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To sleep with a 23 year old?

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Possomoppossum · 05/06/2024 18:46

Given that I am 42,he knows full well how old I am,we met on a dating site where he wanted to meet older women.ok or creepy age gap?

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LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 06/06/2024 23:03

StarlightLady · 06/06/2024 22:14

There are 24 years between President Macron and his wife.

So?

PyongyangKipperbang · 06/06/2024 23:01

BernardBlacksBreakfastWine · 06/06/2024 22:51

I’d been suspecting for some time that it was mums of boys who were being squeamish here. This seems to confirm that.

Just because your son is still a baby to you doesn’t mean 23 year-old men are actually not adults capable of leading their own lives and making their own decisions about sex!

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I have sons and daughters, and if my DD said she was seeing a 42 year old man I would be equally as horrified.

She is old enough to be his mum and that is the ICK factor for me. If the Op was a man who had posted this "he" would have been roundly blasted. That the OP is a woman doesnt mean that there isnt a power imbalance and that its not ok.

T1Dmama · 06/06/2024 23:00

Summersunseas · 06/06/2024 22:55

A work colleague who divorced recently said she'd never date a man who could be mistaken for her son.

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Not sure this is a dating thing…. Rather than just pure sex

T1Dmama · 06/06/2024 22:59

He’s a consenting adult!

if it was the other way round and a man dating a younger woman he’d get a Pat on the back!

Summersunseas · 06/06/2024 22:55

Possomoppossum · 05/06/2024 18:46

Given that I am 42,he knows full well how old I am,we met on a dating site where he wanted to meet older women.ok or creepy age gap?

A work colleague who divorced recently said she'd never date a man who could be mistaken for her son.

QueenBitch666 · 06/06/2024 22:54

Go for it 👍

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 06/06/2024 22:53

Possomoppossum · 05/06/2024 18:46

Given that I am 42,he knows full well how old I am,we met on a dating site where he wanted to meet older women.ok or creepy age gap?

Creepy, gross, and wrong on every level. Why on earth does a 23 year old want to sleep with a 42 year old? Confused

BernardBlacksBreakfastWine · 06/06/2024 22:51

MissingMoominMamma · 06/06/2024 22:41

It’s up to the pair of you.

I wouldn’t, personally, but I have sons 🤷‍♀️.

I’d been suspecting for some time that it was mums of boys who were being squeamish here. This seems to confirm that.

Just because your son is still a baby to you doesn’t mean 23 year-old men are actually not adults capable of leading their own lives and making their own decisions about sex!

brunettemic · 06/06/2024 22:49

Shag him if you want, it’s your life. As long as it’s fully consensual and nobody is being coerced or manipulated then why not?

FuckTheClubUp · 06/06/2024 22:47

Don’t you have any friends to speak about things like this with? I think coming to a discussion forum to ask whether you should have sex with someone that is X age is rather odd. This is the kind of thing that you mention to a good friend no?

exaltedwombat · 06/06/2024 22:46

What is WRONG with you lot? She gets a male with a stiff p lots of energy, he gets a willing, experienced female not far past her sexual peak. So he must have a fetish, she must - well, I'm not sure what the complaint is, but you all seem determined to take her down! So tight-arsed, I hope you all get piles!

Crokepark · 06/06/2024 22:44

I think it's grim, OP, sorry. They're half your age. It's kind of creepy.

MissingMoominMamma · 06/06/2024 22:41

It’s up to the pair of you.

I wouldn’t, personally, but I have sons 🤷‍♀️.

pentangles · 06/06/2024 22:37

LOL, for fuck's sake OP, who really cares?
Most of us have shagged a younger or older man in our time, it isn't really forum fodder.
Just move on and get a fucking life.

allinallinall · 06/06/2024 22:33

Ask if he's got a mate. Then you could reenact 'Y tu mamá también'.

NameChanged112 · 06/06/2024 22:32

I don't see the problem and surprised by the amount of judgment in the comments. But then I'm a similar age and my DS is 4 so I don't really think of your age gap being mother / son territory. If someone thinks it's wrong because you're old enough to be his mum then they had kids too young and that's on them not you!

LostTheMarble · 06/06/2024 22:25

DannyLovesFanny · 06/06/2024 22:02

Well, I'm 50 and if a 23 year old woman asked me to sleep with her I wouldn't need to be asked a second time.

Are you a man? In which case, declaring your sleep with anything that stood still long enough wouldn’t be a huge shocker for most. But especially young women.

LordPercyPercy · 06/06/2024 22:23

There are 24 years between President Macron and his wife.

I'm not at all bothered by their age gap per se, but their origin story is rather creepy.

StarlightLady · 06/06/2024 22:14

There are 24 years between President Macron and his wife.

DannyLovesFanny · 06/06/2024 22:11

LordPercyPercy · 06/06/2024 22:06

@DannyLovesFanny your username is apt 😂

Only being truthful. 😋

LordPercyPercy · 06/06/2024 22:06

@DannyLovesFanny your username is apt 😂

DannyLovesFanny · 06/06/2024 22:03

likethislikethat · 06/06/2024 22:00

The president of France shagged and then married his fucking teacher !

I long stopped worrying about the adult age of anyone I shag so long as they want to shag me.

If folks are freaked out by an age gap, they can go fuck themselves.

Spot on.

DannyLovesFanny · 06/06/2024 22:02

Well, I'm 50 and if a 23 year old woman asked me to sleep with her I wouldn't need to be asked a second time.

likethislikethat · 06/06/2024 22:00

The president of France shagged and then married his fucking teacher !

I long stopped worrying about the adult age of anyone I shag so long as they want to shag me.

If folks are freaked out by an age gap, they can go fuck themselves.

Flyhigher · 06/06/2024 21:55

Will not last. And you will feel bad about yourself.
Madonna has cavorted with younger men and she just looks so unhappy now.