I'm recovering from surgery and for some reason my mind has gone to an online date from ages ago (that didn't actually happen!) and I wondered whether others would have given the bloke a chance.
Zero consequence, I have a fab partner now, just looking for distraction!
So, 30s London professionals looking for relationships not casual. All fine on paper, enough to match but not enormous amounts in common or anything.
We chatted (not in great depth and nothing very flirty) before he invited me for a post work drink.
Place and time confirmed on the day.
He then texted 'wear something sexy'.
I didn't like this so politely cancelled the drink and wished him well.
I didn't really overthink it but reasons being, it hadn't been a flirtatious conversation yet. I felt he'd hurriedly introduced a sexual element plus I would feel he was judgemental about appearance! Plus I generally don't like being told what to do!! It just didn't sit right. Like he was trying to be a bit dominant out of nowhere.
He quickly apologised, said it had been a silly thing to say and he didn't care what I wore. I didn't reinstate plans.
I then worried he was just flirting and others would have been fine with this!
YABU= I would have given him a chance
YANBU= no thanks