Would you be ok with Dh taking dc on a flight for the first time

I'm sure they'll both be fine. However, I wouldn't let mine take them on the bus...

You really have to start cutting the cord, op. Your daughter is 5, not a baby. She needs to start developing her independence away from you. She will be with her father and she will be perfectly fine.

Your husband is your daughter’s father. If she needs comfort, reassurance or anything else she will have him. He is her parent and it would be the exact same scenario as you taking her on a flight solo.

Yes you may miss her but it’s for a few days and she’ll be back. Your child isn’t your property. Let her grow as her own person and develop confidence to be away from you.

My husband has always taken our sons away without me from them being babies. They're in their 20s now. It's fine. I enjoy the break. They're with their dad so are every bit as safe as they are with me. (They both have autism.)

Have I been worried when he takes them away? - no.

Do I miss them? Yeah, but honestly, I really enjoy the peace. They went back home for a month to visit extended family some years ago. Best month ever. I crafted, watched shit films and got drunk with my sister. 😁

For various reasons we have both taken young children on our own on flights. DC were fine. I admit that different children travel better than others but generally should not be a problem.

Personally, No I wouldn't be okay with that. I'd want to be with them for their first flight and first time out of the country.

Ah she’s growing up but this trip is a good thing and will be a great experience for both of them 😊 My son was 8 before he had his first night(s) away from me. No reason why it took that long, that’s just how it worked out but no harm done. He’s 11 now and just had a week at a sports training camp, home for a few days and then away again for his school residential! He’s no worse off for leaving his adventures til a bit later. I hope they have a lovely time and you enjoy a break too.

Why yes of course. It’s not like you’re mum and therefore the default ie read better parent. He is an adult and will be able to look after your child. I suppose you have no hesitation to go without him?

She’ll be with her father who you say is perfectly capable of looking after her, she’ll be fine. Get a spa weekend booked in and enjoy the break!

Gently, but I think the question is if YOU will be ok. She will be fine! Even if there’s a bit of adjusting, that’s a normal part of growing up and it would be a wonderful experience for her. Don’t frame this as a negative thing, especially not around her or your partner.

Miss their child? less than I'd though 😂
Worry? I worry even when they are in the park behind the house, but we still need to have a life.

How long is the flight?
Is it another language?
I will take a wild guess and imagine it's fairly civilised, at worst, if something was happening , can't the family arrange video calls with you, it's not like you will disappear.

For 3 days, it can't be Australia from the UK, which would be a bit of an issue regarding the flight for you.

He’s his dad. How would you feel if he didn’t trust you in similar circumstances?

Normal to miss your DC but in the unlikely event of anything happening, your DH will be there

I was working in Singapore when DS broke his leg badly at school. I got a flight home asap but DH was with DS all the time in hospital and as he was taken into surgery.

The flight is a red herring though I think! If she was going for 3 days away with other parent in a car at 5 surely no one would bat an eyelid? I think she'll be fine and it will be a fun adventure for her. I'm sure you'll miss each other but it's good practise too in case you're in hospital for a few days after birth

I think this is pregnancy hormones speaking, OP. There's absolutely nothing to worry about, other than your own feelings.

She'll have a blast. And fgs don't tell her how you're feeling!

That's entirely different to what you said initially, though.

And yes, she'll be fine - unless you're going to dripfeed additional information...

Its normal to miss them. But we can't not do things just because we might miss them.

As they grow up, we need to encourage them to spread their wings. Its part of parenting them... make them independent of us.

Far better for her first time away from you overnight to be on a fun holiday with daddy.

Than when you go and have the baby. There's all sorts of things that could mean that you might need to stay in hospital for a few days at some point.

So a really good idea to get both of you used to it

My DH recently took our then 4yo on a 5 hour flight to see relatives. I couldn't go because of work. He got upset on facetime the first night because he missed me but overall they were gone for 5 nights and they had a great time together.

No, I'd want to be there, and my DH would get it.

I'm sure most parents would miss their child, but that isn't a reason not to let the child go.

I completely get that you haven't spent a night away from your child before, but perhaps now is the time to get more comfortable with that. It's a lot better for your five-year-old to experience her first couple of nights away from you now, in the context of an exciting holiday with Daddy, than it would be if her first nights away from you were (for example) in hospital having an emergency operation, or indeed if you have to spend a couple of nights in hospital when your new baby arrives.

At least 3 times a year I take my 3 year old away for weeks without DH/her dad. It's never occurred to me to not do? Is that you don't want to miss out?

I think you are worrying yourself unnecessarily OP. Your child will be with their father, and loving relatives. Yes you will miss her, but this is an important step in her development as an independent human being, and you should be proud that she is ready to take it. You can face time her to see how she is enjoying her holiday, but if you do be positive, don’t ask if she is missing you, or say you are missing her.

Yep, fine. I love it when DH takes the kids away. I wouldn't mind missing their first flight.

My DD went with her father to visit his parents abroad at 6 months old without me for a week and all was fine.
At 5 years old it will be a lovely bonding trip for them ❤️