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Husbands buying flowers?!

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babymama3938475749022971111 · 05/06/2024 18:11

I want to know how often your husbands get your flowers?
me and my husband have had the conversation that he should make more effort with romantic gestures. Even buying cheap reduced flowers every now and again to me it’s the thought that counts.
Before anyone states do I buy him gifts, YES all the time when I go out I always get him something I know he likes, a chocolate bar or his favourite thing. But I never get it in return which I find quite upsetting and he knows this. So AIBU to want flowers or a chocolate every now and again?

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GeckoFeet · 05/06/2024 21:20

Before anyone states do I buy him gifts, YES

That's your love language though. Just because you appreciate gifts doesn't mean he does. And just because you do it for him doesn't mean he owes you the same.

AlwaysBlowingLightbulbs · 05/06/2024 21:20

Rarely because I get them on the weekly shop so he doesn't get the chance.

Merryoldgoat · 05/06/2024 21:19

pietut · 05/06/2024 18:27

DH regularly buys me chocolate from the shop; it’s his love lanaguage

My husband's love language is sending me cat videos from YouTube he thinks I'd like 😂

Hmmmm. I think we have the same husband.

PraiseTheSunshine · 05/06/2024 21:17

He usually buys me flowers once or twice a month or he will come home with things that he thinks I'd like, like plants or chocolate.

But not everyone buys gifts as a way to express their affection, does he show you affection in other ways?

SwordToFlamethrower · 05/06/2024 21:17

My husband was guilted into buying a red rose on our first date by a street seller.

Never bought me flowers in 10 years since then.

I have bought him flowers a few times.

I was once carrying a large bouquet in the street, that I'd bought for him and a man approached me and asked me who got my flowers. I was confused and told him they were from me to my then boyfriend and he actually got very angry and said women don't buy flowers for men and that my boyfriend is a disgrace!

pearlfritillary · 05/06/2024 21:12

I suppose everybody has a different idea of a romantic gesture - My OH is rubbish at presents, and I wouldn't want a bunch of flowers, but my OH does sort out, as soon as I ask, a lot bits that I gloss over.

MrsSkylerWhite · 05/06/2024 21:11

Never been bothered about stuff because he’s kind, gentle and thoughtful in every way. Has been since the day we met (nearly 37 years ago).

Don’t like cut flowers anyway 😁

mydogisthebest · 05/06/2024 21:09

DH probably buys me flowers once every couple of months but sometimes it is more often. There is no set pattern.

If he sees Picnic chocolate bars in a shop he will buy me one as I love them and not many places seem to sell them

Chypre · 05/06/2024 21:06

I once did sort of presentation, how British flowers in season are so much cheaper than generic supermarket roses in the dead of winter. He is a practical man, and it kinda stuck. This peony season I am on my third bunch.

RM2013 · 05/06/2024 21:02

He rarely buys flowers. He knows I like them but he sees them as a waste of money as they don’t last long. He’s very generous in other ways though so it doesn’t really bother me any more

CrushingOnRubies · 05/06/2024 21:01

When he notices that the flowers in the vase have died and he's going to the shops. So not super regular every 2 months or so

neverbeenskiing · 05/06/2024 21:00

DH often buys me flowers if I'm feeling under the weather or having a difficult week, or sometimes for no reason.

DrStrangesSmarterSister · 05/06/2024 20:33

Maybe a bunch of daffodils once or twice per year, but he knows that I hate watching cut flowers die.

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 05/06/2024 20:30

NewName24 · 05/06/2024 20:22

Acts of service is my love language so I'd rather DH cleaned the kitchen then bought me flowers.

This 100%
For some reason, I HATE putting air in the car tyres. DH knows this, so will go and do it for me. To me, that is a million times better than him coming home with a bunch of flowers.
That is speaking as someone who does love flowers - but I'm happy to buy some myself when I'm in the supermarket. Me telling him to go and get me some flowers would mean nothing. But him putting air in my tyres, means lots.

I also hate this and miss my ex doing it for me!

excitednewnana · 05/06/2024 20:27

can't remember the last time my DH bought me flowers... neither of us are particularly romantic, we show our love in other ways, cook his favourite food, he buys my morning coffee.

LizzieBennett73 · 05/06/2024 20:23

DH often goes to Waitrose to get his lunch and he often brings me some melon slices back. And if they've got proteas in the flower section, he'll buy me them as he likes them Hmm whereas I much prefer tulips or peonies. But I pick my battles Grin

NewName24 · 05/06/2024 20:22

Acts of service is my love language so I'd rather DH cleaned the kitchen then bought me flowers.

This 100%
For some reason, I HATE putting air in the car tyres. DH knows this, so will go and do it for me. To me, that is a million times better than him coming home with a bunch of flowers.
That is speaking as someone who does love flowers - but I'm happy to buy some myself when I'm in the supermarket. Me telling him to go and get me some flowers would mean nothing. But him putting air in my tyres, means lots.

Original poster
babymama3938475749022971111 · 05/06/2024 20:17

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 05/06/2024 20:16

Have a love languages chat with him. There maybe things he wants more of like praise /thabks (worlds of affirmation)

I will do. Thank you

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Unexpectedlysinglemum · 05/06/2024 20:16

Have a love languages chat with him. There maybe things he wants more of like praise /thabks (worlds of affirmation)

rwalker · 05/06/2024 19:44

I think your ether a gift person or not
can’t see the point getting a gift because someone feels obliged to sooner not bother

Fadedbouquet · 05/06/2024 19:44

God, I really hate the term 'love language'.
I know, I know, I'm an old misery guts 😂

PenelopeFeatherington · 05/06/2024 19:33

cuckyplunt · 05/06/2024 18:22

He’ll get a bunch from the supermarket if I ask him. He buys me Raffaello ice lollies and oatcakes too. He’s a good lad.

Double take for Rafaello ice lollies! Didn't know these existed!

Soubriquet · 05/06/2024 19:27

He used to buy me them all the time which I loved because it was my favourite flowers (lillies). However, I had to ask him to stop cos I have a cat. He compensated with other things though. Books in my Amazon basket, a teddy bear ( I collect beanie boos and squishmellows) or an ornament

Nouvellenovel · 05/06/2024 19:26

Dh buys flowers on special occasions.
However our garden is beautiful and that’s all his work.
So I can cut myself roses, lavender and sweet peas atm.
I can pick tomatoes and courgettes in summer.
There is an extensive herb garden.

And actually he makes my mid morning coffee every single day. Which is better than any bought flowers.

CountingCrones · 05/06/2024 19:26

Pretty much any time I've had a rough day or a disappointment - if he thinks I'm feeling low he buys me flowers to cheer me up.

He knows how much I love fresh flowers in the house - I grow them in a patch of the garden just to keep the house full of flowers all summer. SO when I can't just go outside and pick some, he buys them when he's out and about. (I also buy them for myself)

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