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To think this is a giant red flag?

105 replies

saywhatnowhuh · 07/06/2024 03:46

Been on a few dates with a guy. Due to travels we've been chatting a long time but only been on a handful of dates. I haven't slept with him yet because I didn't feel ready. We get on great. No issues until....

On Friday night, I was in a bar with work colleagues when a random drunk man came and sat down next to me and put his hand on my knee and then, before I could move away, attempted to put it up my skirt.

I obviously moved away and spoke to the staff and he was thrown out the bar. No harm done but not the nicest experience.

I told the guy I've been dating about this and his response was "well you did look hot in that dress" (he'd seen a photo from that night) "...but I can't have some random drunk guy getting further with you than I have".

I'm not a sensitive person AT ALL and I honestly thought this was a vile response.

AIBU to think this is gross and a huge red flag?

OP posts:
WiddlinDiddlin · 07/06/2024 04:10

Ew. Neeeeeeeeeext.

Sorrentino · 07/06/2024 04:05

Gross. Immediate bin. Either he thought it was funny or he meant it. Either way (and anywhere in between) = gross/bin/run.

101Nutella · 07/06/2024 04:05

Yeah red flag. Yuck.
set this one free.

TheCultureHusks · 07/06/2024 04:05

Don’t take this one any further - permanently.

Foxyaus · 07/06/2024 03:49

Run.