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GracieGrowler · 07/06/2024 14:44

My mum is a council tenant, has a house she's lived in for 50+ years on a nice estate where most of the houses are now privately owned, including the one adjoining her. She's 83 and a keen gardener, but goes for the cottage garden/wild roses look.
Her neighbours are total arseholes. In their late 50s both physically fit and capable but spend their days moaning and complaining. Every year at around this time they start putting letter thru her door about issues such as ivy over growing (I looked, it was literally 2 leaves) or her hedge. It upsets her terribly and makes her scared to be outside. In the past they have shouted and screamed at her and threatened her, and she thinks they poisoned a fox cub that she found dead.
They've just sent a new letter complaining that her hedge is too high and spoiling their view (of a road). It's probably about 5 foot tall at most. Do they have any grounds to complain and make her cut it legally, or can she just ignore them? It's not going over to their side of the property

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crayfishyum · 07/06/2024 14:55

GracieGrowler · 07/06/2024 14:50

My brother has been round before and they lunged at him. They are completely irrational and nasty. She had the police involved 😧one time and they 'mediated' but it happens every year. Mum is generally resilient but living next door to them means she's on egg shells. They are the type of people with artificial grass and fake flowers outside. They are also campaigning to have the trees in the wood at the bottom of the garden cut down

are you saying they physically tried to attack your brother?

GracieGrowler · 07/06/2024 14:54

Yeah I just wanted to check if anyone knows the actual legal position here. I can't really afford a solicitor's letter but would do it if I thought it would be the end. Every year it's just the same and they won't stop.

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crayfishyum · 07/06/2024 14:54

suggest they take their complaints to HA and let them objectively conclude either way

PashaMinaMio · 07/06/2024 14:50

Oh no! This is awful for your dear Mum.
If you feel it would be safe to do so, can you or a male family member ask these awful bullies to desist targeting your mum? Would a “cease and desist” letter from a solicitor help?

Tell your mum to ignore these selfish unkind people. Bless her. In her later years, who needs that kind of harassment. It’s so unkind.

GracieGrowler · 07/06/2024 14:50

My brother has been round before and they lunged at him. They are completely irrational and nasty. She had the police involved 😧one time and they 'mediated' but it happens every year. Mum is generally resilient but living next door to them means she's on egg shells. They are the type of people with artificial grass and fake flowers outside. They are also campaigning to have the trees in the wood at the bottom of the garden cut down

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jeaux90 · 07/06/2024 14:47

Honestly I'd go round and tell them to stop making demands of your mum, and install a ring camera.

Her garden is none of their business

Hinkuy · 07/06/2024 14:46

Just tell her to ignore them. I suggest next time you go over you explain she has a camera on her property that picks up audio on her grounds and if they shout again or touch her property you'll be reporting them to the police. Or something else threatening.

HirplesWithHaggis · 07/06/2024 14:46

I am not a lawyer, but I don't think you're allowed to cut hedges during nesting season.

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