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Went on an awful date last night

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Lordsoftheboards · 05/06/2024 14:06

He was very unclear about the meeting place and kept trying to get me to phone him beforehand.
He told me the street to meet him on as he was coming straight from work and I confirmed I'd meet him there.
He kept wanting me to ring to confirm details rather than just a quick short text.
I texted him saying I'm at X place on Moor Street. Then he phoned me saying 'where are you?'
I replied I was on X street like he told me to go to. He then told me to carry on walking down towards the seafront (live in a seaside town).
There was a big event on at the seafront. There were dancers, stalls and various things on, and he wanted to look at things for a grand total of 3 seconds then said 'Shall we go this way now?'.
The date lasted 1h20 in total. There was zero sort of chemistry, flirting, anything. He talked about himself most of the time and I just knew I didn't fancy him.
Turned up in a suit straight from work too.
At the very end he wanted to carry on but I told him I needed to get back. He winked at me and said 'Shall we do this again?' which I don't like as people should have time to decide and it puts you on the spot there and then.

I got a text when I'd got home saying thanks for tonight I had an amazing time, wanna do it again on Saturday?

I politely declined and he accepted it TBF.

I didn't even feel he was interested in me. If it had been a wonderful date where we'd really got on then fair enough, but I just felt like I could've been anyone tbh and he just wanted to fill the role of girlfriend.

Has anyone else had this?

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Thesunisanorange · 05/06/2024 14:26

That would have annoyed me, he kept you walking further only to leave that place he summoned you to after a few minutes. I’m very funny about things like that partly as I have poor sense of direction and don’t like getting lost, but I just insist on agreeing a time and place that we stick to.

It doesn’t sound completely awful but yeah if he doesn’t appear interested in you and just wants you to fill the girlfriend role it’s not great. I mean that kind of arrangement works for some people but it definitely doesn’t for me. I really need to click with someone and feel they are getting to know me too.

TheRomanticOutlaw · 05/06/2024 14:25

I'd guess he found it 'amazing' because he's someone who always talks about himself anyway and isn't that interested in other people- and he got to do exactly that, which made him happy. He didn't really have to make any effort.
I wouldn't mind that he came from work wearing a suit, though. I like a man in a suit, maybe I'm missing something here. And the wanting to ring rather than text, some people just don't text much and prefer ringing. Unless he's been happily texting you up til then and suddenly wants to ring, I wouldn't really think much of it.

2dogsandabudgie · 05/06/2024 14:25

Maybe he was really nervous which is why he kept talking about himself as he didn't want any awkward pauses in conversation.

Lordsoftheboards · 05/06/2024 14:21

True maybe I should've done a call before. I mean he seemed to make it some sort of massive deal about the meeting place, he told me a place, I was there at the time we agreed and then he wanted me to phone him twice to have a discussion about the meeting place, just a load of faff

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AgnesX · 05/06/2024 14:19

I don't really understand why didn't want to speak beforehand. It might have saved you from wasting your time.

Lordsoftheboards · 05/06/2024 14:15

x2boys · 05/06/2024 14:11

Well he probably does want a girlfriend thats why he's dating ,if your not feeling it though than you did the right thing saying no, there's no point in prolonging things

No you are absolutely right, I mean that he didn't even seem that interested in me, just that I could've been literally anyone.
Ok I admit I have had way worse than this, awful might not be the right word, more like disappointing!

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Jazzicatz · 05/06/2024 14:13

It doesn’t sound awful he just doesn’t sound right for you. I had some right horrors, this doesn’t sound like that, just no spark!

x2boys · 05/06/2024 14:11

Well he probably does want a girlfriend thats why he's dating ,if your not feeling it though than you did the right thing saying no, there's no point in prolonging things

Lordsoftheboards · 05/06/2024 14:10

CoastalCalm · 05/06/2024 14:08

It doesn’t sound awful to me just not a spark there , two of my best mates I met when we went on first dates but had no romantic interest at all

That's good you ended up being friends with them still!

Yeah maybe awful was the wrong word but he hardly asked anything about me and hardly let me speak, I didn't see how he could've had decided it was 'amazing' and just felt I could've been anyone.

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CoastalCalm · 05/06/2024 14:08

It doesn’t sound awful to me just not a spark there , two of my best mates I met when we went on first dates but had no romantic interest at all