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To think parents of private education school children will be fine

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Bluewhitered · 06/06/2024 21:04

I’ve seen lots of threads on this topic recently. It would be great to have it’s own section so those who want to chat about it with fellow parents , can without an argument.

But private school parents and their children!! We will be just fine. There’s so much smugness and bitterness and hate coming from people who think it’s great the VAT will be added and force some out. In fact I don’t disagree - add VAT on ! Great, and then we can take either our state places up … win win we have more money to spend on holidays, deposits for houses for our kids, private tutors, extra cirricular activities etc and we can probably move to better areas with the outstanding state schools or OR we pay it it we can afford to keep our children there.

On some of the independent school committees they are working out how to charge the fees differently so the actual fees we will pay 20% on are low and the rest of the money is on stuff that’s exempt from VAT. They are also looking at changing the nature of the schools so the children get their state education allowance and then pay extras on top- like you would nursery extras.

The chance of labour implementing it is low. There are solicitors looking at it now and whether they can change the law to allow it.

So either way we’re not in a bad position - as most of the threads argue we are the wealthiest in The UK- some can’t afford food bills etc so we are incredibly lucky to have choice and it is true we must have money to
even contemplate spending £25k on each child in school.

OP posts:
Hoppinggreen · 07/06/2024 11:35

ScrollingLeaves · 07/06/2024 11:02

And someone living near Holland Park Comprehensive, to give one extreme example, who may be a millionaire, eating chicken and avocados from Waitrose, rather than a migrant or white working class boy in the North, is not ‘queue jumping’?

I mean its a similar concept to queue jumping - getting an unfair advantage
Part of my job is Orientation people from overseas (often Americans) and a lot of the time they have mentioned how we don't seem to like success here (their view not mine)

Euromonkey · 07/06/2024 11:29

Heatherbell1978 · 07/06/2024 11:07

We will be fine. DS is starting in August (secondary only) and we can afford his fees. If VAT is added it's highly likely we won't then send DD who is 5 years younger. She doesn't have dyslexia or issues with being bullied at the state primary they're at so it's less of an issue. We'll pay for tutors and extra curriculars for her at the state secondary and go on nicer holidays. I don't want VAT to be added and think it's like the Brexit bus all over again. It's amazing the power that politicians and media have over people's ability to think critically and rationally .

Well if it's like the Brexit bus you will be fine (as that was an out and out lie and the money never materialised to pay for the NHS!)

You don't like the policy as it will personally affect you financially. Fair enough. You can surely understand other people can be in favour of it without being 'critically and rationally' impaired, you just don't want them to be...

Dulra · 07/06/2024 11:14

Hoppinggreen · 07/06/2024 10:55

It is a very UK thing, its not envy exactly but an extreme form of "fairness". We don't think anyone should have an advantage - its a form of queue jumping and everyone knows how we feel about that.
We also don't like people "getting above their station"

We also don't like people "getting above their station"

People are not a fan of it In Ireland either they say they "have notions" as in notions above their station 😂

Heatherbell1978 · 07/06/2024 11:07

We will be fine. DS is starting in August (secondary only) and we can afford his fees. If VAT is added it's highly likely we won't then send DD who is 5 years younger. She doesn't have dyslexia or issues with being bullied at the state primary they're at so it's less of an issue. We'll pay for tutors and extra curriculars for her at the state secondary and go on nicer holidays. I don't want VAT to be added and think it's like the Brexit bus all over again. It's amazing the power that politicians and media have over people's ability to think critically and rationally .

VickyEadieofThigh · 07/06/2024 11:05

CoralQueef · 06/06/2024 21:24

Tbh I agree, individuals will be fine (and are - our DD goes to a private school and we will just find the extra money)

The issue is the £60 million that local authorities will need to find since nearly 20,000 SEN pupils are in Independant schools as they’re not able to remain in mainstream education for a myriad of reasons.

The policy will cost more than it ‘makes’

In addition to this it also means all education is impacted. That’s holiday clubs, after school clubs etc.

Many of the children with SEN in independent schools are financed by local authorities.

ScrollingLeaves · 07/06/2024 11:02

And someone living near Holland Park Comprehensive, to give one extreme example, who may be a millionaire, eating chicken and avocados from Waitrose, rather than a migrant or white working class boy in the North, is not ‘queue jumping’?

MyNameIsFine · 07/06/2024 11:01

Hoppinggreen · 07/06/2024 10:55

It is a very UK thing, its not envy exactly but an extreme form of "fairness". We don't think anyone should have an advantage - its a form of queue jumping and everyone knows how we feel about that.
We also don't like people "getting above their station"

An old one now, but I think still true.
American sees someone driving a flash car, thinks 'How can I earn enough to buy that?'
British person sees someone driving a flash car, thinks 'What a '
There are issues with both attitudes.

Hoppinggreen · 07/06/2024 10:55

Summerose · 07/06/2024 10:50

I wasn't born in the UK and so I just don't understand why people like you seem so envious of parents who choose to educate their children through the private school system.

And it makes such parents "entitled arseholes." You sound very bitter.

It is a very UK thing, its not envy exactly but an extreme form of "fairness". We don't think anyone should have an advantage - its a form of queue jumping and everyone knows how we feel about that.
We also don't like people "getting above their station"

Summerose · 07/06/2024 10:50

SadAct342 · 06/06/2024 21:16

And you wonder why its such a contentious topic.
For the record I can afford to send my children to Private school but I shudder at the thought that they would have to be surrounded by the offspring of such entitled arseholes.

I wasn't born in the UK and so I just don't understand why people like you seem so envious of parents who choose to educate their children through the private school system.

And it makes such parents "entitled arseholes." You sound very bitter.

Euromonkey · 07/06/2024 10:49

Just adding:

4 Choose to educate your children in another country

Euromonkey · 07/06/2024 10:39

ScrollingLeaves · 07/06/2024 08:55

There are many other countries which do not see it as ‘I’ll conceived’:
https://www.edchoice.org/school-choice/faqs/how-does-school-choice-work-in-other-countries/

Presumably the grandmother would still be able to pay for the school this way.

What you are describing as the ‘societal pot’ means the school fee payers, with children who are not taking up state school places, are effectively paying an extra form of tax. Now they will also be taxed VAT on this ‘societal’ voluntary contribution.

@ScrollingLeaves look there's many forms of policy or tax we might not personally like. For example, we pay corporation tax on our company profits and then when we draw dividends we pay personal tax on it too.

Just because we don't use a public service (for example the NHS) it doesn't mean we are entitled to money back on it. What would you do about people who don't have children and whose taxes also go into supporting state education to make it 'fairer' for them?

If people have children they can choose:

  1. to accept a state school place
  2. to pay the going rate for a private education service
  3. to home-school

I would just like to add that over 90% of children in this country go to state schools and many are thriving there and getting fantastic results, friendships and experiences. Of course with Government under-funding there are challenges but it's not the pit of despair that some private school parents seem to think it is!

MorvernBlack · 07/06/2024 10:31

CoralQueef · 06/06/2024 21:24

Tbh I agree, individuals will be fine (and are - our DD goes to a private school and we will just find the extra money)

The issue is the £60 million that local authorities will need to find since nearly 20,000 SEN pupils are in Independant schools as they’re not able to remain in mainstream education for a myriad of reasons.

The policy will cost more than it ‘makes’

In addition to this it also means all education is impacted. That’s holiday clubs, after school clubs etc.

Presumably pupils who are funded by local authorities will have an EHCP so will be exempt. Funded places are like hen's teeth, so I can't see any LAs offering them with out diagnoses and paperwork.

MyNameIsFine · 07/06/2024 10:27

Dulra · 07/06/2024 10:23

I think maybe one of the big differences is this:
figures released by the Department of Education showed €128m funding from the State last year to private schools. This funding pays teachers’ salaries and pays for special needs assistants.
Does the UK state contribute to teacher salaries? It is a massive issue here but it does mean the gulf between fee paying schools and state schools is no where near as big in Ireland as in the UK, and exam results show that. More often then not it is state schools that are topping the league tables of best schools.

Thanks for that information. Yes, I was wondering if perhaps the state even subsidises private to some extent - as education is highly valued. Also, your local state school is likely to be better because the parents want the kids to do well, so there isn't such a gap and not so much resentment over people able to afford private. The 'We don't need no education' is an English attitude that you don't find in Ireland or Scotland, or, in fact, most places in the world. But people are so insular, they don't realise how odd and self-defeating their attitudes actually are.

Dulra · 07/06/2024 10:23

MyNameIsFine · 07/06/2024 10:17

Difficult question to answer. They say it's because of recent changes in teacher pension schemes, plus just general inflation/rising costs of everything. Most schools are run by a board of governors that doesn't get paid anything, so there's no reason for them to raise the fees beyond what's necessary. It would be interesting to know what Ireland is doing differently, though. Education in general is more highly valued in Ireland and perhaps land is cheaper?

I think maybe one of the big differences is this:
figures released by the Department of Education showed €128m funding from the State last year to private schools. This funding pays teachers’ salaries and pays for special needs assistants.
Does the UK state contribute to teacher salaries? It is a massive issue here but it does mean the gulf between fee paying schools and state schools is no where near as big in Ireland as in the UK, and exam results show that. More often then not it is state schools that are topping the league tables of best schools.

thismummydrinksgin · 07/06/2024 10:21

Is this a duck you post to everyone that's expecting private school parents to pay 20% more. Feels like a ' we going to screw you back over' post. Newsflash you probably already are.

CammyChameleon · 07/06/2024 10:20

Of course the vast majority will be fine, it's what makes all the dummy-spitting on here so funny!

MyNameIsFine · 07/06/2024 10:17

Dulra · 07/06/2024 10:12

For those that send your kids to private school and are concerned about the proposed VAT increase on fees have you ever questioned why fee paying schools in the UK are so bloody expensive? My db is in the UK and his kids are in a private school. The fees are almost double what the most expensive fee paying school in Ireland is (€10,000 in Ireland), majority here are between €3k and 10k per annum. Surely this needs to be also questioned. Why are schools charging so much in the UK?

Difficult question to answer. They say it's because of recent changes in teacher pension schemes, plus just general inflation/rising costs of everything. Most schools are run by a board of governors that doesn't get paid anything, so there's no reason for them to raise the fees beyond what's necessary. It would be interesting to know what Ireland is doing differently, though. Education in general is more highly valued in Ireland and perhaps land is cheaper?

Dulra · 07/06/2024 10:12

For those that send your kids to private school and are concerned about the proposed VAT increase on fees have you ever questioned why fee paying schools in the UK are so bloody expensive? My db is in the UK and his kids are in a private school. The fees are almost double what the most expensive fee paying school in Ireland is (€10,000 in Ireland), majority here are between €3k and 10k per annum. Surely this needs to be also questioned. Why are schools charging so much in the UK?

Frazzledmum123 · 07/06/2024 09:56

I know its not reallythe point of the thread but seriously - 'Entitled arseholes', 'lower class oiks' - there some lovely people on this thread! Do you know what I choose not to do? Judge kids on how much money their parents make, or adults on how successful they are.
Op you may have meant your thread in a bit of a jokey way but seriously, with how much people are struggling right now it's pretty low to go on about how you will just spend you fortune on other things people cant afford instead. Similarly, assuming everyone who send their kids to private school are entitled twats really does just scream jealousy.
For the record I'd say I'm in the middle, we probably couldn't afford private school but I know some of the most generous, wonderful people who do. Thankfully we aren't overly struggling either but know people that are and would still give you their last penny to help. I prefer to judge people on how they treat others and hope my kids are the same regardless of their friends wealth

ilikecatsandponies · 07/06/2024 09:30

MyKidsAreTooNoisy · 06/06/2024 21:07

Not quite sure what the point of this thread is, or what makes it special compared to all the others. But your comment about how private schools are scheming to find a way round the tax tells you a lot about these ‘charitable’ institutions…

My kids don't go to private school. I have no skin in the game. As a charity trustee you are obliged to do the best thing for the beneficiaries of the charity which would include maximising the charity's financial resources. It's unlikely that HMRC is a beneficiary of any of the charities. Who is a beneficiary should be defined in the individual charity's governing document and they should discuss that in their publicly available accounts.
Tax planning is done by many individuals and organisations. Personally I avoid tax by paying into my pension, keeping my savings in an ISA and using gift aid when I donate to charity. I also claim my legitimate business expenses on my tax return.
If government wants to prevent these actions it's up to them to draft legislation to do so, such as by stopping landlords claiming certain expenses.

TakeOnFlea · 07/06/2024 09:25

🤣 I could afford to send my kids anywhere, but I don't. I always think those that do are a bit simple and the OP is proving my point.

ScrollingLeaves · 07/06/2024 09:23

SherrieElmer · 07/06/2024 09:10

I agree with OP. They will fine and those who won't deserve their misery for pretending to be rich.

What nastiness.

Hoppinggreen · 07/06/2024 09:22

Screamingabdabz · 06/06/2024 22:15

Ah at last…a private school parent who is actually honest about why they really choose it. We already knew the cuntish reasons and vile bigoted values being modelled to the poor kids but glad at least some of you are owning it. Well done.

Or maybe I was being Ironic?

ScrollingLeaves · 07/06/2024 09:21

Piddypigeon · 07/06/2024 07:33

tbh, there is so much poverty in this country. I am sick and tired of these wealthy pampered clowns pleading poverty over the Vat issue. Of course the majority will be fine and those who really cannot afford it will have to make do with state schools like the rest of us.

Re, “The rest of ‘us” not paying school fees but using state resources to attend state schools:

There are lots of “us” not sending children to private schools who are privileged in so many ways from the food “we” eat, the professions “we” are in, the level of education “we” enjoy, including being able to fund tutors for our children, the savings bank-tax-free houses we are in, in good school areas / from cradle to grave - which all mark “us” out as advantaged. “Pampered” whatever we think.

Just try living in a grammar school area in Kent!

Maybe some of “the rest of us” should all be paying some fees, dependant on higher incomes, to make nurseries and schools in poorer areas much better, and all schools better for everyone. (Rather than depending on the ‘societal pot’ provided by private school parents not taking up state school funding which a previous poster mentioned, and now proposing VAT in addition.)

Whether or not people go on to pay VAT for private education, your “pampered clowns” post is just nasty.

The poorest children will still be at a disadvantage on so many levels right from when they are born.

KnittedCardi · 07/06/2024 09:11

Loads of spaces in schools? It must be very area dependent. Secondary schools here are all oversubscribed. Yes, there is one "in measures" school I am sure has places, but would you want your child going there, whether they currently go to private or state, I can guarantee you wouldn't.

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