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To want my sons correct surname?

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MummyToBe23 · 05/06/2024 12:06

A little rant and checking if I am being unreasonable!

We registered our newborn son with our doctors surgery with his correct name and surname (he has my husbands surname not mine) but the surgery have registered him with the NHS using my surname…which is not what it says on his passport or birth certificate (both of which I’ve shown them!)

It seems to be a massive issue for them to change it and it’s just quite annoying given it is not his surname! He has never had the surname.

AIBU to keep asking them to change it?

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eurochick · 05/06/2024 12:43

I've had this issue too. My daughter's surname is Hisname-Myname. At the surgery she is just Myname. I've corrected it but it always seems to revert. Last time I got it corrected the receptionist started babbling about needing to bring in her birth certificate to show the name change. I did eventually manage to get across that there has been no change, they just keep getting it wrong. Grrrr.

Needmorelego · 05/06/2024 12:38

@ConfusedConfuse does your daughter have both surnames on her birth certificate though?
That will be why they say she should be registered at the doctor's with both names.
A double surname is her surname.
Isn't it?

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MummyToBe23 · 05/06/2024 12:38

Needmorelego · 05/06/2024 12:36

@MummyToBe23 that does sound odd.
All babies born in hospital are given the same name as their mother at first but loads then get a different (ie their dad's) when registered - which might not be until a month later.
Very strange.

Yes! They said once it’s on the system it’s hard to change it. So strange. And irritating!

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ohtowinthelottery · 05/06/2024 12:36

Why would they need a new NHS number because they changed the surname? Surely people change their names all the time - they're still the same person!

Needmorelego · 05/06/2024 12:36

@MummyToBe23 that does sound odd.
All babies born in hospital are given the same name as their mother at first but loads then get a different (ie their dad's) when registered - which might not be until a month later.
Very strange.

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MummyToBe23 · 05/06/2024 12:32

Yes it is very odd! I’ve now sent his birth certificate to them three times yet their records still show him under my surname. His passport hasn’t yet arrived or I could try giving that but who knows when that’ll arrive!

They seemed very confused that my child could have a different surname to me 😑

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ConfusedConfuse · 05/06/2024 12:30

How strange. My daughter has both mine and her father's surname and I asked the GP to put her just under my name and they absolutely refused without a deedpoll so I find this odd. As my daughter does actually have my name.

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MummyToBe23 · 05/06/2024 12:29

Thank you, I’ve spoken again and they said they can try to update it on their records but that it may not filter to other departments/hospitals if he is referred as his NHS number says “FirstName WrongSurnsme” and to change the surname means a new nhs number. CONFUSED!

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Ghostgirl77 · 05/06/2024 12:26

It’s the other way around - his NHS number already exists with your surname as babies are automatically registered under this at birth. When they added his NHS number to the surgery record it probably updated the name on their records as well. Put a written request in and they should be able to sort it.

Needmorelego · 05/06/2024 12:24

Just tell them.
Babies are allocated a NHS number at birth and they will automatically be given the surname of the mother when born (this is important for security reasons).
You literally just need to tell the GP.
My daughters Red Book has "Baby - My Surname" written on it - then crossed out and changed to "Her name - Dad's Surname".
Edit : I see you have asked. Next time say "Is there a form to fill out? I will do it now"

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MummyToBe23 · 05/06/2024 12:17

Thingymagig · 05/06/2024 12:13

Definitely ask them to change it.

Politely but firmly.

This is an error not of your making if they have got the details wrong after seeing the correct documentation - but the longer it goes on the harder it will be sort out (you don’t want to lose records if vaccinations etc)

ask to speak to the practice manager and ask for their help in resolving this issue.

Thank you, that was exactly my worry regarding vaccinations etc. I’ve been really polite but they are just not doing it and every time I ring they say my surname. ARGH. Practice manager always is busy to speak to me when I ring!

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Thingymagig · 05/06/2024 12:13

Definitely ask them to change it.

Politely but firmly.

This is an error not of your making if they have got the details wrong after seeing the correct documentation - but the longer it goes on the harder it will be sort out (you don’t want to lose records if vaccinations etc)

ask to speak to the practice manager and ask for their help in resolving this issue.