishyum · 07/06/2024 16:08

how’s things with your partner op?

GhostSpider68 · 07/06/2024 16:07

Are you surrounded by too much stuff at home? Clutter can have such a negative impact and it’s really hard to control. you say the washing is done but not put away, why not give yourself 20 mins of good music which you put away as much as you can. Natural dopamine fix.

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Littleacornnut · 07/06/2024 16:03

HoHoHoliday · 07/06/2024 16:00

Everyone feels a little bit down after a great holiday, that's natural. But to be so sad after a month is not right. Presumably you are not happy with your life, or some part of it? Try to think exactly what it is you are unhappy about and consider how you can put some changes in place.
Perhaps you want to live somewhere else?
Perhaps you want to be out of a relationship, or in one?
Perhaps you are in the wrong job?

That’s the thing I can’t pin point it. I dont love my job, but I just feel so wrestless like I could scream. But I can’t articulate why. I felt ok before my holidays, maybe it was the something to look forward to that was keeping it all together

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crayfishyum · 07/06/2024 16:02

op this isn’t post holiday blues
this is feeling low and unhappy generally

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Littleacornnut · 07/06/2024 16:01

GhostSpider68 · 07/06/2024 16:00

Ah laundry! If you can afford a 3 weeks holiday, book a spring clean in and a day off work to get that washing down. Life is to short not to be happy at home.

Edited

Yeah we need a once a month deep cleaner or just someone to put away my clothes for me. They’ve all been washed but are now in piles just everywhere. Depressing me

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Littleacornnut · 07/06/2024 16:00

GhostSpider68 · 07/06/2024 15:59

Hobbies? Spend time in the garden while the weather is nice? Find something in your home which makes you happy?

Can’t say I’ve ever had post holiday blues, maybe I’m going on the wrong type of holiday. Are you happy with the life you have OP? Maybe dig deep to find out where this feeling is coming from

I don’t know, honestly I don’t know, I’ve felt so weepy lately, especially at work.

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GhostSpider68 · 07/06/2024 16:00

Ah laundry! If you can afford a 3 weeks holiday, book a spring clean in and a day off work to get that washing down. Life is to short not to be happy at home.

HoHoHoliday · 07/06/2024 16:00

Everyone feels a little bit down after a great holiday, that's natural. But to be so sad after a month is not right. Presumably you are not happy with your life, or some part of it? Try to think exactly what it is you are unhappy about and consider how you can put some changes in place.
Perhaps you want to live somewhere else?
Perhaps you want to be out of a relationship, or in one?
Perhaps you are in the wrong job?

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Littleacornnut · 07/06/2024 16:00

crayfishyum · 07/06/2024 15:56

I suspect you don’t enjoy your job?

No I don’t, I really really don’t. But I have to power through, slim pickings In the market place right now

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GhostSpider68 · 07/06/2024 15:59

Hobbies? Spend time in the garden while the weather is nice? Find something in your home which makes you happy?

Can’t say I’ve ever had post holiday blues, maybe I’m going on the wrong type of holiday. Are you happy with the life you have OP? Maybe dig deep to find out where this feeling is coming from

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Littleacornnut · 07/06/2024 15:59

crayfishyum · 07/06/2024 15:54

i adore my holiday but i love my home
so much that it’s always a joy to walk in after being away no matter how luxurious the previous week or so has been

the key is to do a mega clean before you leave so you walk in and everything sparkling with fresh bedding on beds

I suppose that does not help that we were away from 3 weeks and straight back to work so the house is still a veritable bomb site of laundry

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crayfishyum · 07/06/2024 15:56

I suspect you don’t enjoy your job?

crayfishyum · 07/06/2024 15:55

I’ve been back a month and still feel pretty low.

a month? sounds more than post holiday blues to me, i thought you meant a day or two afterwards

crayfishyum · 07/06/2024 15:54

i adore my holiday but i love my home
so much that it’s always a joy to walk in after being away no matter how luxurious the previous week or so has been

the key is to do a mega clean before you leave so you walk in and everything sparkling with fresh bedding on beds

Sunnysummer24 · 07/06/2024 15:54

Think about the small indivdual things you enjoyed there. Exercise classes? Reading a book? Sitting outside with a glass of wine? And then try and recreate them.

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