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So confused my partner lives with me but won’t work …

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ShyLionesss · 07/06/2024 04:27

my partner or should I say boyfriend lives with me well we live together, he does not work and has not for the whole time I been with him , .. I provide 95% of everything,, I Keep him in clothes, food ,scents , plus I have provided our 5 months old with everything ! I mean everything even the furniture for her bedroom pram clothes food milk , he has only got her 2 tins of milk :(( he does old jobs for his family abd gets paid bits here and there, I even get his family Xmas and bday gifts each year,, I just can’t take no more but I feel guilty for some reason,, he didn’t even rub my feet or back while being pregnant, not even a bunch of flowers after having baby lol ,, I’m a fool ??

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Rubbishconfession · 09/06/2024 06:11

What did he say when you ended it, OP? Is he moving out?

SheepAndSword · 09/06/2024 04:23

Well, he has to go today. Tell him to start packing. He sounds like a nightmare to be frank 🙁

Try to get a bit more rest.

ShyLionesss · 09/06/2024 04:14

I just read all the messages,, I'm sorry I didn't reply sooner I just had alot on with baby and in my head ... I'm not a troll .. I'm just lost and a mother and just reaching out for advice a views , as I'm constantly battling in my head with "what to do ".. then it's "I shouldn't do "

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ShyLionesss · 09/06/2024 03:59

LargeSquareRock · 09/06/2024 03:54

Really well done. Just think how free and light you will feel once he has gone, and how much extra cash you will have to spend on your beautiful baby once you are not supporting this man child.

If he won’t leave, ask the police to remove him or have a locksmith on standby for the moment he steps outside.

I feel so bad why do I feel I’m making a bad decision.. This is what I’m like !! I had a bad childhood… no excuse and I should be horrible cause of it but I hate the thought of hurting anyone .. I killed a fly by accident..long story for another time .. but I cried cause I killed it /hurt it … I cried over a fly !!! I’m a sap ..

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LargeSquareRock · 09/06/2024 03:54

Really well done. Just think how free and light you will feel once he has gone, and how much extra cash you will have to spend on your beautiful baby once you are not supporting this man child.

If he won’t leave, ask the police to remove him or have a locksmith on standby for the moment he steps outside.

ShyLionesss · 09/06/2024 03:35

Sweetnessandbite · 09/06/2024 03:33

He thinks your feelings are boring because he doesn't care about you or how you feel. This is not a man to raise your baby with. He is also not a man to live with to help your anxiety.

Do you have any family nearby?

im ok I promise , I didn’t plan on getting pregnant, I’m an older mum .. I thought after 9 years it would not happen,,,

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Sweetnessandbite · 09/06/2024 03:33

He thinks your feelings are boring because he doesn't care about you or how you feel. This is not a man to raise your baby with. He is also not a man to live with to help your anxiety.

Do you have any family nearby?

ShyLionesss · 09/06/2024 03:24

I have bad anxiety and been telling him to explain why I do what I do ,, he threw that in my face saying I always go on about my feelings,, saying it’s boring …

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ShyLionesss · 09/06/2024 03:22

X

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ShyLionesss · 09/06/2024 03:20

I need to put my big girl pants on and be strong,,, he won’t change… I’m fighting a losing battle

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ChellyT · 09/06/2024 03:19

Amongst the other descriptions of this supposed 'partner' he is a Homosexual. Please be kind to yourself when removing this parasite from your life 🌸

ShyLionesss · 09/06/2024 03:10

I do really appreciate your advice and support I feel not so alone,, even though it’s all on line I just get comfort from knowing your thoughts

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ShyLionesss · 09/06/2024 03:09

I need to just think of the future and teaching my baby to be strong

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ShyLionesss · 09/06/2024 03:08

I’m safe I promise
just feel gutted
for our baby and that we are not worth fighting for

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OrangeSlices998 · 09/06/2024 03:07

OP are you safe? Do you have family nearby? Is he still in the house?

This is absolutely the best decision for you and your baby. What was he contributing? Sex, and misery it sounds like. You deserve your money and energy for you and your baby! Good riddance.

Sweetnessandbite · 09/06/2024 03:03

Op where is he now? Please don't feel guilty. You have given him so many chances. He has chosen to ignore them.

ShyLionesss · 09/06/2024 03:00

I’m still away as brain is on overdrive.. thinking about future and weather this is the right decision

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ShyLionesss · 09/06/2024 02:58

Yes as it’s easier as baby asleep and I can’t deal with the arguing,, I also suffer grand mal seizures.. so have to be careful… we don’t share a room together

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ShyLionesss · 09/06/2024 02:57

It’s strange I asked the universe for a sign on weather I should stay or go …. Also with all your support and advice I have taken it all in .. so I thank you xxx

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ShyLionesss · 09/06/2024 02:54

I feel sad .. he makes out I nag every day I tell him how useless he is every day I say about him not working or providing for his baby .. that is true but I never say it to him as I feel bad if I upset him
I don’t do this , I keep him in food ,, provide for our baby
I keep him in designer clothes I always have sex well not always ,, but just so he can do his bit even when on period,, I will sort him .. sorry not sure if I can post that but it gets to me so much !! So many things I do and do abd do .. now I’m ranting and I’m sorry

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Sweetnessandbite · 09/06/2024 02:50

Well.done ending it. So is he in his bed now still?

ShyLionesss · 09/06/2024 02:49

No I tried and tried as I don’t want a broken family,, he went to bed and couldn’t be bothered to get out of bed to sort us ,, my and my baby sleep in same room he has his room so baby don’t wake him .. forgot to say x

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SinnerBoy · 09/06/2024 02:43

Good for you, if nothing else, it'll save you a fortune.

therealcookiemonster · 09/06/2024 02:03

ShyLionesss · 09/06/2024 01:44

I just ended it with him

well done!
couldn't have been easy. but I promise things will get better

Is he gone?

ShyLionesss · 09/06/2024 01:44

I just ended it with him

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