31 weeks and refusing to go into work

So glad you managed to get seen and hope you manage to have some rest and relaxation (and recovery more importantly)! Best of luck with the rest of your pregnancy

No matter how 'friendly' you are with a boss, never mistake a boss for a friend.

You owe them nothing, beyond doing the work you are paid to do whilst you are at work.
You don't owe them loyalty, you don't go "above and beyond", you don't "go the extra mile", you don't take on their problems as yours to solve, you don't put yourself out to help them out, and you certainly don't go into work when you are not well enough.

If the business was in financial trouble, the boss would make you redundant without a second thought. The loyalty never goes both ways.

You need to get checked I had those symptoms and it was a precursor to labour for me.
Could also just be feeling rotten because of a bug but better safe than sorry. x

Never mind the job, you need to go and get checked out and i am not a going to the dr kind of person. you need to look after yourself

1. You are sick
2. You are heavily pregnant which makes 1 even worse

Of course you should stay home. YANBU. Your boss is a dick.

That being said, I find people suddenly become very very unreasonable once you mention pregnancy. People think you're making excuses because God forbid a pregnant woman gets any extra understanding. You're sick so just say you're sick, for your own sanity.

I'm pregnant and working from home full time now. My bosses are all VERY understanding and lovely and I have a doctor's note explaining why I can't come to the office. My job can be done 100% from home (and we are all allowed to work remotely for parts of the year etc) so no issues there. Several colleagues have complained that I shouldn't get special treatment just because I'm pregnant. They're pissed off they need to come into the office 2 days a week and want the heavily pregnant woman to do the same 🙄 they obviously know nothing about my dr note but still. What dickheads.

You don't go in if you are sick. Ultimately it's the manager's responsibility to make sure there are enough people working and maybe call in temp staff or something.
It's not your job to come in when sick because they won't get any cover in.

You look after you and your baby!

Definitely get checked asap. I don’t want to scare you but I had a premie, my plug started coming out at 31 weeks due to dehydration. And it sounds like you are likely dehydrated with a stomach bug and starting to pass yours. After a hospital stay, an IV drip and steroids to help the baby’s lungs she came 3 week later. Focus on you and your baby. Work will sort itself, you’re not responsible for your manager. Start drinking water right now and get checked please x

You're heavily pregnant and have a bad sickness bug. Your boss has sent you a text wanting you to come in despite knowing this. This is the same boss left you and a 16 year old to work on busy Saturday recently and was unhappy with a bad review or feedback that a customer gave. Your boss has ongoing staff issues with a lack of staff and needs to work on sorting this out rather than harassing you.

At this stage you need to think of you and the baby. Stay at home until you are well and get medical advice if anything changes.

I would contact your midwife asap, and also try and get a sick note from the Drs so you can take a proper rest next week

All those signs sound like labour could be fairly imminent op, please speak to a midwife.

Surely if you're managing a restaurant, you know it's a legal requirement that any food handler who experiences vomiting or diarrhea cannot come into work for 48 hours from the last bout?

https://www.food.gov.uk/sites/default/files/media/document/fitnesstoworkguide.pdf

@Fatandtired12 I don't want to scare you but when we were anticipating the early arrival of my twins we were told to watch out for mucus plug and diarrhoea as early signs of labour - it could be the body getting ready. It would really be worth calling your midwife/perhaps going into the maternity centre or day assessment unit if you have one at your hospital just for a check - hopefully it will just put your mind at rest!

Just keep an eye on your hydration- that can be tricky in pregnancy with an upset stomach.

Seriously, don't worry about it. I get it, It's hard when you're in a small team working shifts, I work in a similar environment, but you're unwell and you need to be at home. It happens, you can't help it and you have nothing to feel bad about. In my experience you don't get any thanks for forcing yourself in anyway so I really wouldn't bother!

Hope you feel better soon

Stomach bugs can cause you to go into early labour, so stay home until you are fully well. If movement changes or you start to get pain and tightenings at the top of your bump (the bottom can just be cramps from your virus) go and get them to monitor you. I had a random tummy bug at 31 weeks, started seeing stars and worried it was my blood pressure increasing, but they did the swab, and my labour had started! Luckily a very gross mag sulfate drip stopped it, but don't hesitate to get help if you aren't feeling quite right.

Being pregnant isn't important here...you have got d&v why on earth would you go to work and spread it to colleagues and members of the public. Call in sick

Your managers staffing issues are not your problem. If you feel things are not right with baby go to the hospital and A&E and likely you will be sent up to the Mat unit for monitoring - maybe even call midwife and see if they can get you referred straight in.

My cover for maternity has been hired and trained already but it seems they arent working out like my manager had hoped ( refusing to cover extra shifts, doing what is considered the bare minimum while on shift).

Did you hire them?

So it's not your problem that they see how shit your boss and company are.

You need to take care of yourself and your baby.

You are not completely over a stomach bug, so you should not be in work, pregnant or not. Your boss may be annoyed, but it would be rather worse for them if you had gone in, given it to a couple of others and left them with two staff short at the weekend. If they think about it, they will probably realise that, and perhaps you just got the knee-jerk annoyance.

You absolutely cannot work somewhere serving food if you have a stomach bug, pregnant or not!

You are being unreasonable for calling 'out' sick. Please call 'in' sick. 😷

Look, your priorities are you and that baby.

You're ill so even not pregnant, you shouldn't be doing a hospitality job and spreading your germs around.

But you ARE pregnant, and heavily, so you also have to make sure your body is able to do the basics.

Right now that means you drinking little and often, if you can get any isotonic drinks suitable in pregnancy do so, rest and sleep. Ready salted crisps.

Also listen to your body. I lost my plug at 32 weeks, baby came at 35. It was a big lump of mucus and terrified me because I didn't know what it meant. You don't have to wait until the 13th. If you get any cramps or changes in movement or further discharge or anything that just doesn't feel right, call the maternity unit.

Reply to your boss and say "I know, I'm so grateful, I understand how hard it is being understaffed but I cannot work in this condition. I'm going to try and get some sleep, I'll check in with you on X day"