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Being taught in school gay and trans people have mental illness

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SomeonTookMyAnonymousUserName · 05/06/2024 16:05

I know I am not BU!

Scottish school, P7 kids, age 11/12.

DS is getting sexual health lessons at the moment and, apart from this one comment, it's going reasonably well.

We chat at home about what's being learned and this was said in class by a teacher 'who has form' (climate change isn't real, Donald trump is a cool guy, etc)

Before setting hares running, I did a bit of digging, ensured DS wasn't mistaken, asked some mum friends if their DCs can corroborate and, yes, that is what was said.

Apparently if you are gay, trans (or, I assume, part of the LGBTI community), you must be mentally ill!

I am incandescent and need to calm down before I make a formal complaint. Can anyone help with wording so I don't spew out a rant of expletives?

This is a man who was a Tory election candidate until he was thrown out for homophobia. So yes, please come and teach your twisted beliefs to our impressionable children! 😡

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SomeonTookMyAnonymousUserName · 07/06/2024 15:16

Oh I know. I'm torn.

The right thing to do is to follow through but, with only 3 weeks of school left and my DS going to high school in August, I don't know if I have the fight for it, to be honest.

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Enoughalready2024 · 07/06/2024 14:54

SomeonTookMyAnonymousUserName · 07/06/2024 14:25

So I emailed the head in the first instance - my rage had cleared and my email was very fair and factual.

He called me and said he had spoken to the teacher and he denied saying this, then said the teacher didn't recall saying it. The head assured me he doesn't disbelieve my DS but what can he do as he wasn't there.

I accepted this but did say - although I won't speak for other children, I know for sure my DS wasn't the only one who heard this.

I then met the head informally at a school event and in a quiet moment in the corridor we chatted again, initiated by him. He profusely apologised and he hinted that he knows it's true but what can he do? It wasn't the place to keep discussing it.

So that's it. It was said but, unless others complain, it's done.

That's an absolute cop out. He could investigate with the class of students and should do that. It doesn't have to be witnessed by a school adult to be true. He's basically saying the teacher can do/say anything as long as he doesn't see it himself which quite simply isn't true. Take this further.

SomeonTookMyAnonymousUserName · 07/06/2024 14:25

So I emailed the head in the first instance - my rage had cleared and my email was very fair and factual.

He called me and said he had spoken to the teacher and he denied saying this, then said the teacher didn't recall saying it. The head assured me he doesn't disbelieve my DS but what can he do as he wasn't there.

I accepted this but did say - although I won't speak for other children, I know for sure my DS wasn't the only one who heard this.

I then met the head informally at a school event and in a quiet moment in the corridor we chatted again, initiated by him. He profusely apologised and he hinted that he knows it's true but what can he do? It wasn't the place to keep discussing it.

So that's it. It was said but, unless others complain, it's done.

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Itllfalloff · 07/06/2024 09:59

Hopefully the school will deal this! Gay people are not mentally ill... obvs

Iamtired123 · 06/06/2024 19:18

Gender dysphoria IS a mental illness, homosexuality isn't so he's half right

verdibird · 06/06/2024 13:56

mycatisanarcissist · 05/06/2024 16:26

Trans may be a protected characteristic but doesn't mean it doesn't involve mental illness.

Non sequitur. You could say that of any protected characteristic or really of any human.

Gender dysphoria is not a mental illness. Scientific evidence shows it is neuro-developmental. Below is from this report given to Parliament:
https://www.gires.org.uk/transsexualism-the-inside-story/
Previous research has established that small areas in the hypothalamic region of the brain are anatomically differentiated into male and female, in the general population. More recent research published in 1995, 2000 and 2008 undertaken by J-N Zhou et. al.; Frank Kruijver et. al. and Garci-Falgueras and Swaab respectively, demonstrated that in three small, but statistically robust, post-mortem studies of individuals experiencing gender dysphoria, two sex dimorphic areas – the central subdivision of the bed nucleus of the stria terminalis (BSTc) and the uncinate nucleus – are differentiated in opposition to the chromosomal, genital and gonadal sex characteristics.This was found not to have been caused by cross-sex hormone administration nor by sex hormone variations in adulthood. Scans of white matter in the brains of untreated trans men and trans women show them to be masculinised and feminised respectively (Rametti et al, 2011). The gene coding for the androgen receptor which governs the body’s response to testosterone, is characterised by repeat polymorphisms in trans women, indication an atypical response to this hormone (Henningsson, 2005; Hare et al, 2008).Monozygotic (identical) twins show a markedly raised incidence of concordance for transition compared with their dizygotic (fraternal) twin counterparts. These, and other findings, support the view that biological factors: genetic, hormonal, and chromosomal, may all have a part to play in strongly predisposing the formation of a gender identity that is at odds with the sex assigned at birth.Where this predisposition exists, psycho-social factors may subsequently modify the outcome. However, there is no evidence that socialisation in contradiction to the phenotype causes gender dysphoria, nor that socialisation which is consistent with the phenotype can prevent it. Many trans men and trans women struggle to conform to stereotypical gender role behaviour from early childhood, through adolescence and into adulthood.This may create intolerable stress which, in some individuals, can only be resolved by undergoing transition from the gender role imposed since birth, to the role consistent with the gender identity. This process does not change the underlying gender identity, but confirms it by aligning the phenotype with it, thus ending the mismatch. Trans people often delay transition to live in the opposite role, until they are adults, but a growing number do so during childhood or adolescence.In conclusion, although the processes of sex differentiation of the brain are not yet fully understood, the evidence suggests that this is not a mental illness but rather a neuro-developmental condition. It is inevitable that trans people will not all be binary; many will be non-binary as there are many gender interpretations between ‘man’ or ‘woman.Therefore treatment for these individuals needs to be tailored their own particular needs; it often includes hormone therapy and sometimes surgery, to achieve a closer alignment of the phenotype with the gender identity. Trans people usually benefit from psychological support for themselves and their families and significant others.The World Health Organisation was advised, in 2013, to “abandon the psychopathological model, in favour of one that reflects current scientific evidence and best practice”. The World Professional Association for Transgender Health states that “the expression of gender characteristics, including identities, that are not stereotypically associated with one’s assigned sex at birth is a common and culturally diverse human phenomenon that should not be regarded as inherently pathological or negative.”

Transsexualism: The Inside Story – Gender Identity Research & Education Society

https://www.gires.org.uk/transsexualism-the-inside-story/

saltinesandcoffeecups · 06/06/2024 12:56

Harara · 05/06/2024 23:21

How astonishing that people in a small minority group, who face prejudice and misunderstanding, and in the case of gay people have only had equal rights for 10 years (while this study looks at adults over a whole lifetime), would be likely to have elevated rates of depression compared to the general population.

The fact that groups who face prejudice due to their identity are more likely to suffer depression and suicidal thoughts is very different to saying that the identity itself is a mental illness.

Your ignorance about that is an example of the pressures likely to lead to depression.

That’s an interesting interpretation of my post. It would appear that you didn’t actually go to the study I linked. But please do continue to point out my ignorance 😏

SomeonTookMyAnonymousUserName · 06/06/2024 10:21

Hugosmaid · 06/06/2024 06:53

I just do not believe this post is true. Teachers would be terrified of losing their jobs.

It certainly is true. I have better things to do than make up something like this.

I asked for assistance in pulling together my complaint. I got it.

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Hugosmaid · 06/06/2024 06:53

I just do not believe this post is true. Teachers would be terrified of losing their jobs.

Harara · 05/06/2024 23:21

saltinesandcoffeecups · 05/06/2024 16:24

If are adding Trans people then yes the teacher isn’t necessarily wrong with the statement. it gets even murkier when you add the overlap of gay and trans…

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7557385/

Findings indicate incredibly high rates of mental health concerns; 72.2% had been diagnosed with depression in their lifetime and 73.0% had been diagnosed with anxiety in their lifetime. In the past year, 49.9% had had non-suicidal self-injury (NSSI) thoughts, 45.4% had suicidal thoughts, 26.3% engaged in NSSI, and 7.7% had attempted suicide

Now I’m sure there is some nuance to be found in this and I’m making no claims on the study… methods… peer review status. But this isn’t the only study that indicates similar findings.

How astonishing that people in a small minority group, who face prejudice and misunderstanding, and in the case of gay people have only had equal rights for 10 years (while this study looks at adults over a whole lifetime), would be likely to have elevated rates of depression compared to the general population.

The fact that groups who face prejudice due to their identity are more likely to suffer depression and suicidal thoughts is very different to saying that the identity itself is a mental illness.

Your ignorance about that is an example of the pressures likely to lead to depression.

Valeriekat · 05/06/2024 22:59

Anyway no teacher would be saying these things unless they wanted to get fired.

Valeriekat · 05/06/2024 22:58

verdibird · 05/06/2024 16:20

Being gay or trans is not a mental illness. They are protected characteristics. The teacher is violating the law, namely the Equality Act 2010. I would raise this with the head and the school governors immediately. If you corroborate his statements, he can be sacked. If students are discriminated against due to his actions, the school can be sued.

Here is a helpful link: https://www.equalityhumanrights.com/equality/equality-act-2010/your-rights-under-equality-act-2010/gender-reassignment-discrimination

Here is legislation: https://publications.parliament.uk/pa/cm201516/cmselect/cmwomeq/390/39007.htm

Being "trans" isn't a protected characteristic.

Thistoo2023 · 05/06/2024 18:40

Peskysquirrel · 05/06/2024 17:08

Yes, exactly. The protected characteristic is "gender reassignment".
Not "being trans" as another poster stated.

Subsequent case law (Taylor v Jaguar) has led to a much broader interpretation of the characteristic though.

mycatisanarcissist · 05/06/2024 18:03

NeedToChangeName · 05/06/2024 17:54

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Good God. Maybe they should have delved deeper for a cure to his dysmorphia rather than cutting them off. Seems like a lazy way to practise 'medicine'.

TheKeatingFive · 05/06/2024 17:58

Pretty sure this would be against all teaching guidelines, so you should report to the head.

NeedToChangeName · 05/06/2024 17:54

mycatisanarcissist · 05/06/2024 17:14

For real? I heard they are doing assisted suicide too, so maybe it's not surprising. The Canadian government has really lost its way.

@mycatisanarcissist apologies for Daily Mail link

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-13293599/canadian-man-body-dysmorphia-psychology-finger-amputation.html

Enoughalready2024 · 05/06/2024 17:52

iamreallyabee · 05/06/2024 17:27

It should be counterbalanced though, that they see it presented as a routine thing to be transexual

The counterbalance is what they see in society everyday. The vast, vast majority of the population are not trans (despite some Mumsnetters seeming to think otherwise).

iamreallyabee · 05/06/2024 17:27

Enoughalready2024 · 05/06/2024 17:22

Because it goes against part 2 of the teacher standards and because it's morally wrong to give an blanket statement personal belief as fact to a group of impressionable young people when you are in a professional capacity.

It should be counterbalanced though, that they see it presented as a routine thing to be transexual

Enoughalready2024 · 05/06/2024 17:22

iamreallyabee · 05/06/2024 16:52

Why not

Because it goes against part 2 of the teacher standards and because it's morally wrong to give an blanket statement personal belief as fact to a group of impressionable young people when you are in a professional capacity.

MyDogsLikePaddleBoarding · 05/06/2024 17:18

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mycatisanarcissist · 05/06/2024 17:14

NeedToChangeName · 05/06/2024 17:10

It's been done in Canada, apparently

Amputating healthy fingers from someone / people who thought they were disabled

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For real? I heard they are doing assisted suicide too, so maybe it's not surprising. The Canadian government has really lost its way.

saltinesandcoffeecups · 05/06/2024 17:11

And to be clear homosexuality was removed from the DSM in the 70’s so no I don’t think it’s ok to make a blanket statement that LGBQ people have a mental illness. (Nor do I thank any of them did prior to the 70’s if I’m being precise with my language).

However Trans I do think a different kettle of fish. I don’t think all Trans people are mentally ill. I think the vast majority have a different mental health diagnosis.

So all that being said I stand by my earlier statement that the teacher wasn’t necessarily wrong. But way oversimplified the topic and that’s probably why this is a bad topic to be taught in schools as fact (either way).

Anxiousheartbeat · 05/06/2024 17:11

I would much prefer my child was taught that wanting to change sex was a mental illness to be treated with compassion, than a biological possibility.

the homophobic aspect is unacceptable though - that’s not a mental illness!

NeedToChangeName · 05/06/2024 17:10

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It's been done in Canada, apparently

Amputating healthy fingers from someone / people who thought they were disabled