To sleep with a 23 year old?

Bollocks. I'm 40 this year and I think I'm still attractive. I think I could get a 23 year old to shag me, men aren't fussy anyway. It doesn't make you special. I just wouldn't want to. It's weird. If the sexes were reversed it would be just as grim.

Posters finding lots of reasons to judge here (unsurprisingly).

You’re both adults. If you both want to do it, I’d go ahead!

It does seem slightly off to see so many posters telling OP he’s doing it for a bet. Tbh it smacks of jealousy. It’s perfectly possible for the guy to just fancy OP! As a pp said, is it so absurd for a woman in her 40s to be sufficiently attractive just in and of herself, rather as some novelty item or weird fetish?

And whilst some are anxious that he’s wielding some sort of power in that way (giggling ‘down the pub’ with his mates), others are worrying that she’s holding some sort of power over him and would be ‘taking advantage’. The mind boggles.

So many reasons to find fault with an attractive, sexually confident woman in her 40s having enjoyable, consenting sex with someone slightly outside the Pearl Clutcher’s Handbook of Acceptable Sexual Partners! It’s depressing.

You're both adults, if you're both consenting that's fine imo.
Too young for me but each to their own!

Probably a fetish for him to shag an older woman, I don't think there is anything wrong with it if you know it won't be anything more and don't lead him on. Some men have mummy issues like women have daddy issues.

A guy I'm seeing was telling me he had a bad relationship with his mum and at 17/18 he used to seek women in their late 20s

I dont think its creepy as such, you are both consenting adults. It only feels creepy if he makes you feel the age gap and you feel awkward. If you are with him on a date and hes all 'your gorge' or i think you got 'rizz' (my adult DD's talk who's 19) id be like erm no and running for the hills lol. There is that generational gap there and if it blatantly shows, it would just feel all too weird. Even if it was for the one off, id be making my excuses and leaving.

nasty, but many men would do it if it was the other way; and I'd think they were grim too. It's up to you though, nothing illegal.

no 1 cares.

Old enough to be his mother - that would be a no from me, but if that doesn’t bother you then go for it!

Sounds great tbh. For a just sex thing, I would have though someone in the prime of their life, with everything that goes with it, would be ideal?

If it were me, I might get a bit embarrassed if people I knew around the school gates or whatever knew. But I'm on the socially anxious side. If no-one finds out, or you're less of a people pleaser than me, it's definitely no worse "morally" than having a random shag with some old geezer with a bad back!

Eeeewww.

Neither the OP or the guy she's referring to, are under 18???

I think OP's fully aware that it's 'up to her' but she can still ask for advice!

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I wouldn’t, but he’s legal. So do what you like.

(and mine is younger than I am by seven years!)

Oh blimey, for some reason I interpreted when you said "Ye" as that meme "Yee" that was going round a couple of years ago... I now realise that you just meant an abbreviation of "yes" in a kind of youth-speak way (God, that makes me appear old even though I'm 43 😂😒😳)

Here I was wrongly thinking I felt young by knowing what a slang term used by young people was... and of course, being a middle aged woman, I got it bloody wrong 😂😳😂

I'll find the 'yee" meme and post it for a chuckle...😂

I can see the OP getting lots of offers. At 51 I am more in demand than I ever was at 21!

Women of a certain age and personality are a bit more "up yours!" at life and that is attractive.

But 23 would be a step too far at your age. I have always personally gone for ten years older than my eldest child, anything younger would be wrong for me.

Un-clutch those pearls.

i wouldn't expect to live happily ever after (but you never know you might), but i doubt it.

Crack on, you are both consenting adults, personally its yukky for me, i have kids older than that! but fill your boots

Disgusting

YOLO babe 😘 why not? If you're attracted to him and him to you, what's the problem x

I feel like people on this thread don’t know any 23-year old dudes

I’ve done the apps and at 55 I’ve been inundated with horny 20 somethings messaging asking if I’m interested in younger men - usually telling me such charming chat up lines as the size of their dick. I roll my eyes and delete - not interested in being a box tick and a bar anecdote about who shagged the oldest MILF.

Why specifically older women? For it to be noticeable older, a generational (at least one) gap and for that to be a fetish for a man, of course it’s a red flag. It’s always concerning when a man has a specific sexual want outside of the typical. Usually it’s because he’s the type that sees women as walking sex toys rather than actual people.

‘Sleep with’ isn’t twee at all you complete weirdo 😂