Husbands buying flowers?!

DH got me some yesterday. No reason for them.
He doesn't buy them for your typical occasions

no flowers really other than birthday and valentines despite me buying him little and often silly or thoughtful random gifts year round. But thats one of my ways of showing my love and appreciation.

he does however cook a two or three course meal from scratch for us every weekend, including bread/flatbreads etc, side dishes.. hummus… all from scratch and dress up for the occasion which I love, and a fancy breakfast every Sunday. What’s not to love. He also cleans up after both.

I buy my own flowers. :)

He used to buy stupidly expensive flower arrangements and I was annoyed by the expense. Told him not to waste so much money,he now never does,so I now buy myself flowers ie tulips,daffodils etc

Mine too!

It's thinking about each other that's important. Whether it's a kit kat, flowers, wine or just your gluten free bread.

I should add it works both ways. I find him books by his favourite authors, when I notice he's nearly finished one I buy him a couple more. Sometimes new, sometimes second hand. Shopping his favourite cheese and crackers, pork pie.

Usually on my birthday and our wedding anniversary but sometimes just out of the blue.

Ps.. They're typically a cheap supermarket bunch, £1 daffodils in spring etc. He's not going out and dropping loads of cash on bouquets every month, I wouldn't have that.

On the 20th of every month since we met 4 years ago (on the 20th of the month). He's only forgotten once and it was the actual anniversary of us meeting. He'll never live it down

Almost never. I've told him I don't like them, because I don't like the hassle of topping up the water and clearing up the mess when they die. He doesn't buy me random gifts and I don't buy them for him, apart from occasional things like chocolate or cake if I'm picking groceries up anyway.

He's better at different things, like organising the kind of family holidays I like, splitting the housework and childcare load even when he works ft and I'm a sahm, always being around for family activities at weekends, and never questioning the fees for school and extracurriculars I want the dcs to do. That sort of thing is more important to me.

We both buy flowers for the place, I am glad the days of 'you man have to do this for me woman' are gone

Well I hoped they were

Today he bought me a pack of crumpets because he noticed that I'd run out yesterday, so picked them up after walking the dogs .

He'll bring me a cinnamon roll, sometimes. Bought me amaretto biscuits because he knows I love them.

Once in a blue moon flowers. Daffodils always when he sees them.

It's the thought that counts after 48 years

I'm not fussed on flowers. DH is not big on gift giving and has bought me a few rubbish ones over the years (oven gloves! Clothes that I'd never wear) and some nice ones with a bit of prompting (spa day, books, nice chocolates) I can't get too worked up about it to be honest. He's not 'romantic' but he does bring me up a cup of tea in the mornings and make me a hot water bottle if my back's aching. He's kind to everyone, my friends, my mum, my sister all love him. He's a wonderful dad. Those things are more important to me than trying to be romantic when it's not really him.

He doesn’t often buy me flowers but he is always just bringing me little gifts. From one of my favourite cakes from the local deli to a book he thinks I’ll enjoy, a new woolly hat to a new smart watch because he noticed my old one was becoming unreliable.

Speaking as the man... I'm fine buying flowers, but I prefer buying something more 'useful'.

Flowers to me just look pretty for a few days and then die, they're a pain in the arse to vase-up (new term!), and then there's cleaning up after they've dropped all their bits.

For £30 for a decent bouquet, I can get cinema tickets, half a meal, lots of chocolate, tickets to most events... or I can just buy the odd treat each time I go to the supermarket (ten tubs of Ben and Jerries!). True, it's not seen as 'as romantic', but I believe these bring more joy.

That's where I think the dilemma comes in... If anyone asks my wife whether I'm romantic, she may say I've bought one bouquet in the past year... she is unlikely to say that half the food shop is specifically treats for her, that I'll randomly send her a Starbucks while I'm out, and she's working from home. Small, regular things like that often get dismissed over 'traditional' (pointless, in my opinion) gestures.

Very occasionally, but always for no real reason, perhaps when I was pissed off with work for eg, which is perfect.

Don't keep count but probably around 3 times per year, maybe 4. Although, I don't find it that romantic, as they're usually for my birthday/Mothering Sunday/Valentine's/Anniversary so a bit cliché.

I'd much rather he brought me a cuppa tea in bed in the morning or didn't moan on the very occasional time I ask him to make me a cuppa. He used to bring me tea in bed when we were dating, I'd really love and cherish those gestures if he still did them now.

Send yourself some flowers.

When he asks, say not from you? Or thank him profusely.

And stop giving him what he never gives you. He doesn't feel the need. Aren't you happy as things are?

We realised a long time ago that my taste in flowers is very different to his so he no longer bothers.

Instead I have a monthly flower subscription that he pays for. (Tbh I dont think he knows he pays for it. All our accounts apart from ISA's are joint accounts but his money goes into one and my wages go into another - I set the subscription up to go out of the account his money goes into (rather like the Amazon account payment). LOL. We have always had shared money - I didn't work when the children were small so everything just went into one account.)

So whilst he doesn't realise it he lovingly buys me flowers every month.

He works away alot and his little gestures are bringing me back the biscuits, sweets and bottles of wine he gets in his hotel rooms.