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To wonder what the ban on smartphones across 17 schools in South London will acheive.

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ThatMother2024 · 06/06/2024 21:07

The Guardian reports that 17 schools are uniting to ban smartphones. I have no idea what this is expected to acheive, what the evidence base is and whether kids will just devise some easy workaround.

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JudgeJ · 07/06/2024 12:02

Noonelikesasloppytrifle · 06/06/2024 21:24

We have this rule but we have 1300 students and the battle to confiscate phones and follow through is impossible with the resource available to us. Then we have parents arguing it too.

Oh yes, the 'I know m'rights' brigade. they're usually the parents whose off-spring cause most trouble because they know that their ineffectual breeders will always support them.
Back in the day when mobiles were mini bricks I told a girl off for answering her phone in my class, probably one of the only pupils who had one. The mother played hell with the school, How dare that bitch, (me) try to stop her contacting her child! and so on.
I can't imagine that the situation has improved! So many problems children have seem come from phones, the parents give their children the capacity to access social media and all the negative context then expect the school to waste time solving the problems under the convenient heading of 'safeguarding'.

N4ish · 07/06/2024 12:01

Needmorelego · 07/06/2024 11:51

@N4ish yes but how can a child get to school if they rely on an electronic bus pass/ticket that is on a app on a smart phone?

They bring the phone to school as normal then hand it in at reception or put it in a locked pouch. Lots of schools are organising things this way now, I had to do something similar at a theatre performance recently. Phones are collected at the end of the day.

NowWhatUsernameShallIHave · 07/06/2024 11:55

One other reason is thieves know kids carry phones and are easy targets when they walk home from school

Needmorelego · 07/06/2024 11:51

@N4ish yes but how can a child get to school if they rely on an electronic bus pass/ticket that is on a app on a smart phone?

N4ish · 07/06/2024 11:36

Needmorelego · 07/06/2024 11:18

Ok then....
What we (society) need to have a ban like this in place is -
Bus tickets should either be a smart card or a "school pass" card.
More public payphones.
No homework to be set via an app.
Until that's in place then I don't think schools can ban smart phones.

None of those are reasons for having a smartphone during school hours.

Needmorelego · 07/06/2024 11:18

Ok then....
What we (society) need to have a ban like this in place is -
Bus tickets should either be a smart card or a "school pass" card.
More public payphones.
No homework to be set via an app.
Until that's in place then I don't think schools can ban smart phones.

PuttingDownRoots · 07/06/2024 11:13

@AlpineMuesli I said it didn't need to be a smartphone. But that the smartphone itself doubles as something else. (Tablet and non-smartphone... or just a cheap smartphone? Whats more cost effective?)

Online bullying is an Internet problem however. It doesn't just relate to phone use.

Dulra · 07/06/2024 11:09

I think this is claw back. Things got way out of hand during covid because there were blurred lines between school and home and kids needed devices for online learning etc (not all homes had laptops/ tablets but most had smartphones). I think initially schools went easy on pupils producing phones in class because they were aware they needed to adjust back to in-school learning etc. In the past year though (in Ireland) schools have got very strict on phone use and most ban them in school now but they obviously have no control over what happens after school so I am not sure how it would reduce online bullying as some have suggested.

AlpineMuesli · 07/06/2024 11:07

PuttingDownRoots · 07/06/2024 11:03

About a year or so after I got my first mobile, when I was 15, I got a phone call from my Dad on the way home from school (Lived in London). He wanted to know... are the buses running, and to tell me..go home now. Tell your friends to go home... there's been a major terrorist attack. And that he wasn't sure when he and my mother would get home as they were worried about trains. That was September 2001...

I can totally see why anyone with children on public transport wants to be able to contact them. Mine have a 5 minute walk to Secondary and leave their phones at home.
Now does it need to be Smartphone... well there's good stuff on smartphones too. They are, at the end if the day, handheld computers. They use them for socialising... but also for homework, or checking on transport, or bank cards... loads if uses.

It would be great if somehow schools could just block phone signals within their grounds!

So a normal mobile phone (brick) without smart functions performed this task well.

A steep drop in bullying? Bullying was rife in my school and that was way before smartphones.

Great, now close your eyes and imagine that you carry your bullies’ voices and faces in your pocket all the time and that everyone in your school group can watch the outcome for entertainment.

PuttingDownRoots · 07/06/2024 11:03

About a year or so after I got my first mobile, when I was 15, I got a phone call from my Dad on the way home from school (Lived in London). He wanted to know... are the buses running, and to tell me..go home now. Tell your friends to go home... there's been a major terrorist attack. And that he wasn't sure when he and my mother would get home as they were worried about trains. That was September 2001...

I can totally see why anyone with children on public transport wants to be able to contact them. Mine have a 5 minute walk to Secondary and leave their phones at home.
Now does it need to be Smartphone... well there's good stuff on smartphones too. They are, at the end if the day, handheld computers. They use them for socialising... but also for homework, or checking on transport, or bank cards... loads if uses.

It would be great if somehow schools could just block phone signals within their grounds!

ThisKookyBlueSnake · 07/06/2024 10:48

A steep drop in bullying? Bullying was rife in my school and that was way before smartphones.

MaryMaryVeryContrary · 07/06/2024 10:43

knitnerd90 · 07/06/2024 10:43

I have diabetes and use a CGM linked to my mobile.

You make an exception for that student. You don't need tp allow mobiles for hundreds of children because a couple of students have important apps. That's a disability accommodation to the general rule. It happens with all sorts of things.

Agree. I also use a separate handheld scanner for mine

knitnerd90 · 07/06/2024 10:43

I have diabetes and use a CGM linked to my mobile.

You make an exception for that student. You don't need tp allow mobiles for hundreds of children because a couple of students have important apps. That's a disability accommodation to the general rule. It happens with all sorts of things.

Needmorelego · 07/06/2024 10:41

An interesting thought.....
I was just reading the thread about a tv presenter (?) who has gone missing on a Greek island (I hadn't heard of the guy - but I hope he turns up).
Everyone is saying things like "Why didn't he have his phone? He could be tracked if he had his phone."
Yet on this thread people are saying it's perfectly fine for children to make their way to and from school without having a phone ("because we managed in our day blah blah").
Society changes all the time.
Public phone boxes are now rare and children go to school much farther from home thanks to parental choice/random allocation.
Plus you now have the whole "bus pass on the phone thing" and homework sent via an app.
I think secondary schools should allow phones with the "switched off and out of sight" rule and one of the first things when a child is offered a place and before they even start is have children sign a form that they agree to this rule and if the rule is broken the phone will be confiscated.
Parents sign a similar form.
Don't sign the form - lose your place.
I mean if schools can punish for not having a purple pen - why can't they do this?

astonssandboxisalittertray · 07/06/2024 09:59

Morningcrows · 07/06/2024 06:19

Have you checked your children's phones? You might be surprised. Check the photos and check what time messages are sent on all social media.

Even really well behaved kids are prolific phone users, believe me. It's not a question of well behaved and busy. It's addiction.

Yes we spot check, internet access is limited and screen time is curfewed. As I've said, I genuinely don't mind them using their phones mindlessly when they do - they have such full-on days and weekends that they need to 'switch off' during down times. They seem to look at utter shyte videos of people doing silly dances or filming their food, take photos of themselves with the camera the wrong way round (so selfie but with the regular lens so you turn the phone) and send millions of what apps which contain approx 2 words or abbreviations (and call each other 'Bruh').

They are well aware of digital footprints being there forever, being alert for and wary of strangers approaching them online (we had issues with Roblox years ago) and that there is very bad stuff on the internet and we will know if they have seen it (so tell us if it was an accident). They are still learning how words can be perceived much more harshly when written down and to try to take care to check that they don't sound unkind or rude before hitting send.

CaroleP · 07/06/2024 09:43

I feel we are sleepwalking into a mental health crisis that is utterly preventable with our kids and I'm scared for my 9 year old. If you're really interested in the evidence please check out these links:

(These resources were supplied by Smartphone Free Childhood)

  1. We managed to snatch a few hours talking with Jonathan Haidt on Monday eve, and we know many of you will have attended one of his events in the UK. He shared a lot of wisdom and is thrilled at the people-powered rise of this movement – he wants the same thing to kick off in the US. Check out this recording of the Intelligence Squared talk he gave on Tuesday eve, in which he responds robustly to some of the critiques of his work. We encourage you to watch and share within your school groups.
https://www.youtube.com/live/CPPZ4-qhgwQ?si=UympIPd7JUAFfGKi&t=2574
  1. Norway published pivotal research showing that banning phones in schools brought huge benefits to kids, including a steep drop in bullying, reduction in medical appointments for psychological help, and improved grades. This was shown to be most significant for younger girls from disadvantaged backgrounds. Read the full study here:
https://www.nhh.no/en/nhh-bulletin/article-archive/2024/february/mobiles-should-be-out-of-the-classrooms/
  1. The French government published a study this week which concluded that children should not access smartphones until at least 13 and that social media apps (especially those that monetise attention) should be inaccessible for under 18s. Vive la France!
https://amp.theguardian.com/world/2024/apr/30/stop-children-using-smartphones-until-they-are-13-say-french-experts-in-report

If you are ready to join the movement or just want to keep up to date:
https://smartphonefreechildhood.co.uk/join

FleetwoodMacAttack · 07/06/2024 08:57

How on earth is this controversial, it’s an excellent idea. Children do not need mobile phones at school and I was amazed at one of our local sought after privates which freelyallows them. At our local state secondary which my child attends, any pupil who is seen with a mobile has it confiscated for a week and parents contacted. This is enforced and it works. It means kids spend breaktimes socialising/playing sport/in the library.

Of course there is common sense so eg if on way back from sports matches in school minibus the children are allowed to text parents with arrival times.

No system is ever perfect but not allowing phones to be visible on the school site is an absolute no brainer no me.

Becauseurworthit · 07/06/2024 08:44

Jellycatspyjamas · 07/06/2024 06:58

Undoubtedly some kids are more sucked into this than others. And I know some parents who possibly have superior parenting skills (or kids far less invested) may not see a problem, but I'm curious if anyone else would be relieved if schools encouraged families to sign up to just never getting the blasted things?

I don’t think it’s the schools responsibility to contract with parents what happens in their homes. It’s an abdication of responsibility on the parents part and massive overreach by schools. I’m surprised how much power parents want to hand over to school.

As far as phone use goes, my DDs phone is blocked between 9.00 and 3.30, she can use it on the way to and from school but not during school hours. If there comes a point when she needs a particular feature or app during school hours I can open just that app. I can also unblock the phone remotely if need be.

There are lots of different parental control programmes out there, there is no need for kids to have unfettered access to phones at school but I suspect parents would rather the school fought with their kids than parents set clear boundaries themselves.

That's a outrageous and mendacious misquote & you know it 😆😂😂! - I wasn't even talking about phones and that extract doesn't reflect a true and fair view of the whole post. Do you work in press/politics?! Doesn't matter, I was clearly talking to myself anyway, as no one else has engaged with that debate 😝😂.

@Needmorelego think you and I are on the same page 😊, regardless of area of world, phone use can be very antisocial in the real world (as opposed to the virtual one).

I have 2 kids who have always been very responsible with phone use and 1 who has grown into it eventually.

Overwhelming research that they shorten attention spans. And working with youth, they are a total scourge to participation if general rule is not to put them away.

And whilst you can put every control on the planet on your own kids phone, you can't on their peers and for some parents ignorance must be absolute bliss.

CreateUserNames · 07/06/2024 08:43

Yes it should be banned.

User135644 · 07/06/2024 08:42

Luminousalumnus · 06/06/2024 23:00

DS school did this some years ago for a year or so. Kids with a long journey to school could leave phones at reception. About 200. Bloody chaos for all concerned. Some hid them in bushes at the edge of the grounds leading to dubious types hanging about to steal them and generally intimidate. DS left his with his grandparents who lived a couple of doors away and pretty soon about 20 other kids did this too. Other neighbours apparently wanted to charge to look after phones! And of course the worst offenders just carried on taking them into school. Oh and burner phones. Anyway it was unpolicable, so it was dropped. I mean it was a terrible school, but no way NO WAY were those kids going to be without a phone.

It's unenforceable if discipline enforcement and boundaries are so poor.

AnneElliott · 07/06/2024 08:33

Needmorelego · 06/06/2024 21:22

Most of them will probably just have them switched off at the bottom of their bag to use as soon as they walk out the gate.
Which is pretty much the rule many schools have - "no see, no hear".

Yes I agree with that. DS school had 'off and away' and if a phone was seen then it was confiscated and the parent had to turn up and collect it. But it meant they could use them on the way home.

StillCreatingAName · 07/06/2024 08:26

ASimpleLampoon · 07/06/2024 00:09

Schools are in a weak position to ban smartphones outright if they also:

Insist parents can only pay for school lunches / trips etc on an app - no cash accepted.

Only do virtual parent evenings

Insist absences must be reported on an app.

Certain homework is done and submitted over an app.

If schools want to be smartphone free then can't households also demand this and refuse to comply with the above?

This is all adult administration. Parents can use all those apps and apps are available on other devices. No need for young children to have any of those apps on a smartphone. The exception is submitting homework on an app, it shouldn’t be the only mechanism as it excludes families who can’t afford additional devices at home.

Jellycatspyjamas · 07/06/2024 08:25

I think that’s the thing @Validus kids need to learn how to use phones and internet access responsibly. That means parental controls and difficult conversations and accepting life might be more tricky at times when kids get their phones removed for poor behaviour.

My DD knows I’ll look at her phone at random times, we have conversations about what’s happening in group chats etc and she knows it’ll be removed if I find anything out of order. She doesn’t have Snapchat or discord and if that means she’s out of step with her friends then so be it.

It’s not a case of all or nothing, there’s no other area in life we give kids access to something without teaching them how to use it and increasing their access as they learn, why would it be different with a smart phone.

Validus · 07/06/2024 07:59

I’ve gone for a halfway house. I am ‘lending’ DD1 my old iPhone. The one with a cracked screen and rubbish battery.

I went to the Apple Store and they helped me set it all up so that I control her phone. I control when it can be used, what apps she can download, etc. And all possible parental filters are applied. Needless to say, it’s very limited and impossible to use in school time.

The data allowance is also very small, so it will only take one time of running out before she works out that accessing internet has a cost.

It’s also still ‘my’ phone, and the rule is that I can look at anything on it, at any time, and if I find something wrong - the phone privileges are lost.

It’s a good compromise. I can give her much more freedom now, but the training wheels are definitely on.

AlpineMuesli · 07/06/2024 07:55

Many things are supposedly “impossible to police”, and yet we choose to make the rule against them anyway.

Because it’s the right thing to do.

Doing the right thing is often difficult, and that’s no excuse for not trying.