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To think staying in your pyjamas on stay at home days is minging?

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Iaminthefly · 05/06/2024 06:29

A mum has just posted on one of my SM groups saying that she never gets herself or DC out of their pyjamas if they are having a day in the house. She asked if other people do the same. Loads of people have responded saying they also don't dress themselves or DC if they aren't planning on leaving the house.

AIBU to find this a bit minging? Fair enough if you're ill or as a one off, but every time you are home? Who want's to sit around all day unwashed in clothes you've had on all night? Also surely it's setting a terrible example for your children?

Maybe I'm just an old dinosaur but I think it shows a shocking lack of any standards.

Feel free to tell me I'm old and out of touch.

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Orangeandgold · 07/06/2024 02:03

I have something called “home clothes” - if I’m staying in then My PJs come off and the home clothes come on. It’s clothes that I wouldn’t wear out but 10/10 for comfort. Could be old T-shirts; old PJs; loungewear.

Im sure I’ve had days I’ve stayed in my PJs.

I don’t think it’s an issue to be in PJs all day. It doesn’t set a bad example. I think when your children become teens and they start smelling - then it’s minging.

Yoonimum · 07/06/2024 01:30

Iaminthefly · 05/06/2024 06:37

@Mrsjayy But it wasn't just one day. Some people were saying they do it multiple days. One woman said she wfh three days a week and never gets dressed when she does!

When I worked from home I would do this on multiple days but always had a shower after tea/before bed and changed PJs nightly. Also, I'd wear knickers, changed daily, with them, too. They're just clothes that are more comfortable, that's all.

DiduAye · 07/06/2024 00:25

YABVU firstly because it's non of your business what people do in the privacy of their own homes and secondly because you equate not putting clothes on with not washing or wearing what was slept in which probably isn't the case.

Cornflakelover · 06/06/2024 23:56

If I’m staying in I will shower and put my PJs on

if I’ve been out once I get back home I change into my pjs /

I have loads of pjs and hoodie type long t shirts so whatever I put on is clean

LazyGewl · 06/06/2024 23:37

Andtheworldwentwhite · 06/06/2024 07:56

@Dentistlakes i hate it when people say they are disgusting if they don’t shower everyday. You have come from a place of very high privilege to be able to afford to run the water and the electric for everyone in the house to shower everyday. It is an expensive thing for people to do. So maybe check urself before making comments like this. As that will make feel feel even worse about the fact they cannot afford it.

Maybe more than one of you can shower at the same time to save money?

Famfirst · 06/06/2024 23:01

Iaminthefly · 05/06/2024 06:35

I don't mean to sound like a bully. I meant it more from the personal view point that I would feel sweaty, smelly and basically minging if I sat around in last nights PJs all day!

You don’t know what you’re missing 😆

ElizaJ74 · 06/06/2024 22:59

I have a drawer full of pj's but actually sleep naked.
I love nothing better than a designated lazy day, shower, clean pj's and an afternoon in front of the tv.
Now we're judging how people relax in the privacy of their own homes?!
And their cleanliness?!
Give over!

Jeannie88 · 06/06/2024 22:26

This is something I would never have dreamed of doing and never did as a child. I couldn't believe it when I visited anyone who did this, judged it as slobbish and lazy. However, since becoming a parent and very rarely having a home day at the weekend, yes I have done it sometimes! Not us, we change, but let dc stay in pjs until evening bathtime then fresh nightwear. It really is quite nice tbh not to have to change their clothes all day now and then. As I said, it's not often as we usually go out, but now I'm not adverse to it. I xx

Laurama91 · 06/06/2024 22:03

My dad used to tell me not to get dressed in school holidays if I wasn't going out to save on washing.... it kind of stuck with me

IrnBruLolly · 06/06/2024 22:01

Of course someone’s come along to blame it all on the fats 🙄

Pretty sure it's the carbs, tbf. 🤣

Milliemoo1908 · 06/06/2024 21:57

Gymmum82 · 05/06/2024 06:40

If I go out then come back home, jammies on. If I stay in all day, jammies stay on. Basically if I’m in my house I’m wearing jammies. I only wear clothes to leave the house. Comfort only for me

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PeonyAndBlushSuede · 06/06/2024 21:53

Feel free to tell me I'm old and out of touch.

@Iaminthefly unsure of your age so not going to comment anything ageist but….

You sound like a nauseating snob. And I’m so glad I don’t have any friends who share your views. My friends and I love PJ days and hope we can give the snobs something to snigger about to make themselves feel superior whilst we go about and enjoy our days.

FlipFlop1987 · 06/06/2024 21:49

I change twice! But more for comfort and warmth. I can’t regulate my body temp overnight so always sleep in vest and shorts, then when I get up I swap the shorts for ‘lounge wear’, usually quite thick comfy house clothes because then I’m freezing once I’m up. These are just for cup of tea and breakfast. Then I shower and dress properly.
I can’t stay in my pajamas all day, I’ve currently got Covid and feel absolutely rotten but still managed to get dressed even though it was just a tracksuit and took about half an hour.

I can only imagine some people’s washing piles changing pajamas, towels and bedding every day. Their electricity bills must be sky high!

mondaytosunday · 06/06/2024 21:47

My teen DD doesn't bother getting dressed on the weekends. Only on the very oddest days would I not get dressed as I have dogs for one thing, and (shockingly for MN) do answer the door!
The other Sunday other was pouring with rain and we stayed in and I wore a kaftan in the house, when it cleared up that night I took the dogs out without getting dressed- threw a long cardi over. But it was dark and was just walking around the neighbourhood.
When kids were little though I still got them dressed as it was part of the routine, but I'd also say it was a rare day we didn't go out somewhere.

BitOutOfPractice · 06/06/2024 21:41

Wow @OldPerson. Just wow! I’m going to say it, are you ok? You seem, I dunno, angry. 😆

Don’t bother having a go back at me. I go to the gym 4x a week and have never even seen anyone do the school run in their pyjamas so…

IrnBruLolly · 06/06/2024 21:34

It's usually always the obese, who are just waiting for a fashion designer to design the right trend.

I believe it's called a mumu. 👀

Hmm1234 · 06/06/2024 21:31

Staying indoors like that is fine but there’s some people in my area that will happily come onto the Main Street or shops in pjs and a dressing gown 😶

Floorbard · 06/06/2024 21:22

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Of course someone’s come along to blame it all on the fats 🙄 I’d rather be fat and comfortable than thin and judgmental! What a waste of your time to
be so unpleasant.

ILoveCats89 · 06/06/2024 21:21

If Im not going out I wear pj's all day, but I don't sleep in pj's so... Not as bad.

Notenoughtime23 · 06/06/2024 21:07

people are so bloody jusgemental! We are out nearly every day but if ever we get a free Sunday then sometimes we like to stay in our pj’s all day and just relax. Maybe play some games with the kids. I couldn’t do it all the time as I would get fed up but now and again I love it especially in the winter when it’s raining outside and we have the fire on. To say it’s minging or that we are consigning children to a half life or just nonsense!

Blaidd · 06/06/2024 21:03

SallyWD · 05/06/2024 07:24

I couldn't do it unless I was ill. I need to get dressed and face the day, even if I'm staying in all day. I was brought up to think it's somewhat slovenly to spend too much time in pyjamas.

Are you my Auntie Joyce? She hated anyone who had the temerity to have a lie in (anytime past 07.00). She would proceed to vacuum in the same room as the miscreant - yes me, bone idle, always have been, who enjoys luxuriating stretched out in bed as long as humanly possible 😁

celticprincess · 06/06/2024 20:57

Quite often in school holidays where we don’t need to be anywhere I will have a PJ day and won’t get changed. Or on a weekend if the kids are at their dad’s and I’m not required for taxi services I might. Nothing wrong with it. My teen frequently stays in PJs on a Sunday but then Sunday night she does shower and wash hair and put fresh on for bed. Youngest always seems to get dressed and even showered these days. She will go out to the shop at least if we aren’t doing anything.

I think if you aren’t socialising or seeing anyone then it’s up to you what you do with yourself and kids. When mine were younger we did sometimes have PJ days but they always had a bath and fresh ones of an evening if they’d been in them all day.

ArseholeCatIsABlackAndWhiteCat · 06/06/2024 20:56

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Damn these fat people with their onesies ruining... I don't know exactly what... but they're definitely ruining something.🙄

Auburngal · 06/06/2024 20:56

PJs are for bed. If I wore them past breakfast then I would feel I need to go to bed

Auburngal · 06/06/2024 20:53

I think the lady has died as house was sold.

The house opposite the entrance to the private drive where my fist is was wearing her fluffy dressing gown all day all year round (even at 35c) smoking away by her front door. I called her Fag Ash Lil