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So confused my partner lives with me but won’t work …

158 replies

ShyLionesss · 07/06/2024 04:27

my partner or should I say boyfriend lives with me well we live together, he does not work and has not for the whole time I been with him , .. I provide 95% of everything,, I Keep him in clothes, food ,scents , plus I have provided our 5 months old with everything ! I mean everything even the furniture for her bedroom pram clothes food milk , he has only got her 2 tins of milk :(( he does old jobs for his family abd gets paid bits here and there, I even get his family Xmas and bday gifts each year,, I just can’t take no more but I feel guilty for some reason,, he didn’t even rub my feet or back while being pregnant, not even a bunch of flowers after having baby lol ,, I’m a fool ??

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MyWhoHa · 07/06/2024 04:56

Yes, you are a fool

MumChp · 07/06/2024 04:38

Why do you accept this?

JammyJellyfish · 07/06/2024 04:35

You had a child with this man!😱. You are essentially his mother as well, or is the agreed plan for him to be a SAHP?

why won’t he work? Unemployable, lazy?

get rid - you feel guilty as he will actually have get himself off the couch & do something (or just move back to his mums).

ZebraD · 07/06/2024 04:34

Why did you get so involved with such a lazy bum!

WiddlinDiddlin · 07/06/2024 04:32

I assume you're posting this for moral support in kicking the idle cock-lodger out?

Get rid. It will be significantly cheaper to be a single parent than it is to feed and support this pointless waste of skin. And likely a whole lot easier too!

LargeSquareRock · 07/06/2024 04:32

He’s going to pretend to he will be a SAHP and send you back to work at 6 months post-partum to fund his lifestyle. You’ll come home from work each day to a tip of a house and a screaming hungry baby in a dirty nappy.

therealcookiemonster · 07/06/2024 04:31

you have a cocklodger. get rid now.

he is not your bf. he is a fucking leech

you should not spend one more penny on him.

change the locks tomorrow morning

you will be miles better off

HappyHolidai · 07/06/2024 04:28

Lucky him! Hope he has amazing other qualities...