Does she owe me the money?

I’m quite aware her husband was with her, you’ve made that clear.

She booked a night out with her two mates and her husband, not a date night. Company and a laugh in a small group is completely different feel to the event than an intimate night out for two.

It’s not your fault you were ill, but it’s not hers either. Why should her night out have to suffer because you had a stomach bug?

Once again, no one pays full price for a last minute fill-the-gap ticket. Not unless it’s Harry Styles or someone.

You let Friend 1 down by not coming, she sorted it so she still had fun.

So in a nutshell @Sendmeapostcard , you weren't going to use the ticket. You were going to lose the money anyway. You were offering the ticket free to anyone friend 2 could find to bring, but you're upset because it went to someone undeserving?

If you had been offering the ticket to specific people, or had been trying to sell it, I'd agree with you. But you were offering it free of charge to your DF2's friends or acquaintances, so this boils down to you not liking DF1's sister.

Just go to the WhatsApp message, press down on it and hit ‘reply privately’ and say so did you get the money then? as a gesture of good will tell her £20 will do’

This is crazy talk. Gesture of goodwill 😂

Unless you’re talking about Taylor Swift tickets, no one is clamouring for your resale ticket and you’d be lucky to get a fraction of face value with 48 hours to go. The money you paid for them is dead a gone.

If the sister was interested in going to the concert at £30, she’d have bought a ticket. She wasn’t.

She passed on one of the unused tickets to her sister so the friend could still have a fun and sociable night out. Which, as the only one of the three original people still attending, she deserved.

Imagine how shit you’d feel if both of your mates had to bail on the concert you’d booked for you all?

I honestly don’t see the big deal, but do often feel surprise at how sensitive some people are on here. Quite frankly if I couldn’t use a ticket id be glad it went to good use, not wasted and wouldn’t get all upset I wasn’t asked.

It’s not the money it’s the cheek of them not showing decency!

She wants a bit of consideration in that particular scenario

That’s what I thought, imagine saying I won’t bring donuts any more when I visit. And being so tight over a ticket you couldn’t use. Utterly miserable/

How miserable it must be to live such a petty life.

She already threw the money away. It was gone. It’s just a case of someone else picking it up from the fire after she had tossed it in.

Jeez, some people really are tight!

This is getting tighter by the moment. 😂

Hi friend 1. I haven't received payment from your sister for my ticket yet. Have you given her my account details? I'll message her if you haven't.

It is not ok to do what she did without discussing it with you first.

It is plain rude. I would feel v peed off. But I cannot stand greed & tightness so if that was the driving factor I’d be even more annoyed.

Just go to the WhatsApp message, press down on it and hit ‘reply privately’ and say so did you get the money then? as a gesture of good will tell her £20 will do’

I agree it’s not worth losing a friend over but at the same time if this friend was reasonable then she won’t mind the question!

cheeky of the friend to take her sister and not ask/offer some kind of financial gesture ...but, you couldn't go so the ticket/money was lost to you anways.

if it were me in that situation i would have been happier knowing that the ticket was used and not wasted!

Ticket wasted if no one goes better someone uses it

She absolutely owes you the money.

I cannot imagine gifting someone a ticket that my friend had paid for and couldn't use, without checking with my friend and offering the money back. Esp as the friend was ill.

I'm surprised so many people think this is ok!

I also couldn't imagine being the person who knows the situation, accepts the free ticket and doesn't insist on paying.

Yeah OP, stop being tight. Next time just throw £30 in the fire and be done with it.

Can't believe people are calling OP tight, but saying nothing about the person having a free night out. OP has said she probably wouldn't have taken anything for ticket, but it's basic manners to OFFER.

This is proper tight, I mean it’s as tight as. Let it go op. Really are you going after her for 30 quid for a ticket you couldn’t even used. Imagine causing bad feeling over that rather than being pleased it didn’t go to waste. Bloody hell.

you would have lost the money either way though so I don't know why you're bothered?
At least this way someone got some use out of it.
As pp's have said, sister probably only went because it was free - if she had been willing to pay she would have bought a ticket in the first place.

Also there were 2 seats free - so sister could have been using friend 2's seat, not yours.

@Sendmeapostcard You're not being unreasonable. You're not the one in any drama. Your mate is. Be secure in how you feel and you don't come across as tight in the slightest. U was kind enough to message your other friend to gift the ticket to her husband. But that's not even the point even if you wanted the money for it. It's your ticket !! You do as you please with it. I hope your mate sees the light. Goodluck op, I hope it gets sorted their end!!

Op, your post wasn't confusing. Your friend gave away your ticket without even asking and her sister got a free show and now they've gone to ground over £30. Ridiculous! They owe you the money. Really can't be asked for glossing over ppls rudness because we need to get over it for the sake of the friendship.. funny how said friend isn't thinking the same.. It's rude , you don't take someone else's paid ticket and do as you please with it.

What's confusing? The friend gave the ticket away without asking op and said friend has now gone awol on the group chat over £30. Pay op the £30!! Why does op have to get over it?? I get it when ppl get funny over 100s of pounds but a £30 ticket... the sister went to the show and they didn't even ask op. Why does all the rudeness of the others get glossed over and op must 'get over it'???