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Car accident

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pinklite · 05/06/2024 22:16

I had my first car accident today after 7 years of driving. I was driving straight through at a junction (my light was obviously on green) and another car that was turning right at the junction came speeding round, didn't stop and crashed into me. I swerved to try to avoid him but he was going so fast that I couldn't, so my passenger side took the brunt of it where my 3 month old was. Also had my 5 year old in the car. The other driver is also trying to claim I'm at fault so I think this is going to be difficult going forward.

Just absolutely terrifying and I can't get it out of my head. Not to mention I'm aching all over and feel terrible. Had the worst headache all day, probably due to the stress.

How do I get past this? I'm terrified to get into a car in case it happens again. I've been trying to sleep but I can't. I'm now also without a car and I won't be able to get a new one. I feel so gutted as my son has autism and car journeys are his favourite Sad it's all just so sad and depressing. The only huge positive I can take is that we are all alive and not seriously injured.

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Guavafish1 · 05/06/2024 22:49

Very sorry for your experience. its very scary when such an accident occurs with your kids in the back.

I think it will take time and kindness towards yourself after life or death event.

My friend was too an equally confident driver. I think she only did short journeys and not motorway for the first year post accident.

EagleEyeRock · 05/06/2024 22:48

What makes you think the other driver is making out you're at fault?

somethingwickedlivesnextdoor · 05/06/2024 22:46

I'm so sorry this happened to you. Did the other driver go through a red light?

Definitely get back driving ASAP. Do you have a dash cam? They've might give you more confidence- that if some idiot drives like a loon you have it on tape!

Are your dc ok?

pinklite · 05/06/2024 22:43

Guavafish1 · 05/06/2024 22:42

my friend had similar experience.... its took her time to get her driving confidence again.

But now she is driving again

I was a confident driver before this and nothing really phased me, but now it worries me knowing I'm not in control of what other people do on the road

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Guavafish1 · 05/06/2024 22:42

my friend had similar experience.... its took her time to get her driving confidence again.

But now she is driving again

pinklite · 05/06/2024 22:41

stonebrambleboy · 05/06/2024 22:40

I think feeling terrible and having a headache is perfectly normal in the circumstances, you've had an awful shock. Thank God the children are ok. Did the police attend?
You must get behind the wheel as soon as possible, the longer you leave it the harder it will be to conquer your fear. I hope you can get some rest tonight.

Yes the police did attend but they didn't seem too interested really, just told us to go through the insurance which obviously we have done

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DuckEggy · 05/06/2024 22:41

I expect the insurance company will be able to see you weren't at fault. Have you got photos of your car's damage, their damage if poss, and a picture of the road and markings?

Can you do something to distract you - watch something silly on YouTube or play a game on your phone.

Such a shame 💐

stonebrambleboy · 05/06/2024 22:40

I think feeling terrible and having a headache is perfectly normal in the circumstances, you've had an awful shock. Thank God the children are ok. Did the police attend?
You must get behind the wheel as soon as possible, the longer you leave it the harder it will be to conquer your fear. I hope you can get some rest tonight.

pinklite · 05/06/2024 22:36

Is anybody up to talk? Can't sleep Sad

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