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Why do male friends just randomly drop you

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Lordsoftheboards · 05/06/2024 15:09

I only knew him for 9 months so I know people will say it isn't that long, but we were still close.
He's still single so it's not to do with that or anything.
He's a very avoidant sort of person who'd rather make a million excuses because he thinks it's 'kinder' (or just easier) than saying the truth.

I have tried to find out why he's trying to drop me but it's just excuses about being crap at texting (which he never used to be) stuff like that. So I've just left it and moving on, trying to not take it personally.

I'm single too. Had this with 2 other male friends in the past, it might not necessarily be specific to men but it does upset me and make me feel like it was never a friendship. Any insights?

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Faduckssake · 05/06/2024 15:17

SallySunrise · 05/06/2024 15:13

They realise you're not going to shag them.

☝️ nailed it

SallySunrise · 05/06/2024 15:13

They realise you're not going to shag them.

Lordsoftheboards · 05/06/2024 15:11

It's not just crap at texting, it's that if I didn't initiate the conversation now we'd probably never talk, whereas he used to as well.
Twice I've recently invited him to stuff which he couldn't make, but he didn't suggest an alternative.

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