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I’m aware this is privileged and pathetic but…

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Littleacornnut · 07/06/2024 15:52

How do you shake that ennui/ Boredom/ depression after coming back from a really expensive holiday? (For me that is, it’s all relative i suppose)

honeslty since coming back to the drudgery of everyday I’ve felt really low. Normally I get a bit of post holiday blues I book somewhere else but now I can’t afford to.

I’ve been back a month and still feel pretty low.

yanbu this normal and everyone feels like this after a big hols. It takes a while to shift

yabu- bit of post hol blues is normal but not for this long. Take a wider look at your life

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Littleacornnut · 07/06/2024 17:06

Trainstrike · 07/06/2024 17:02

I'm not unhappy in the rest of my life but I still absolutely hate life on my return from Disney. It's quite common, hence why there's such a massive amount of forums and YouTube channels devoted to theme park content. If you're on the It's Orlando Time Facebook group or similar message boards you'll fine lots of people who feel the same.

I'm not saying it's perfectly normal or okay but you're definitely not alone..

That’s reassuring

how long does it last? I’m sure the weather here doesn’t help either

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Littleacornnut · 07/06/2024 17:05

NeverDropYourMooncup · 07/06/2024 17:02

Well, if you're in a financial position that enables wonderful holidays like that, how about including budgeting for dropping everything off at a launderette for a full service wash next time?

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believe it or not but we actually did some!

you just need to do your laundry on property yourself and we didn’t want to lose a holiday day to do our washing. It’s all done now though and was done in the first week. It’s the putting it away that’s the issue

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Trainstrike · 07/06/2024 17:02

I'm not unhappy in the rest of my life but I still absolutely hate life on my return from Disney. It's quite common, hence why there's such a massive amount of forums and YouTube channels devoted to theme park content. If you're on the It's Orlando Time Facebook group or similar message boards you'll fine lots of people who feel the same.

I'm not saying it's perfectly normal or okay but you're definitely not alone..

NeverDropYourMooncup · 07/06/2024 17:02

Littleacornnut · 07/06/2024 15:59

I suppose that does not help that we were away from 3 weeks and straight back to work so the house is still a veritable bomb site of laundry

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Well, if you're in a financial position that enables wonderful holidays like that, how about including budgeting for dropping everything off at a launderette for a full service wash next time?

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Littleacornnut · 07/06/2024 17:00

Maybe I’m really unhappy In my life?

how do I find this out?

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Hotttchoc · 07/06/2024 16:56

Maybe think about whether there are things you need to change in your everyday life?

I enjoy holidays but I don't hate coming back as I'm happy with my life and my home.

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Littleacornnut · 07/06/2024 16:52

Trainstrike · 07/06/2024 16:49

I thought it may have been but didn't want to assume! I think it's just because it's a bit of a bubble where everything is clean and organized, and the only thing you have to decide is which park to go to and where to eat next. The only solution I've found is to book again 😂

I wish we could but it’s too expensive to do every year and with the das restrictions ( I have really severe ibs and abdominal lesions from previous surgery) and my youngest is suspected adhd so too long of a wait is a nightmare because he’ll lash out sometimes and if I have to run out of a queue which happened first 2 days (and you’ve seen the slinky queue) he tends to lose his mind and try and run after me, basically I can’t chance that we might not get das. It was invaluable for us. A cast member suggested it after seeing us struggle and it saved the hols

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Sue152 · 07/06/2024 16:49

I think you had too much of a good thing OP and now you haven't got anything to look forward to. Next year I'd suggest having 3 week long holidays spaced through the year rather than one really long one.
I also think you need to start looking around for a new job, there might not be much around but at least you'll feel like you're doing something to try to improve the situation.

Trainstrike · 07/06/2024 16:49

I thought it may have been but didn't want to assume! I think it's just because it's a bit of a bubble where everything is clean and organized, and the only thing you have to decide is which park to go to and where to eat next. The only solution I've found is to book again 😂

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Littleacornnut · 07/06/2024 16:42

Trainstrike · 07/06/2024 16:36

I get like this on my return from Disney holidays, in a very un-MN way!

That’s where we went!

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Trainstrike · 07/06/2024 16:36

I get like this on my return from Disney holidays, in a very un-MN way!

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Littleacornnut · 07/06/2024 16:34

Cuppateatea · 07/06/2024 16:29

I suggest you read The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer.

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I don’t really read much, honestly after work, I’m just done in. I don’t have the bandwidth for anything vague intellectual

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Cuppateatea · 07/06/2024 16:29

Littleacornnut · 07/06/2024 16:21

I think I’m one of those people that always wants more

I suggest you read The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer.

Cuppateatea · 07/06/2024 16:23

Like PPs have said, I don’t think the holiday blues are just felt by those who have been on expensive holidays.
Sounds like you’ve hit a bit of a wall especially with your job. It’s the old ‘live to work/work to live’ thing.
If there’s nothing you can change physically, like your job or the laundry pile - we all have housework to contend with, in one form or another, then you’ll have to change your mindset OP.
Find pleasure in the every day and the little things. I know you’ll be thinking that’s a bit of a 🙄 but it’s true.

neverbeenskiing · 07/06/2024 16:22

I agree with pp that if you're still feeling like this after a month it isn't post holiday blues, it's general dissatisfaction with your normal day to day life. We went on a really big, trip of a lifetime type holiday last year. Loved every minute but I was still excited to come home because I really enjoy my job, I love my house and was quite happy to get back to 'normal'. But I can see why if you don't enjoy your 'normal' it would be a wrench to leave a really good holiday. You could book another holiday as a pp suggested, but the feelings will still be there when you get back so I'd think about whether there are any longer term changes you need to make to feel happier.

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Littleacornnut · 07/06/2024 16:21

I think I’m one of those people that always wants more

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Ihatelaundry · 07/06/2024 16:20

crayfishyum · 07/06/2024 15:54

i adore my holiday but i love my home
so much that it’s always a joy to walk in after being away no matter how luxurious the previous week or so has been

the key is to do a mega clean before you leave so you walk in and everything sparkling with fresh bedding on beds

Yes!! No matter how nice the hotel is, it is always amazing to return home to a clean house where things are exactly as we like them. I actually think one of the benefits of holidays is that I have a renewed appreciation for being home.

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Littleacornnut · 07/06/2024 16:18

crayfishyum · 07/06/2024 16:16

My husband won’t put it away. I asked him to last weekend whilst I cleaned, deep clean, he had the kids with him 2 and 4 and they were just chucking clothes everywhere. So nothing got done.

ok so that answers my question re what your relationship is like with your partner

i think there is something there, he can be very moody and prone to just going on and on. But around the house he is very involved, for instance he put did the washing and does a lot of cooking and washing up. He does light cleaning too. But he doesn’t put the clothes away as he sees it as ‘well i washed them’ and deep cleaning he doesn’t do

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Littleacornnut · 07/06/2024 16:16

beckybarefoot · 07/06/2024 16:11

was your really expensive holiday within your means? or were you treated to a glimpse of a lifestyle you could only dream of?

i've always found the best receipe to get over post holidays blues is to book another holiday then you have something to look forwards too

It was expensive for us but within our means, budget for and no debt was incurred and no savings drained but it was our entire annual holiday budget so we have to be super frugal if we go away again. It is also not a holiday we could take every year due to cost

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crayfishyum · 07/06/2024 16:16

My husband won’t put it away. I asked him to last weekend whilst I cleaned, deep clean, he had the kids with him 2 and 4 and they were just chucking clothes everywhere. So nothing got done.

ok so that answers my question re what your relationship is like with your partner

Sunshineandpinkclouds · 07/06/2024 16:16

I think it's a sign you have unmet needs in your day to day life which needs fixing.

I had a weekend away on my own a month ago doing a sporty thing which I loved and since then I have felt the same way- a sort of restlessness and boredom as I was on a high after the weekend then crashed down.

For me I have booked another sport activity in Oct so I have a goal to work towards. Still not quite there so I'm trying to think of other goals.

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 07/06/2024 16:15

I never get post-holiday blues tbh. I love going on holiday, but I'm also always happy to be home! Do you like where you live? Are you happy with your home? Do you do enough stuff that's not work?

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Littleacornnut · 07/06/2024 16:15

Ragwort · 07/06/2024 16:10

It sounds like more a reflection on your usual lifestyle .. to be honest I've never felt like that and I haven't even had a 'big' holiday for years ... I like my home, the area I live in, being with local friends, doing my hobbies and interests ... I am retired now but I loved my job and was always happy to get back to work !
You do sound depressed, the fact you haven't found time in a month to put clean laundry away sounds worrying ... and why isn't anyone else in your family helping?

Some has been put away but it’s not all, there was like 7 bin bag amounts. My husband won’t put it away. I asked him to last weekend whilst I cleaned, deep clean, he had the kids with him 2 and 4 and they were just chucking clothes everywhere. So nothing got done.

i work 9/5 but have a commute so I’m out 8/6 normally have to finish off bits in the evening too. So my day ends realistically at 9pm and then we prep food for the next day. I genuinely feel like I don’t have enough time

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beckybarefoot · 07/06/2024 16:11

was your really expensive holiday within your means? or were you treated to a glimpse of a lifestyle you could only dream of?

i've always found the best receipe to get over post holidays blues is to book another holiday then you have something to look forwards too

Ragwort · 07/06/2024 16:10

It sounds like more a reflection on your usual lifestyle .. to be honest I've never felt like that and I haven't even had a 'big' holiday for years ... I like my home, the area I live in, being with local friends, doing my hobbies and interests ... I am retired now but I loved my job and was always happy to get back to work !
You do sound depressed, the fact you haven't found time in a month to put clean laundry away sounds worrying ... and why isn't anyone else in your family helping?

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