Husbands buying flowers?!

I think if flowers make you happy and feel loved then it would be nice if your dh wanted to get you flowers. I like dh to make the dinner, plan a day out, call me or send me a text when I feel upset, book a restaurant, get me a gadget that will fix a problem - anything but flowers!

This.

I'm not bothered about flowers. But DH takes my car for a jet wash or comes into my office with a Gu pot for me often.

Acts of service is my love language so I'd rather DH cleaned the kitchen then bought me flowers. If he does buy flowers he knows to trim and put them in the vase and tidy up. I don't appreciate another job to do!

This is about love languages. You need to read up on them abit and have a conversation. Your language is gift giving so you give gifts to show love and expect gifts to show you love because that's your default. He may have acts of service as a love language so would clean your car for you or run you a bath to show love or maybe his language is quality time so he makes time for you when he's busy and feels loved when you do lay in bed watching tv together? Because that's not your love language you don't pick up the meaning behind the actions. There are I think 5 love languages: physical touch, acts of service, gift giving, words of affirmation and quality time. Have a think does this ring true? If you can't identify he leans towards a love language you have missed them he doesn't love you enough to be worth your time. You can of course make a relationship work if you have different love languages you just have to remember to do the thing you know makes the other one feel loved and as you have had this conversation and he's ignoring how you feel that doesn't sound positive. Like you said it's the thought that counts it's not money grabbing or spoil my to want to be surprised with a £3 bunch of flowers or your favourite chocolate bar

Once a month from the florist £10 bunch, special occasions get £30 budget- they usually last about 3 weeks so we usually have a bunch on the go

Recent discussion with my friend says her husband never buys her anything that's not actually for him

Every couple of weeks he gets me a bunch

I have two vases and they are always full, either he buys them or cuts them from the garden

My husband buys me flowers every week. I know it is his way of expressing love as he is otherwise very closed emotionally.

Flowers never. Actually once when I expressed my dissatisfaction earlier in our relationship.
Someone wise once asked me if I knew he loved me and totally I do, so how do I know. I know because he shows me it his way and that's fair enough.
If he didn't show it at all that would be bleak.

Any day he finishes work before me with enough time to spare, he will drive an hour into the city centre just to sit in rush hour traffic with me all the way home again, so I dont have to do that on a smelly bus. I never ask.
I love him dearly for that alone 😂

me and my husband have had the conversation that he should make more effort with romantic gestures.
^^
You mean you told him 😂

Never. They die and wilt and are a pain in the bum to keep topping up with water

Mine doesn't buy me flowers as a rule, although I'd love them now and again. But as pp said, I do feel loved and appreciated in the relationship so it's not a big deal. I think it's about feeling valued and considered and that doesn't have to be via formulaic routes on pre determined days. Sounds like you'd be happy with just a bit of effort and thought from him and those are what's missing.

He doesn't because we have an idiot cat who A. will try to eat them B. Is likely to knock the vase over; basically she's a liability.

He will occasionally bring me chocolate or wine which is fine by me.

Not flowers as such but he will get me things from the shop “just because” (like I was thrilled with a new flavour of dumplings the other week or he’ll treat me to fancy ice cream as he knows I won’t buy it myself) and similar to @pietut he will send me videos throughout the day of things he knows I’ll like/ funny so I guess I know I’m in his thoughts!

Yeah I think some people are getting too hung up on the specifics of flowers. The point is you’d like a nice gestures/token gifts now and again and for you that happens be him buying reduced flowers or a bar of chocolate.

He is maybe just forgetting to and needs reminds but no YANBU to want this now and again! Especially when you do the same for him.

My DH knows me well, so he tends to buy me plants I can transfer to the garden rather than cut flowers apart from daffodils in spring, he keeps me supplied with vases of those when they're in season.

It's not necessarily a sign that he doesn't love you enough not to buy you flowers, some people just aren't naturally inclined towards expressing love that way. But I think the important thing is that he now knows that you think it's important, so I would expect him to make more of an effort for you.

Never! I think that type of 'romance' is grim personally. Flowers for flowers sake, no thought behind it, just flowers!

Every so often, I will come home to a brand new, high end, shampoo & conditioner - it's always for my hair type and it's usually from a hairdressers that he's passed by on one of his jobs. Think kerastase or redken etc. he does that because he knows I absolutely adore new, fancy haircare! But the fact he makes sure it's for my hair type I find beautiful!

Never. I buy myself flowers. He would choose overpriced, out of season flowers and I'm really fussy. He does other things though. I wouldn't hang my relationship on receiving flowers.