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Bluewhitered · 06/06/2024 21:04

I’ve seen lots of threads on this topic recently. It would be great to have it’s own section so those who want to chat about it with fellow parents , can without an argument.

But private school parents and their children!! We will be just fine. There’s so much smugness and bitterness and hate coming from people who think it’s great the VAT will be added and force some out. In fact I don’t disagree - add VAT on ! Great, and then we can take either our state places up … win win we have more money to spend on holidays, deposits for houses for our kids, private tutors, extra cirricular activities etc and we can probably move to better areas with the outstanding state schools or OR we pay it it we can afford to keep our children there.

On some of the independent school committees they are working out how to charge the fees differently so the actual fees we will pay 20% on are low and the rest of the money is on stuff that’s exempt from VAT. They are also looking at changing the nature of the schools so the children get their state education allowance and then pay extras on top- like you would nursery extras.

The chance of labour implementing it is low. There are solicitors looking at it now and whether they can change the law to allow it.

So either way we’re not in a bad position - as most of the threads argue we are the wealthiest in The UK- some can’t afford food bills etc so we are incredibly lucky to have choice and it is true we must have money to
even contemplate spending £25k on each child in school.

OP posts:
SherrieElmer · 07/06/2024 09:10

I agree with OP. They will fine and those who won't deserve their misery for pretending to be rich.

AmelieTaylor · 07/06/2024 08:58

oberst · 07/06/2024 07:10

Because some of us aren't wealthy who send our kids to private schools and by moving them to state could have a detrimental effect and impact on our children. I am hoping that his school will help, they've not said too much yet.

@oberst

i hope the school does it's very best to minimise the impact on your fees. It's people like you who I feel very sorry for. I hope you can keep DS in his school!

ScrollingLeaves · 07/06/2024 08:55

Euromonkey · 07/06/2024 08:23

My post from 1.10 explains that it’s not how tax works, we don’t put in the same or ‘draw’ out the same - it provides a societal pot.

Your ill-conceived suggestion above would benefit the wealthiest private school parents and penalise parents like the poster above where the school contributes 70% and the grandmother 30% - way to go 👏

There are many other countries which do not see it as ‘I’ll conceived’:
https://www.edchoice.org/school-choice/faqs/how-does-school-choice-work-in-other-countries/

Presumably the grandmother would still be able to pay for the school this way.

What you are describing as the ‘societal pot’ means the school fee payers, with children who are not taking up state school places, are effectively paying an extra form of tax. Now they will also be taxed VAT on this ‘societal’ voluntary contribution.

How does school choice work in other countries?

School choice supporters often wonder how such programs work in other countries. This FAQ pulls together the information on this question.

https://www.edchoice.org/school-choice/faqs/how-does-school-choice-work-in-other-countries/

JanefromLondon1 · 07/06/2024 08:23

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Euromonkey · 07/06/2024 08:23

notbelieved · 07/06/2024 07:34

How about we put VAT on fees but allow those parents who keep their child in the private school a tax break to the tune of the exact same amount the state pays for a child in the state system? They could only be given it if they are paying more than that in tax from their day jobs (not avoiding it through self employment, for example). That would be fair to both sides of this argument, surely?

My post from 1.10 explains that it’s not how tax works, we don’t put in the same or ‘draw’ out the same - it provides a societal pot.

Your ill-conceived suggestion above would benefit the wealthiest private school parents and penalise parents like the poster above where the school contributes 70% and the grandmother 30% - way to go 👏

Tortiemiaw · 07/06/2024 07:46

Chickenuggetsticks · 06/06/2024 23:02

We aren’t in the Uk but if it were me I’d be just looking at a grammar schools (tbf, I’d have applied to grammar if I was in the Uk anyway). I expect more competition for catchment property and grammar school places. Of course it won’t affect the state school Starmers’s kids are going to because you need a few mill to live in that catchment area. The hypocrisy there is mind-blowing.

Yep, the house he bought years ago before areas became wealthy and gentrified.

Our house is a bog standard 3 bed in what was, when we moved here, a pretty normal area. 20 plus years on, it's worth about 6 times what we paid for it and is near the most sought after state school in the city - which it certainly wasn't when we moved here.

People could accuse us, as a left-wing family of being 'champagne socialists'

Don't people understand about areas changing?

notbelieved · 07/06/2024 07:34

How about we put VAT on fees but allow those parents who keep their child in the private school a tax break to the tune of the exact same amount the state pays for a child in the state system? They could only be given it if they are paying more than that in tax from their day jobs (not avoiding it through self employment, for example). That would be fair to both sides of this argument, surely?

Piddypigeon · 07/06/2024 07:33

tbh, there is so much poverty in this country. I am sick and tired of these wealthy pampered clowns pleading poverty over the Vat issue. Of course the majority will be fine and those who really cannot afford it will have to make do with state schools like the rest of us.

MyNameIsFine · 07/06/2024 07:33

Sk1lark · 07/06/2024 07:03

Bullying happens everywhere, in all schools(even private) and can happen in the work place. Not sure what relevance this has to VAT on private schools.

It has to do with the issue of how we sort out the problems in state schools - which is the issue, right? The government has been tackling bullying in the workplace because the number of people suffering from stress is costing the economy, and, ultimately, costing the government in lost tax revenue and paying out sick benefits. Child mental health services are overwhelmed. So, if one family has found a solution so that their child can be a well adjusted member of society, why knock it?

flamesdancing · 07/06/2024 07:17

I’m not in this position but I know several parents with children in private school. Obviously I don’t know the fine details of their financial situation but they’re all clearly very wealthy and I’d be surprised if they can’t swallow the extra fees TBH.

For those who really can’t, finding a place at a state school shouldn’t be a massive issue either, especially at primary level. Many schools in the area are undersubscribed and talking about closing or reducing classes per year. All good and outstanding rated as well.

oberst · 07/06/2024 07:10

Because some of us aren't wealthy who send our kids to private schools and by moving them to state could have a detrimental effect and impact on our children. I am hoping that his school will help, they've not said too much yet.

Sk1lark · 07/06/2024 07:03

MyNameIsFine · 07/06/2024 07:00

Some of them won't be fine, and some of them will be OK, but they won't reach their potential. It's not just the government that needs to sort this out. How about parents teach their children not to bully people?

Bullying happens everywhere, in all schools(even private) and can happen in the work place. Not sure what relevance this has to VAT on private schools.

MyNameIsFine · 07/06/2024 07:00

Sk1lark · 07/06/2024 06:54

As do all the parents of bullied SEN kids who use state schools and who form a massive majority. Our children cope, yours will too.

It doesn’t stop charging VAT on private education being the right thing to do.

Some of them won't be fine, and some of them will be OK, but they won't reach their potential. It's not just the government that needs to sort this out. How about parents teach their children not to bully people?

Sk1lark · 07/06/2024 06:54

oberst · 07/06/2024 01:40

Not really. My son attends the local private school. He got bullied at our local state to the point he was self harming and then wanted to kill himself. He has SEN, but not 'enough' to go to a special school. The funding for children with SEN is non existent.

He receives a 70% bursary and my mum helps for the 30%. I am extremely lucky and forever grateful. I am also absolutely terrified of him going back to a state school where he was physically and mentally bullied daily.

He now thrives and I think if I told him he was going back to state school (he went to three, before pulling him out to go to the private school) he would turn back to the anxious and self harming child he was before.

We aren't all rich tories. I just want my son to be safe.

As do all the parents of bullied SEN kids who use state schools and who form a massive majority. Our children cope, yours will too.

It doesn’t stop charging VAT on private education being the right thing to do.

oberst · 07/06/2024 01:40

Not really. My son attends the local private school. He got bullied at our local state to the point he was self harming and then wanted to kill himself. He has SEN, but not 'enough' to go to a special school. The funding for children with SEN is non existent.

He receives a 70% bursary and my mum helps for the 30%. I am extremely lucky and forever grateful. I am also absolutely terrified of him going back to a state school where he was physically and mentally bullied daily.

He now thrives and I think if I told him he was going back to state school (he went to three, before pulling him out to go to the private school) he would turn back to the anxious and self harming child he was before.

We aren't all rich tories. I just want my son to be safe.

Naran · 07/06/2024 01:28

CluelessInBognor · 06/06/2024 23:10

I'm in the funny position that I've always been totally against private schooling till my dd was absolutely miserable in her state school. She couldn't deal with the large class size and lots of kids were unkind to her. We panicked. Obviously we threw out all our values hoping that we could buy her a more pleasant day with the disposable income we had then. I still am against the idea of private schools. All schools should be free and of decent quality. I also don't like lots of things about dd's private school but she's happy there.

We will struggle with the increased fees. Her school increase the fees anyway by upto 10% every year and they have already said that if labour comes into power they will increase by 20% again. Our fees are about 12k at the moment so even if lots of kids leave the school will be able to fill the seats with kids leaving more expensive schools and joining ours. So the school isn't worried and they obviously just care about their bottom line and not individual families.

I'd love to go back to one of our local state schools but it's not as easy as that. Unless you join in reception it's almost impossible to get a seat later. There are two decent primary state schools close to us but both already have a long waiting list.

And then dd is going to join secondary soon anyway and I really don't want her to go to any of the secondaries in our little town. From what I've heard racism and bullying are a massive problem and we aren't white.

So I don't know what to do. If we had known that there was a chance of fees going up massively we probably would have moved dd to the other state school rather than private. Now that she's settled in her school and considering how hard it is to actually get a place it's not that easy to move her out.

We will manage because we are lucky ajd privileged enough to manage but it still sucks especially since I still have to vote Labour. In the long run shooting myself in the foot is still better than another conservative government.

You could vote lib dem instead

Euromonkey · 07/06/2024 01:27

@Bluewhitered We chatted and some said they’re happy to leave their job and do the school runs instead at state schools as they can no longer continue working.

In all honesty do you think the parents of the 93% of children at state schools gave up their jobs in order to do school runs? Isn't it more likely that state school working parents use breakfast and afterschool clubs and / or childminders.

Euromonkey · 07/06/2024 01:10

Bluewhitered · 06/06/2024 23:52

Yes - lots of other westernised counties and those in the EU will not put VAT on their school fees for private schools. It’ll just do what has happened with businesses who won’t register in the UK and pay tax as there’s better tax breaks aboard so they register off shore. Same could happen- England won’t attract people to the country due the increase - better value to educate their children in non VAT paying countries.

I only agree with it if we get our state education funding from the government. At the moment it ofsets the VAT but as soon as it’s added then we would be paying twice . I can’t see it not being fought high up with lots of legalities stopping it being implemented.

Private schools may infact recruit more overseas students if they have less domestic students applying. 20% more is not going to make a lot of difference to affluent people who want the prestige of a UK education for their children, in fact, the more expensive, the more exclusive, so it's unlikely to be a major deterrent.

Your argument is fatuous @Bluewhitered as your DC are entitled to a state school place, if you choose to pay for the service elsewhere it does not entitle you to a rebate. Just as people without children don't get a rebate for their contribution in tax when not using the state school system. I don't have an NHS dentist but I don't expect the NHS to rebate my dentistry costs. Providing state education benefits us all as a society, not least in providing the future workforce that we will all need to rely on.

I appreciate you don't want to pay more for the private education service you have chosen (let's face it, nobody welcomes an increased bill ) but Mumsnet is full of threads going over the same ground ad nauseum.

GreenTeaLikesMe · 07/06/2024 00:54

Some private schools might even end up becoming mainly or entirely about afterschool tutoring classes, extracurric and enhanced holiday care, topping up the educations of those using state schools who want something a bit extra.

Whether any of this actually improves or worsens social mobility is a difficult question. But the sector itself will "mostly" do fine, is my hunch. Some schools will close, but that was always going to happen anyway, given demographic trends.

GreenTeaLikesMe · 07/06/2024 00:52

In all seriousness, I think the VAT thing might not be a bad thing for private-school-using parents long-term, as it seems to have focused schools' minds a bit more on frugality and seperating-out what parents genuinely do and do not want to pay for.

I think we will see schools breaking up what they do into segments - basic tuition offers on which VAT is levied, and then extracurriculars and wraparound care and extras, which should escape VAT - and parents will have more freedom to pick and choose from what they want, and more of these extras will be made available to state school parents as well (for fees, rather than free of charge). In other words, schools will probably start behaving more like businesses than charitable foundations.

Ozanj · 07/06/2024 00:48

L1ttledrummergirl · 07/06/2024 00:18

Removing your dc from private education is fine, it's your choice.

Expecting them to walk into a place at the best school near you is unrealistic, these are the ones that are full.

There are plenty of spaces available in state schools though.

Some areas have changed waiting lists to prioritise kids from private school. I live near 3 LAs who expanded catchments of outstanding schools into deprived areas (and of course ratings dropped) and now want to reverse the decision to take in the private school kids. There’s even serious discussion about making all out of catchment pupils (even existing ones) reapply for their places next year.

I wonder how long it will be before other LAs do this.

Also, a Hindu organisation wants to set up a private school that only charges £3k a year. If that happens and they get the funding of ISKON and BAPs it’s game over for the entire private school sector in the county.

CluelessInBognor · 07/06/2024 00:35

L1ttledrummergirl · 07/06/2024 00:18

Removing your dc from private education is fine, it's your choice.

Expecting them to walk into a place at the best school near you is unrealistic, these are the ones that are full.

There are plenty of spaces available in state schools though.

Yes but it's different joining at reception or later.

Most people will get into the school in their catchment area if they join in reception. If people had known they might not have gone private in the first place. It's quite difficult to leave after reception especially if your child is reasonably settled in their private school.

L1ttledrummergirl · 07/06/2024 00:18

Removing your dc from private education is fine, it's your choice.

Expecting them to walk into a place at the best school near you is unrealistic, these are the ones that are full.

There are plenty of spaces available in state schools though.

CurlsnSunshinetime4tea · 07/06/2024 00:02

there's a bit of a financial crunch happening everywhere so many are feeling the pinch.
education in the uk seems to be very variable from community to community and even within communities.
and i don't think i have read any posts where a majority of parents are pleased with the special needs provisions and deterrent policies for antisocial behavior.
so right now i think it's an easy one to attack.
meanwhile grammar school parents who according to research captures a similar demographic are keeping their head low or feeling very smug that their child is attending a state school (with a very private like feel and population).

ScrollingLeaves · 06/06/2024 23:57

Chickenuggetsticks · 06/06/2024 23:02

We aren’t in the Uk but if it were me I’d be just looking at a grammar schools (tbf, I’d have applied to grammar if I was in the Uk anyway). I expect more competition for catchment property and grammar school places. Of course it won’t affect the state school Starmers’s kids are going to because you need a few mill to live in that catchment area. The hypocrisy there is mind-blowing.

Did you know that very few regions in the U.K. have grammar schools?