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To not want to do today

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dontwannadotoday · 06/06/2024 06:42

I have my children with me.

God that’s such a horrible comment … They are actually lovely kids but both of them together are a nightmare. One is three and a half and one is 11 months. Individually they aren’t hard. Together … my god. The baby clings to me. I am a human climbing frame. If I stay still for a moment she starts grabbing me and trying to climb. Prising her off isn’t easy.

They won’t leave one another alone. 3 year old is in the baby’s face all the time which knocks her off balance as she’s trying to stand and cruise using furniture, she grabs at his face and hair which makes him whinge but he won’t actually stop getting in her face. She touches one of his toys and it’s outrage.

The baby is really fighting her afternoon nap. You can get her down but it takes a good ten minutes and even with TV downstairs the 3 year old follows me ‘mummy, mummy, mummy’ so she doesn’t nap. By the end of the day she’s horrendously grumpy, the 3 year old is manic and playing up as has been ignored and I hate it all.

ugh. I feel awful as they are lovely. But not together.

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WineIsMyMainVice · 06/06/2024 07:12

It’s so hard at that age. It will get easier though. Good luck with today. xx

dontwannadotoday · 06/06/2024 07:11

She needs two naps a day. One will probably be on the way back from the group. Ideally then I’d get her down for the afternoon one and do something nice with DS but he won’t stop following me 😫 so getting her to sleep is always nearly impossible. Car naps are short - too short, so she’s grumpy and overtired at the end of the day and very very demanding which then has a knock on effect on DS as he gets ignored so starts playing up.

Individually they’re lovely. Together they exhaust me.

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Mrsjayy · 06/06/2024 07:10

Are they up yet ? Are you just grabbing some peace before the madness begins.

Mrsjayy · 06/06/2024 07:08

dontwannadotoday · 06/06/2024 07:04

DS goes to nursery three days a week but I have them both Tuesdays and Thursdays. I hate those days. There are loads of groups and activities on first thing but then the rest of the day drags 😫

Ah ok are you at groups this morning when is the nap due can she have it in the car and you can have your son upfront with you and you can watch some cartoons or something go park up somewhere

dontwannadotoday · 06/06/2024 07:08

I don’t want the three year old to nap though - that’s the problem! As then bedtime takes hours. So I have to find somewhere far enough away for the baby to sleep but not so far away the three year old will nap!

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Ceebs85 · 06/06/2024 07:04

I had two kids with a 14 month gap and would often just drive to give them both a nap in the car (sorry planet)

Can your 3yr old be left in a room with a baby gate for 10 mins while you get the baby to nap?

dontwannadotoday · 06/06/2024 07:04

DS goes to nursery three days a week but I have them both Tuesdays and Thursdays. I hate those days. There are loads of groups and activities on first thing but then the rest of the day drags 😫

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Mrsjayy · 06/06/2024 06:56

That sounds tough Is the 3 year old in nursery at all ? What are your plans for today can you take them out early so it doesn't escalate.

TheBottomsOfMyTrousersAreRolled · 06/06/2024 06:50

It sounds like you need a plan of what you are doing with them for the full day. They need stimulation, play, games, attention from you.

what are their activities for the day? What does your day look like? If you do not leave the house, it will be worse.

Pennyandolive · 06/06/2024 06:46

Can you go out somewhere for the day? I used to find days in the house so much harder. Would the younger one nap in the car on a journey back from somewhere and the. You could transfer her inside?

I also used to make a little timetable in my head with activities in the house and give up on any expectation of being productive with chores etc.

it’s so hard when they’re little.

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