Husbands buying flowers?!

I don’t like flowers unless they’re growing outside so never.

My partner does nice things for me all the time though, he’ll buy me other things I like, sometimes just something small that show he thinks of me, book tickets to something as a surprise, make me food when I’m busy, run an errand for me, does things for me that he knows I don’t want to do or that I’m stressed about, etc. He just shows me that he listens to what I like and how I’m feeling.

@babymama3938475749022971111 it really is worth having a look at love languages. Some people think it's naff but it really resonates with me and the people in my family.

Never, but he knows I don't want them. He's considerate about a 100 times a day though.

Quite often. But we do that for each other all the time.
Like you, I'll get him chocolate or cheese or whatever when I'm out.
I dont like bunches of flowers but I love gardening so if hes picking up boring things like soil from the garden centre, he always comes back with an extra plant or ornament for me.

What does he say when you talk about it? Does he care/not care? Does he just say he forgets to think of you? Does he think its a waste of money?

I think I’ve had 3 bunches in 40 years lol. As PP said if he got me flowers I’d wonder what he’d been up to. He’s dependable not romantic.
I had a friend who got flowers weekly and random jewellery regularly, however he had cheated on her repeatedly.
I know which sort of husband I prefer

My love language is cat memes from Instagram. DH gets bombarded if he needs a pick me up 😂

Whenever he sees the ones in my vase starting to droop, he puts a reminder on his phone to get more in a few days. It's very sweet.

The thing about romantic gestures is, are they romantic if you have to ask for them? Isn't the point of them that the person giving the gift was thinking of you at a random point in the day and wanted to show you that?

Idk, maybe he's not much of a gift giver, some people really aren't. Does he show his love and appreciation for you in other ways, or are you just feeling a bit undervalued and unappreciated in general in the relationship and this is how it's manifesting? As a want for flowers?

Once.

Buying gifts is not really our love language.

What's his love language?

And is yours just gifts? He needs to understand that.

DH regularly buys me chocolate from the shop; it’s his love lanaguage

My husband's love language is sending me cat videos from YouTube he thinks I'd like 😂

He doesn’t really do flowers as a surprise treat but he often says “Let’s get some flowers” when it’s his turn to pay for the weekly supermarket shop. Mainly because flowers cheer him up as much as me. Who says romance is dead, eh? 😃

He is incredibly thoughtful and kind in most ways though, and I wouldn’t really say that gifts are my love language anyway. We don’t tend to surprise each other with random small gifts but we do go out for nice meals etc and he’s good at organising nice stuff for us to do, which I greatly appreciate.

Once in 14 years we we're together. Late DCat ate the heads of every one of them and puked multi coloured piles of petal puke all over the living room carpet 🤦🏼‍♀️

Oh yes I get succulents and cactuses.

My husband has never bought me flowers, I don't enjoy them and he knows that. He buys me Lego, chocolate and books instead.
Do you spend quality time together, does he appreciate it when you cook etc, surely that's worth more than a cheap bunch of supermarket flowers.

Plants more than flowers, and generally when there's an event, or when theyre reduced and he knows I like the challenge of saving a plant at deaths door!

Only daffodils. I told him way back when if he ever come home with a bouquet of flowers I’d want to know what his done wrong.

He clearly listened 😂😂 he does bring random wine and chocolate though.

If he bought me random flowers I’d wonder what he’d been up to 😂

Bog gestures feel quite contrived to me. I love it when he comes back from the garage with a bag of my favourite sweets just because I like them or something like that. Those little ‘thinking of you’ moments.

This sounds a bit like a formulaic template of what the movies say that romance is supposed to look like. DH has never bought me flowers - and I’ve never thought that an issue, if I want flowers I buy them for myself. He’s a blue-collar boy from Detroit, he’ll sooner make me a full set of garden planters from clapboard he hauled a mile in a handcart, knowing I wanted some. But in terms of other forms of showing appreciation - such as planning surprise trips or events for each other, finding random gifts just because, dates or outings planned to weird places we know the other would like, quality time just bimbling somewhere, encouraging words for each other etc - DH and I do all of those things for each other most days / weeks, fairly unconsciously I suppose. I wouldn’t call it romance, just being in a healthy relationship where you enjoy making each other happy.

What attracted you to each other in the first place? If you asked him how he thinks he shows you how he appreciates you, what would he say? If you asked him whether he acknowledges your appreciation of him, would he agree?

Mine used to get them regularly at the start of the relationship mainly when he had upset me ! He very rarely does now but often comes in with a little treat for me

He’ll get a bunch from the supermarket if I ask him. He buys me Raffaello ice lollies and oatcakes too. He’s a good lad.

Only specific occasions these days, he always gets them for anniversary, birthday, Mother's Day and somewhat randomly Christmas, but it's been a long time since he randomly bought me some. Oh actually last year after a big holiday to thank me for my planning which was quite sweet, he's more of a practical person tbh, not overly romantic or spontaneous, so long as he keeps doing the laundry though that's fine by me!

He would never buy me flowers except on Valentine's Day, anniversary etc. Tbf I wouldn't usually buy him little "no reason" gifts either.

We've been together 27 years and I still love him to bits btw.

DH regularly buys me chocolate from the shop; it’s his love lanaguage

Every two or three weeks.