Went on an awful date last night

I went on a blind date once and all he talked about was his ex girlfriend and how bloody wonderful she was.
She left him for someone else but he was besotted. The date lasted all of an hour, as I made my excuses he asked if we could meet again as he enjoyed talking to me and it was helping him!
Not going to say what I said in reply to that😁

People never cease to amaze me.
You get to where you are supposed to be meeting (and I am in the make it in a cafe/pub group) and he tells you to keep on walking towards where he has decided to be, instead?
No apology, no 'So sorry, running late, walking towards you, do you want to wait or meet me half way? ' Just 'Keep on walking.'
Your best bet would have been to turn around and walk away.

OP, most men would have thought they had an amazing time if they'd spent the entire time talking about themselves. He probably thought you had an amazing time as well, because he sounds pretty thoughtless and uninterested in anyone else. No doubt he's the type who just wants a girlfriend to listen to him.

Re: organisation, on second date my DH requested we meet on a street corner rather than a restaurant (so we could choose together). I thought it was really weird but I liked him...turns out that's the norm for meeting up for dates / with friends in the country he's from. I wouldn't write someone off for that sort of thing - if you get on with them on the actual date itself!

"I replied I was on X street like he told me to go to. He then told me to carry on walking down towards the seafront"
The pissing about with the location would have irritated me. Why not just set the meeting point as - the seafront? I may well have decided not to go to the seafront at all, just gone home.

It just sounds really boring if there was no proper interaction.

Oh well. Next!

It isn't too different, as long as you don't go into a private space with that person. It doesn't sound like OP was trying to do that.

You do realise you can be kidnapped off the street by a stranger, just as easily as by an online date?

Maybe it was amazing for him as previous dates women have wittered on about themselves so this time he has a chance to talk about himself as you are a quiet person.

Or maybe he's just full of himself and laid favourite subject is him!

Or he was very nervous and masked it by wittering on and you weren't very chatty so he felt a need to keep going!

It was only an hour and a bad so only a snapshot of what he's like.

But if no chemistry then that's it, move on .

It's not the same as randomly passing someone on the street at all. It's a completely different scenario. Still you take your risks.

Same as the dude who walks past you on the street. I don't follow your reasoning, but whatever makes you feel safer.

An online first date is a stranger. You do not know them.

I think you're no more in danger from an online date on the street as you are from a stranger. As long as you don't meet at 3am and you keep your boundaries in place. No car rides from strangers.

Not at all. You plan to meet a stranger in the street. What next you get in his car as he knows a really nice place to go? Do we never learn!

Isn't that a bit like saying...for your own safety, don't walk past men in the street. Only do it in the pub.

Throw this one back.

It sounds more boring and tedious rather than awful. Leave earlier next time and go and do something you enjoy.

For your own safety don't meet up with a strange man in the street. Meet in a pub with other people around you.😏

I don't know about OP but I wouldn't be interested in a "really attractive" man who showed absolutely no interest in me and who I am.

I guess you just weren't attracted to him at first sight - he sounds like he's super busy, really wants a relationship, and wants to date whilst he's tired without really putting much thought or preparation into it.

I know I need time to decompress after a long day.

If you thought he was really attractive, you might have overlooked the crap organisation, or extended the date to give him a chance to relax into it, the connection might have been a bit better sat down somewhere with a drink?

The organisation wasn't great, but it doesn't come across as malicious or trying to exploit you? Unless you got those vibes.

(Agree it sounds very shit but also sometimes people act weird/make a bad first impression/gabble because of nerves...I know I'm guilty of that sometimes).

May be a great match for someone else. Onwards and upwards!

I've been on similar dates where a guy just talks at me for an hour, doesn't ask me any questions and seemingly has no interest in me as a human being other than as an audience for his inane ramblings.
It's his problem, not yours. Just be glad you only had to tolerate it for an hour and 20 minutes - some poor women marry these bores!

Men have a much shorter list of requirements for a girlfirend, the majority aren't interested in the actual person, they just want a female that's half decent looking to shag and maybe facilitate their lives a bit.
He was all about him op, it was an awful date, don't listen to people downplaying it, it's not a miss match, he put no effort into getting to know you as a human being.
People's standards are depressingly low imo.

These days I would 100% call dudes out on it.

Nothing to loose if you have no intention of seeing him again - and it may save the next lass from a similar fate.

That's 90 minutes of your life you ain't getting back OP 🤨

It does sound awful! He sounds dire and as if he's on a different planet. Of course there could be worse dates but don't let PP tell you that you are incorrectly describing your own experience.

Just to add, I definitely got the impression that my date just wanted a girlfriend and fast.

I had the exact same experience a few years ago just before the pandemic. The guy talked non-stop about himself, he literally didn't even pause for breath, he didn't ask me anything about myself and the whole experience was really horrible. I left as soon as i reasonably could. I thought the whole thing had been a disaster but he texted me as soon as I got home to say he had really enjoyed it and could we do it again! I said that I really didn't think it was going to work and wished him well. I'm still completely amazed that he thought it had gone well.

I understand, OP. Some men have this annoying habit of not asking questions on a date or showing any interest in you. I think it's because they're looking for sex and anyone half decent looking will do.

He’s in love with himself so no need for a soul mate. Just someone to get jiggy with and any hole will do. You dodged a bullet although I would’ve quickly interrupted his ‘all about me’ Ted Talk.