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To think you don’t block new colleagues on LinkedIn?

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Everyoneisunreasonable · 07/06/2024 10:44

I work in a global team, and my boss announced a new starter yesterday, based in San Francisco. So, I looked him up on LinkedIn, as you do, to see what his background was. But he wasn’t there, which is highly odd as our job involves a LOT of networking and LI is an important tool in that. I asked a colleague in San Diego if she could see him and she said she had been involved in interviewing him, and that she could.

I couldn’t think of any other explanation than he had blocked me, so I looked him up on my husband’s LI, and could see him. So, he had blocked me!

I asked another European colleague this morning if she could see him, and she couldn’t. So she had been blocked too. Neither of us have ever met this guy before, so it’s not like either of us had offended him! AIBU to think this is a massive red flag and the guy has something to hide? Does anyone have any potential reasons why someone might block new colleagues they haven’t even met? Never come across this behaviour before!

I’m going to ask him at some point, but I’ll wait until I’ve interacted with him a bit first.

OP posts:
m00rfarm · 07/06/2024 14:50

IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowItHaveAGin · 07/06/2024 10:49

Probably because he didn't want his new colleagues nosing at his background when he's already proved himself in the interviews.

Looking him up out of nosiness is one thing, but then using your husbands profile, and discussing with multiple people and getting them to look too is absolutely ridiculous.

Bringing it up with him would also be ridiculous. He's entitled to block whoever he wants for whatever reason he wants.

Of course people look up their new colleagues on LinkedIn. There are some very strange comments on this post!

Carly944 · 07/06/2024 14:48

CountessWindyBottom · 07/06/2024 14:46

Do you have any appreciation for how odd this is @Everyoneisunreasonable?

I worked in the corporate world for years and have, thankfully, retrained in something else. I was on Linkedin for years, I know how it works, and find the expectation to use it creepy and weird but each to their own and I can understand some companies rely heavily on it.

Your post is utterly bizarre. I should imagine not being able to find him is due to privacy settings based on mutual connections or something similar and yet you have spoken to one of his hiring managers, another colleague and then used your husband's profile to have a snoop as well. Did you get to have a good snoop then and find what you were looking for?

To think he has singled you out and blocked you is paranoid and self absorbed. And flagging it to someone who was involved in the interview process makes you look like a trouble maker. And no, I wouldn't be asking him why you can't view his profile as it's going to make you look deranged.

Thank you!

I was just thinking is it just me that thinks the OP sounds completely deranged.

OP couldn't see a man's linkedin.

she then contacted his interviewer to see if the interviewer could see this man's linkedin.

Then she contacted a colleague to get her to look at his linkedin.

Them she got her husband to look at the man's linkedin

CountessWindyBottom · 07/06/2024 14:46

Do you have any appreciation for how odd this is @Everyoneisunreasonable?

I worked in the corporate world for years and have, thankfully, retrained in something else. I was on Linkedin for years, I know how it works, and find the expectation to use it creepy and weird but each to their own and I can understand some companies rely heavily on it.

Your post is utterly bizarre. I should imagine not being able to find him is due to privacy settings based on mutual connections or something similar and yet you have spoken to one of his hiring managers, another colleague and then used your husband's profile to have a snoop as well. Did you get to have a good snoop then and find what you were looking for?

To think he has singled you out and blocked you is paranoid and self absorbed. And flagging it to someone who was involved in the interview process makes you look like a trouble maker. And no, I wouldn't be asking him why you can't view his profile as it's going to make you look deranged.

Carly944 · 07/06/2024 14:42

gofigure5 · 07/06/2024 14:36

No it's just that you keep on going again and again with your arguments even when others keep saying it's unusual to block on LinkedIn. I'm assuming you don't work using LinkedIn professionally but just odd to keep on going against the grain all the time.

I only noticed it because you're very contrary on the other threat too. Sorry but that's just what it looks like anyway.

I don't give a fig about people posting on multiple threads. I

And also he didn't block her!

If any of you know anything about linkedin,
You would know that people can set their privacy settings so that only certain people can see them. Eg he can set it so only his first connections can see him

He didn't go to her page and click block her.

Like thats bizarre to even think that he would do that

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 07/06/2024 14:40

Rubbishconfession · 07/06/2024 13:22

AIBU to think this is a massive red flag and the guy has something to hide?

This is so stupid, honestly. Your employers have seen his profile and his CV. What do you think your beady eyes would spot that they haven't?

That he has a 2:1 instead of a 1:1 degree?

Edited

The interviewer has also seen his LinkedIn profile so hardly hiding anything

Carly944 · 07/06/2024 14:38

gofigure5 · 07/06/2024 14:36

No it's just that you keep on going again and again with your arguments even when others keep saying it's unusual to block on LinkedIn. I'm assuming you don't work using LinkedIn professionally but just odd to keep on going against the grain all the time.

I only noticed it because you're very contrary on the other threat too. Sorry but that's just what it looks like anyway.

I don't give a fig about people posting on multiple threads. I

I certainly wasn't contrary on the other thread

I remember posting on that thread that I was worried about the man , that it was sad and that I hoped he wouldn't be found.

You shouldn't be bringing things from one thread to another.

It takes this thread off topic.

I've reported your post

gofigure5 · 07/06/2024 14:36

Carly944 · 07/06/2024 14:34

What's your point?

"You recognise me, because I posted on another thread".

Is that your point?

Em you do realise that everyone on mumsnet posts on more than one thread, yes?

So weird

No it's just that you keep on going again and again with your arguments even when others keep saying it's unusual to block on LinkedIn. I'm assuming you don't work using LinkedIn professionally but just odd to keep on going against the grain all the time.

I only noticed it because you're very contrary on the other threat too. Sorry but that's just what it looks like anyway.

I don't give a fig about people posting on multiple threads. I

SuperGreens · 07/06/2024 14:35

Bizarre, that is literally what linkedin is for. If he didnt want colleagues and potential colleagues looking at his profile why even have one?

Carly944 · 07/06/2024 14:34

gofigure5 · 07/06/2024 14:29

I think you're on the M Mosley thread - very memorable user name - and you seem to want to go against the grain there too.

What's your point?

"You recognise me, because I posted on another thread".

Is that your point?

Em you do realise that everyone on mumsnet posts on more than one thread, yes?

So weird

gofigure5 · 07/06/2024 14:29

Carly944 · 07/06/2024 14:20

That's not what op did thought. She didn't add him as a connection.

She got two different colleagues to look him up.

I think you're on the M Mosley thread - very memorable user name - and you seem to want to go against the grain there too.

gofigure5 · 07/06/2024 14:28

Brefugee · 07/06/2024 14:26

because she knows he's on linked in and she wondered why she couldn't find him.

Honestly it isn't strange - companies that go for LinkedIn REALLY go for it. We are a small company and we use it a lot to pass on information about ourselves as a company and as "assets" within the company. Nobody is forced, but most of us do because that is how our industry works.

For everyone else it looks odd. For people who work like OP and me - it is more odd to block people. Strange. (for us, for eg: if we are pitching a project we may look at our colleagues' profiles to find someone who has done similar or who has expertise / qualifications, since we're globally separated and often not available at the same time. It is just a tool, like any other IT tool)

Totally this. For those of us who work and use it for work, we use LinkedIn exactly like this and it would be odd to block someone.
Tbh, I have many many contacts I've never even met - it's a business networking tool for professionals.

Brefugee · 07/06/2024 14:26

because she knows he's on linked in and she wondered why she couldn't find him.

Honestly it isn't strange - companies that go for LinkedIn REALLY go for it. We are a small company and we use it a lot to pass on information about ourselves as a company and as "assets" within the company. Nobody is forced, but most of us do because that is how our industry works.

For everyone else it looks odd. For people who work like OP and me - it is more odd to block people. Strange. (for us, for eg: if we are pitching a project we may look at our colleagues' profiles to find someone who has done similar or who has expertise / qualifications, since we're globally separated and often not available at the same time. It is just a tool, like any other IT tool)

Carly944 · 07/06/2024 14:20

Brefugee · 07/06/2024 14:15

no - where LinkedIn is used it is completely normal for anyone who even has a passing connection with you to add you to their network. It is what LinkedIn is for.

That's not what op did thought. She didn't add him as a connection.

She got two different colleagues to look him up.

Brefugee · 07/06/2024 14:15

ShorterWorkingYear · 07/06/2024 10:47

I'm not in linked in, but I wonder if you might be being too intrusive here?

no - where LinkedIn is used it is completely normal for anyone who even has a passing connection with you to add you to their network. It is what LinkedIn is for.

ErickBroch · 07/06/2024 14:13

Slightly odd but you didn't hire them so it's really none of your business. People seem very confused about your job which I am assuming is recruitment or similar, which is why LinkedIn is absolutely essential. He may unblock you at another time, another PPs suggestion of possible mutual etc. could be why.

I wouldn't hold it against them or treat them differently for it.

ClickClickety · 07/06/2024 13:58

It's a bit odd but unless it becomes relevant for work I'd not mention it and I wouldn't tell any other colleagues.

Carly944 · 07/06/2024 13:55

UnbelievableLie · 07/06/2024 13:50

I also work for a large corporate where LinkedIn is frequently used and it sounds unlikely that he would go around blocking people he never met.

How would he know to block you?
Why would he need to do that if you're not a connection?

I think it's likely to do with his premium/privacy settings which means unless you're 1st/2nd connection etc, you're not visible.

Exactly, you're talking sense.

Linkedin has a load of private features, that means only certain people can see you.

OP do you know anything about linkedin?

You seem to know very little about how it works, and the different privacy settings

gofigure5 · 07/06/2024 13:54

Carly944 · 07/06/2024 12:06

From talking to some of my friends who work in that world, I actually thought that linkedin was starting to be seen as very old fashioned

Depends on what 'world' you're referring to. I work in a science driven area, and it's used a lot by companies and staff alike (not just our company) for comms!

UnbelievableLie · 07/06/2024 13:50

I also work for a large corporate where LinkedIn is frequently used and it sounds unlikely that he would go around blocking people he never met.

How would he know to block you?
Why would he need to do that if you're not a connection?

I think it's likely to do with his premium/privacy settings which means unless you're 1st/2nd connection etc, you're not visible.

NoSnowdrop · 07/06/2024 13:29

You’re not entitled to see anyone’s LinkedIn profile and it’s up to them who they choose to connect with.

so what if your company uses it for networking and marketing. It’s his private account and not owner or managed by your company.

speaking about it with other colleagues and asking your partner to look him up sounds obsessive and unhinged, not to mention starting a thread about it too.

Rubbishconfession · 07/06/2024 13:22

AIBU to think this is a massive red flag and the guy has something to hide?

This is so stupid, honestly. Your employers have seen his profile and his CV. What do you think your beady eyes would spot that they haven't?

That he has a 2:1 instead of a 1:1 degree?

Carly944 · 07/06/2024 13:20

Mooda · 07/06/2024 13:13

It's a bit weird to actually block people but my god LinkedIn is awful. He was probably hoping he could swerve the boast-fest. I would be gutted if I was expected to use it, totally gives me the ick.

I also think it's odd that op automatically assumed she was blocked.

Thats a weird conclusion to jump too.

Linkedin shows you the people that are most relevant to what you are looking for.

So when you search a name, it will show you the results for that name in your country.

That is likely why the ops colleague in the USA could see the man, and why OP and the colleague in europe could not.

Linkedin also shows you people depending on different factors, which is why her husband may be able to see him, but she cannot. Like for example, her husband could have more mutual connections with this man than the OP, or he could have worked with someone , who now works with this man in the USA.

There is a lot of factors I would have thought of, before automatically assuming that I was blocked.

Mooda · 07/06/2024 13:13

It's a bit weird to actually block people but my god LinkedIn is awful. He was probably hoping he could swerve the boast-fest. I would be gutted if I was expected to use it, totally gives me the ick.

RomanRoysSearchHistory · 07/06/2024 13:04

ASighMadeOfStone · 07/06/2024 10:54

I use LinkedIn and I use it to look at candidates before interview.
And I know it's snooping. And so does everyone else.

It's not the colleague who's being weird. It's the rest of us.

For goodness sake, don't ask him.

Agree with this. I despise LinkedIn, especially as it evidently normalises snooping and if you exercise your right to to privacy then that's somehow alarming!!

It's full of people feeling entitled to have undenied access to you and your history when there may be genuine, innocent and PERSONAL reasons to retain some privacy. I don't see the value in being exposed to such an invasive, arse-kissing circle-jerk of overblown egos. If he had something to hide he'd have blocked everyone.

I deleted mine long since and if a role depends on having/using it then I wouldn't take it. Mainly because of people like OP.

IDontLoveTheWayYouLie · 07/06/2024 12:57

Sounds like a big deal out of nothing.

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