I’m aware this is privileged and pathetic but…

Why can't he fold and put away the clothes?
Maybe you can "do the washing" and he can fold and put away?.

Where did you go op?

He didn't wash them. The machine did.
How difficult is it to put clothes in a machine and switch it on? I'm always puzzled by some people thinking it's onerous.
The problems are to do with the household chores and organisation. If you're both too busy, get domestic help.

Dig into that statement. More what? What's missing in your life?

I knew it was Disney as soon as I read the OP 😅we went in October/ November of last year with kids of a similar age and I felt like this for a good month after returning too, I think it is quite normal. I have recovered now, planning DLP for next year as a stop gap between saving and planning to go again in a few years 🙂

I don't do big holidays. Haven't been abroad in a decade. But I have lots of cheap UK holidays (and by cheap I really mean that our summer bargain is 4 nights in a camping pod for £100 and October in a caravan for four nights is even less though we do have extra weekends etc for a bit more). I do something most months.

The money I would spend on big holidays would mean I'd have to work full time. And I don't want to. I earn reasonable money and enjoy having longer weekends.

But I used to feel like you. I personally would rather sacrifice the big one off treat for a nicer lifestyle all of the time but we are not all the same. I like being outside with a lovely view. I am not bothered by five star luxury but if that's your thing then you accept the other sacrifices. There's no right or wrong, just working out what suits you best.

How old are you OP? Could this be related to perimenpause?

I don't think it helps you've come back to such miserable, dull weather. I think when it hopefully brightens up it will help

YABU to mention the holiday was expensive and I would wonder why you needed to over time spent and I assume you enjoyed. YANBU, though to feel sad the holiday has ended over going back to the daily grind as it were. I'm childfree/pet free/unmarried and love my holiday's too relative to wedding/kids/pets costs. It's what I live for in life and my priority over anything else. I always feel "the blues" when I get back. I love warmer weather and was born in the wrong place.

I feel similar after my week in the sun (not Disney) I think it's because it's not that nice weather wise here just now. I'm getting over it by researching destinations for my next holiday. Can't actually afford to book another one at the min but still enjoying looking into where I want to go to next.

If it helps think of those ppl who have not had a holiday for 10 plus years. I like to learn languages, and I pick a film on Netflix, and eat food/snacks from that country its actually fun. Besides I have a dog so stick to the UK.

If you can afford a 3 week holiday then you can afford a 2 week holiday and a housekeeper to come after the holiday to launder and fold the laundry away.

That is what I would do. 3 weeks is a long time. 10 days feels like 2 weeks. Pretty sure 2 weeks just feels like 3 weeks anyway. But you will be happier if your home is sorted.

Ahh so exciting!! I absolutely loved doing all the planning! Where are you planning on visiting?

Yeah, but if somebody was being paid to wash, dry, iron and fold it all, wouldn't that reduce the workload (and visual effect of a thousand pairs of socks draped everywhere) to just putting it away in batches, so it would have been done by now - especially as your DH wouldn't have done the washing, so would have no excuse not to do 50% of the putting away?

There's also the thing of only having a carefree (relatively speaking) existence on holiday, then it's back to 100% drudge and no rest - maybe you could justify outsourcing a few things that take up precious minutes where you could be doing something better like refereeing two kids trying to water the garden with plastic teacups or sitting on the sofa drinking tea for ten minutes whilst DH does the refereeing?

Once that precedent is set (we earn it, we are entitled to make our/my lives/life easier, so I've booked cleaner/windowcleaner/service wash/etc), there's a lot more you can do to improve your life now instead of stifling it down until some time in 2027 when you're next back from holiday.

Oh, I think your entire being is telling you that your life isn't right. Cos I went to Disney and didn't get this at all. Yes, it was a beautiful fantasy bubble that I thoroughly loved - but my everyday life was what I wanted it to be too, so I also got that 'oooh, great to be home' feeling.

In the times when I did have that 'holiday blues plus plus' discrepancy, I changed something. When I hated coming back from Scotland (because of loving the country, the walking and the easy access to the historical records I was interested in), I moved to Scotland. When I was desperate to move to the sea, I moved to the sea. Whenever I hated my job, I resigned. In fact, I got to the point where if I wasn't lookng forward to my work when I woke up, I resigned.

I know I'm weird in that I have no fear about throwing my entire life in the air and starting again. Probably because I've done it so regularly. Also I was very lucky to have a job that was needed wherever I went.

But I also live a smaller life than many. My house and mortgage are small, but I'd still downsize if I needed to. I rarely buy stuff - for instance I can count on the fingers of one hand the clothes I buy in a year. I spend most of my time in activities that cost nothing. By having less of what doesn't matter, we can have more of what does matter, by not needing to be at the daily grind for so long. Apart from my recent misadventure of being employed by a would-be cult guru, I've not worked full time since 2001.

Lastly, I feel our souls just don't resonate with the lifestyles that modern society tells us we have to live. So let go of everything you think you know, and listen to your soul, cos it is speaking to you now. What is it that you really value? If you could start from scratch, what would your life look like?

Then make the assumption you can create that life. Because you can - the soul never gives you a yearning you cannot achieve because it values what is truly important in life.

Research the next one? 🤣

This is me as well 100% ☺️

Envy is not a good look on you dear.

I used to get this always when younger…I’d come back home and save up for the next holiday. I moved abroad at 23, haven’t had the feeling since, I think for me it was England 😂