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To sleep with a 23 year old?

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Possomoppossum · 05/06/2024 18:46

Given that I am 42,he knows full well how old I am,we met on a dating site where he wanted to meet older women.ok or creepy age gap?

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Mummadeze · 07/06/2024 05:50

I honestly don’t see why not if you are not looking for a serious relationship. It could be a fun fling for both of you.

Neurodiversitydoctor · 07/06/2024 05:46

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How old are you both now ? It's all good fun when you are 20&40 or 30 &50. 45 & 65, not so much.

Neurodiversitydoctor · 07/06/2024 05:42

Ciphermind · 05/06/2024 19:22

there was a tv show similar called cougar town i believe, seems there have been cougars for many years, even the films American pie films had the older woman etc

Well arguably the graduate was 1st....

mermaidshreya26 · 07/06/2024 03:37

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Zanatdy · 07/06/2024 03:21

God no, younger than my oldest and close in age to my middle child. But if that floats your boat…

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 07/06/2024 03:20

You need help

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AmpleFatball · 07/06/2024 02:37

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No, it isn’t, because it isn’t a normal thing.

PyongyangKipperbang · 07/06/2024 02:19

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 07/06/2024 00:13

No. About 100 miles away. Although these women might have moved! 😆

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Then there are more than a couple of them around!

anothernamitynamenamechange · 07/06/2024 01:56

AstonMartha · 05/06/2024 19:18

If you were a man there would be uproar.

we met on a dating site where he wanted to meet older woman

A site where you were actively seeking a big age gap?

But if we were men we would be telling her/him to go for it. I can't imagine a man in his forties starting a thread like this though...

For what its worth I wouldn't. Its not illegal or immoral in the sense you aren't taking advantage of them really. They are adults. But it would feel off to me. But thats me.

OriginalUsername2 · 07/06/2024 01:16

xxwinterxx · 06/06/2024 23:18

I'm the same age and 23 is way to close to my oldest son's age. He's 17 and all his friends are late teens/early 20's. They are basically all kids to me. I do find some of them very cute and charming, but in a maternal way. Like I want to feed them and tell them to drive safely, not shag them!

This is how I feel too!

If I knew my son was seeing a woman my age or older I’d wonder if she was a bit off in some way. And I’d feel a bit worried for my son. There’s a bit of an uneven power dynamic when one has life experience and one doesn’t.

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 07/06/2024 01:12

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You have strange circles.

backing up homer simpson GIF
mermaidshreya26 · 07/06/2024 01:10

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dontcryformeargentina · 07/06/2024 01:07

Sleep with who you want if it's consensual and they are of legal age. This is what men do.. and why not?

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 07/06/2024 01:01

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What, that they think about shagging their mum?!
I repeat my original question. WTAF is wrong with you.
Maybe seek help

mermaidshreya26 · 07/06/2024 00:58

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LostTheMarble · 05/06/2024 18:51

Creepy on both sides. How are you not creeped out by this man fetishising you based on your age? And you actually considering someone who’s old enough to be your child just for a (likely disappointing) quicky?

Surely you mean young enough to be OP's child?

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 07/06/2024 00:54

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Sorry but WTAF is wrong with you

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 07/06/2024 00:53

DiduAye · 07/06/2024 00:41

My husband is 20 years older than me and noone turns a hair People aren't so understanding when the woman is older If you want to and he wants to go for it !

Yeah, it's a bit 😥 to see on here actually -
What, if you're a woman in your forties if you're going out with a man in their twenties they're only with you as they see you as a fetish, a kink?
Or that you as the woman is insinuated to be some sort of paedo (er hello they're in their twenties)

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DiduAye · 07/06/2024 00:41

My husband is 20 years older than me and noone turns a hair People aren't so understanding when the woman is older If you want to and he wants to go for it !

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