DH wants to Move us all to NZ…

'living life on the edge' means I'm not going to be getting myself in a tizzy over what Putin might get up to. Sorry if that bothers you.

you think the UK is doomed. you're happy to be in NZ.

And I'd rather be in the UK than NZ.

We're both happy.

Oh, so no actual answer then. OK.

a big mug of camomile tea and you'll be right as rain.

no need to worry your head about bombs headed our way.

And, believe me, sleepy is idyllic indeed. And WTF does "living life on the edge" actually mean?

"Highly strung" forsooth. You don't know me, darling...has the UK fallen so far as to disallow opinion without ad hominem attacks?

That’s quite rude.
I think sleepy sounds idyllic actually.

maybe we'd rather live life on the edge, rather than living in sleepy NZ with highly strung types like you.

I can't believe the number of people in Britain who are sleepwalking into disaster. Do you really think that Putin is going to simply take the Ukraine and sit down, saying..."that's all I wanted, thanks"? A tactical nuke at the very least. the Baltic States...what then? Sorry, but we are indeed in the days of 1938. And I'd much rather be here in the South Pacific, where we can at least feed ourselves. There must be a reason why so much of our choice land is now owned by Americans fleeing the coming storm.

Knowing if you do want to leave, it will be without your child(ren) unless your husband gives permission for them to leave the country and if he leaves you, you might get kicked out of the country when the children become adults whether you want to leave them or not (depending on your visa).

it is if its not polished 😂

OP what’s the discussion with husband been like in terms of what happens if you decide you don’t want to go? How has he responded to that option ? His reply to that will be quite telling. Would he accept it graciously and your marriage continue on as normal in the uk? Is there a chance he might become resentful of having to give up the job offer ? Is there a chance he may go anyway even if you say you won’t go with the children? How did he come to have a job offer without this being pre discussed ?

i would pay a lot if attention to how he is communicating as unless your marriage is rock solid - and even if it is- I would be very wary of putting yourself in a position where you become his dependant overseas. Having a power imbalance away from your friends and family and support network would be a concern.

It's a huge move to make on a whim. Maybe he could go and work. If he found it okay after about 6 months then I would seriously think about it but not before. The brass isn't always greener on the other side.

It’s an amazing opportunity for all of you

...to be completely dependent on someone who is showing worrying signs of mental instability.

Why not try it? It’s an amazing opportunity for all of you. Keep your house in Uk and rent it out. Rent in NZ till you know if you want to stay

Op I'm from a country where a lot of people leave to live somewhere else. And I'm on a TON of groups where people speak of their real life experience. One of the top 3 places that people seem to be returning in droves from is NZ. If you really want actual, real life experiences join a FB group and chat to people on there.

This ,100%

I am goggle eyed that anybody thinks life in New Zealand revolves around the church. I think our local vicar would perform satanic rituals if he could get people into pews. And, no there isn't some happy clappy New Age one packing them in either.

Compromise (if its possible)
Agree to go for the great opportunity, but have an exit strategy in case you need to come back for whatever reason.

I would hop onto a couple of community pages for the district he is thinking of moving you all to, as well as read on line newspapers ( and the comments).

We have family who have left NZ for Australia and won’t be back. We are considering going as soon as the property market picks up and interest rates drop (ours are currently 6.79%).

there’s still impact here from the war (fert and grain prices). There’s upset because some are unhappy with the voted change in Govt. Trying to get in to see a GP is hopeless. Rent and food are expensive.

A number of international companies have pulled out look at granting operating licenses to agencies. Does you DH’s employer have any data on how successful their operation is in NZ? Is it likely they will cease trading here?

It's not particularly humid where I live -thank goodness! I can cope up to 40C, as long as I can go home to the air con. 😅

Then he can go. The fact op has never been to NZ and supposed to agree to this is so weird. She has family and her support system here, it's not her being unfair to the partner wanting to move.

A few 'too hot' weeks in there for me due to humidity. I'm now in Australia and find the heat and cold have a very different quality to NZ heat and cold. I'm very much a spring and autumn person, though don't mind a few days of high heat every now and then.

January to May is my favourite time of year, hot and sunny in summer, warm and sunny in autumn.

Fair enough. November is the month I always looked forward to. Not too hot but starting to get to lovely outdoor weather.

The poster I was replying to was talking about late November - in other words almost summer - temperatures, not winter!

Of course we have frosts in winter, but it is not cold every single night, and we don't have anything like the frosts we used to get btw.