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To feel uncomfortable in working class pubs as a woman of colour?

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Dreamsaregood · 05/06/2024 22:23

Just that really. I walked in and immediately got heckled by a (presumably) drunk man. Why did this man think this is ok?

I felt really uncomfortable after that and he continued to stare at me every time I walked past. It ruined my evening, and to be honest I felt a little threatened being the only woman of colour in my group.

AIBU to think very carefully before agreeing to meet up in certain places (local pubs etc)?

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QuacketyQuack · 05/06/2024 22:45

Are you all attempting to dismiss how this Man made her feel? I don't think any of you realise how hard it can be as a person of colour in a predominantly white area/place.
How rude!
OP, yes it most likely could have been because if your colour. Unfortunately it probably was. It must have been difficult for you , and yes sometimes you may have to think about where you socialise in future

FakeMiddleton · 05/06/2024 22:41

HumanRightsAreHumanRights · 05/06/2024 22:38

I feel uncomfortable in working class pubs as a woman full stop.

This

HumanRightsAreHumanRights · 05/06/2024 22:38

I feel uncomfortable in working class pubs as a woman full stop.

mitogoshi · 05/06/2024 22:37

You could have stopped at woman - there's still unfortunately a certain kind of bar that's very uncomfortable if you are female, especially not accompanied by a man. I find they usually have large TVs and England flags, I avoid.

We have amazing pubs where I live but there's one that has the white working class vibe and I avoid! Thankfully my local is a melting pot, there's people from all walks of life and many ethnicities all enjoying each other's company.

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Dreamsaregood · 05/06/2024 22:35

Harara · 05/06/2024 22:26

I’m sorry you experienced that. Did he reference race in his heckling? Or was it more that you sensed that was the underlying motivation?

No he didn't make any comment re: race but I did feel this was the reason he addressed me, this local pub is in a very working class white area (it is where I grew up) where I would say it is very unusual for a WOC to walk in on her own

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Harara · 05/06/2024 22:26

I’m sorry you experienced that. Did he reference race in his heckling? Or was it more that you sensed that was the underlying motivation?