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Afternoon Tea - how can anyone eat it all?

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wasntlikethisinthegoodolddays · 05/06/2024 12:43

I've been looking at things to do next weekend. Looked on Wowcher, Groupon etc. A regular offer is Afternoon Tea for two. Whilst it looks lovely, they regularly feature about 6 sandwich corners each, a few savoury items and FOUR cakes each. I love my food, and I like cake, but there's no way I could eat all of that in one sitting. Can anyone eat four cakes in a row? Are we meant to take a doggy bag?

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TheGoogleMum · 22/06/2024 08:33

Skip lunch and probably a light dinner if at all. I don't usually have any problem finishing though. The cakes are tiny and I've always got room for a bit of cake (this is why I'm fat haha)

CandidHedgehog · 22/06/2024 08:28

Grammarnut · 21/06/2024 21:48

No, I am not a lawyer. I know however that there is no right to take the food left-overs home in the UK, so the restaurant may refuse, or say they have no containers, whereas in e.g. the US there is a right to take it home - because of a difference in what you are buying.

So you don’t actually have any sort of source? That’s just your opinion? Why do you think that, then? You may be right but if I pay for X amount of food, surely all of the food is mine?

GrannyWeatherwaxsHatpin · 22/06/2024 00:05

Fluffypuppy1 · 21/06/2024 21:36

Just book it at either lunchtime or dinner time. At The Ritz you can book 11:30 am or 1:30 pm (lunch) or 7:30 pm as a dinner. You can also book mid afternoon, which is traditional, but it’s unlikely you’ll be very hungry then.

I can be hungry/enjoy an afternoon tea at any time of day, and regardless of whether I’ve had lunch and/or dinner.

HTH.

Nave · 21/06/2024 22:32

Grammarnut · 21/06/2024 21:26

Technically you were stealing. In the UK you do not buy the food but the serving of it and the place into which to eat it. If asked, doggy bags can be provided, but it's not a right.
But I would have thought three of you could have eaten an afternoon tea.

Edited

So she was right!

Grammarnut · 21/06/2024 21:48

CandidHedgehog · 21/06/2024 21:32

Can you quote the law that says that? Because it’s not my understanding other than in regard to specific ‘all you can eat’ buffets where you are limited to what you can eat at the time.

For any other food, the restaurant can decline to provide packaging but I thought the law was that you have purchased the food and can remove it from the premises if you choose.

No, I am not a lawyer. I know however that there is no right to take the food left-overs home in the UK, so the restaurant may refuse, or say they have no containers, whereas in e.g. the US there is a right to take it home - because of a difference in what you are buying.

Fluffypuppy1 · 21/06/2024 21:36

Just book it at either lunchtime or dinner time. At The Ritz you can book 11:30 am or 1:30 pm (lunch) or 7:30 pm as a dinner. You can also book mid afternoon, which is traditional, but it’s unlikely you’ll be very hungry then.

HooverHunting · 21/06/2024 21:34

The running fox Northumberland does a gigantic afternoon tea. It could easily be shared between 3. Other places you need 2 to fill you up

CandidHedgehog · 21/06/2024 21:32

Grammarnut · 21/06/2024 21:26

Technically you were stealing. In the UK you do not buy the food but the serving of it and the place into which to eat it. If asked, doggy bags can be provided, but it's not a right.
But I would have thought three of you could have eaten an afternoon tea.

Edited

Can you quote the law that says that? Because it’s not my understanding other than in regard to specific ‘all you can eat’ buffets where you are limited to what you can eat at the time.

For any other food, the restaurant can decline to provide packaging but I thought the law was that you have purchased the food and can remove it from the premises if you choose.

Grammarnut · 21/06/2024 21:26

Nave · 21/06/2024 15:48

I took my 2 granddaughters for one of those teas and brought a Tupperware box with me on the advice of a friend. When I started putting food into it at the end my 6 year old granddaughter had a complete meltdown (out of character for her) as she was convinced I was stealing food and would be arrested! Its rather put me off those teas.

Technically you were stealing. In the UK you do not buy the food but the serving of it and the place into which to eat it. If asked, doggy bags can be provided, but it's not a right.
But I would have thought three of you could have eaten an afternoon tea.

NalafromtheLionKing · 21/06/2024 19:15

Haven’t had one for a while but we would usually have it at lunchtime and take home most of the scones.

godmum56 · 21/06/2024 18:07

went last week, we were offered a box for the half a scone and half a chocolate tart left...we declined with thanks!!

Nave · 21/06/2024 15:48

I took my 2 granddaughters for one of those teas and brought a Tupperware box with me on the advice of a friend. When I started putting food into it at the end my 6 year old granddaughter had a complete meltdown (out of character for her) as she was convinced I was stealing food and would be arrested! Its rather put me off those teas.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 12/06/2024 11:48

DAZZlanch · 11/06/2024 21:08

I love how our eating culture is coming round to the idea of taking food home. I lived in China for a few months and there it’s absolutely normal to takeaway what you don’t eat - if my perimenopausal memory serves me right, I think it’s called ‘da bao’. If I don’t finish food in a restaurant these days, I always ask to take it home! X

I hate food wastage. So yes, on the one hand, it's good if genuine food wastage can be prevented by people taking leftovers home. (Although most takeaway containers are not environmentally friendly, so there's that to take into consideration.) But what I really dislike about North American culture is the portion sizes being so huge that you expect not to eat more than half your meal. It's so wasteful and leads to a culture of overeating. Just serve normal sized portions, correctly priced, and let people order extra stuff if they want more. In general the countries where it is normal to take boxed leftovers home from every restaurant meal are the same countries where the obesity crisis is worst.

DAZZlanch · 11/06/2024 21:08

I love how our eating culture is coming round to the idea of taking food home. I lived in China for a few months and there it’s absolutely normal to takeaway what you don’t eat - if my perimenopausal memory serves me right, I think it’s called ‘da bao’. If I don’t finish food in a restaurant these days, I always ask to take it home! X

Turtletumy · 10/06/2024 20:00

‘Tis but a morsel 😂😂😂

stressedespresso · 09/06/2024 00:39

therealcookiemonster · 07/06/2024 14:42

I don't have a dress size. all these afternoon teas means that I have had to resort to buying tents from aldi and wearing those

Just had a real spat my tea out moment at this 🤣👏

Coventgardengirl · 08/06/2024 23:34

User353526 · 05/06/2024 14:01

YANBU, I was thinking the same thing yesterday. Even though portion sizes are smaller than a full meal, it's still a huge amount of carbs to be eating in one sitting. Eg for breakfast you would never eat 5 rolls in one sitting but all the sandwiches, scones and cakes would easily add up to that.

Saw a random Tiktok for the Dinosaur Afternoon Tea at the Amsterdam Hotel yesterday, which seems designed with children in mind (??). It looks delightful but the sugar content seems off the charts. After the cakes & scones, you get a tin of chocolate cake crumbs and you have to dig through that to find chocolate dinosaurs.

Tbh afternoon tea seems like a fancy way to justify wild over-indulgence. Totally fine in moderation or special occasions but it's definitely not normal to normalise the amount of calories served (or judging by the replies here, expected to be consumed) in one sitting. That's why half the country is obese.

And a full house !!!!

Asifihavetimeforthis · 08/06/2024 21:35

sprigatito · 05/06/2024 12:46

Take a Tupperware if you're worried. But yes, there do exist people - women, even! who can eat some sandwiches and a few small bits of cake without rupturing themselves.

But enjoy your thread full of phrases like "hoover up", "polish off" and "couldn't possibly manage". It's been at least an hour since we had one.

Hooray it’s another mumsnet thread of competitive undereating. I really hoped we were getting past assigning virtue to small appetites.
Has anyone managed to squeeze in ‘being naughty’ yet?

Underestimated4 · 08/06/2024 12:33

Oh yeah I can 🤣

greengreyblue · 07/06/2024 16:40

@BMW6 A sense of proportion you say? The irony! 😂

YDBear · 07/06/2024 15:02

Often have afternoon tea in London. Sandwiches are almost always fingers, usually 4, each one of no more than two bites. Then there are scones, usually 2. Then there are cakes, usually half a dozen (between 2 people) that are about the size of French Fancies. It’s pleasant enough; the idea that it’s “too much” for anyone if frankly bewildering. Caffe Concerto used to be our favourite but they seem to have hoiked their prices about 50% (I’m not kidding) so we probably won’t visit again soon. Cafe Rouge does a decent tea for 2 which you get for under £30 on a Groupon. (Obviously the big hotels with their £80 a head charges aren’t for the casual tea-taker.) Overall, afternoon tea prices at the lower—affordable—end have shot up in the last two years. What used to be in the low £30s for two is now at least £10 more expensive.

therealcookiemonster · 07/06/2024 14:42

Cliedi · 07/06/2024 14:04

I am sooooo fascinated by the behaviour on this thread. I would just love to know the dress sizes of everyone commenting. Could we do this going forward?

Jane, size 10

I don't have a dress size. all these afternoon teas means that I have had to resort to buying tents from aldi and wearing those

KnitnNatterAuntie · 07/06/2024 14:37

CharlotteBog · 07/06/2024 14:28

I've never had afternoon tea. Should I even be here?
I've had many cream teas though.

Yes, please stay

You just need to add a few finger sandwiches and a small selection of tiny cakes to your cream tea, along with a teapot of Earl Grey and you can become a fully fledged member of The Afternoon Tea Appreciation Society 😂

benid · 07/06/2024 14:33

Cliedi · 07/06/2024 14:04

I am sooooo fascinated by the behaviour on this thread. I would just love to know the dress sizes of everyone commenting. Could we do this going forward?

Jane, size 10

NO

CharlotteBog · 07/06/2024 14:28

I've never had afternoon tea. Should I even be here?
I've had many cream teas though.