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To think staying in your pyjamas on stay at home days is minging?

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Iaminthefly · 05/06/2024 06:29

A mum has just posted on one of my SM groups saying that she never gets herself or DC out of their pyjamas if they are having a day in the house. She asked if other people do the same. Loads of people have responded saying they also don't dress themselves or DC if they aren't planning on leaving the house.

AIBU to find this a bit minging? Fair enough if you're ill or as a one off, but every time you are home? Who want's to sit around all day unwashed in clothes you've had on all night? Also surely it's setting a terrible example for your children?

Maybe I'm just an old dinosaur but I think it shows a shocking lack of any standards.

Feel free to tell me I'm old and out of touch.

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Gbtch · 08/06/2024 22:27

F in l girls! Have some self respect. PJs all day only if unwell/ unable to wash up! FFS!

IBegYourBiggestPardon · 08/06/2024 19:28

Unless I'm off out or going to work. I live in my pjs. However I don't sleep in them so it's not like they get sweaty during the night.

Teachertired92 · 08/06/2024 08:33

I have ‘comfies’ which I deem a step up from pyjamas, usually a tracksuit or legging set, which I wear with a sports bra. I get dressed into those for the day

Catsmere · 08/06/2024 08:16

I've eaten dinner in PJs for decades. Home from work, shower, PJs, and dinner comes later. It feels odd to still be in day clothes, even my at-home track pants and jumper, when I'm having dinner now. I rarely wear the PJs in bed, so they have more of a "relaxing in the evening" than "sleepwear" association for me (although they are flannelette, definitely made for bed).

Which reminds me, time for PJs and dressing gown and dinner! :)

Calliopespa · 08/06/2024 08:02

Cincin22 · 05/06/2024 16:41

I always get dressed unless im really ill. The thought of cooking or eating lunches and dinners in my pyjamas is gross to me. And then going back to bed in the same clothing ive been cooking and eating in..yuck 🤮

I think most people change it before bed.

milkywithsixsugars · 08/06/2024 07:58

I have 1 dc in early primary, and 1 young toddler. We’re all out of the house every day, so one day each weekend we’re out busy, and one day we have a PJ day (at my oldest’s request). My children are bathed the night before and their PJs are clean, and I wash them and brush their teeth when we get up. I tend to not leave my actual PJs on, but change into comfortable lounge pants and a T-shirt/sweatshirt in case I have to answer the door or someone pops in to visit.
My children love having a PJ day, knowing they can just stay home, play all day and run around in the garden, and they’re comfortable. They’re obviously bathed and in clean PJs again before bed.
My siblings are the same as us with their families (it’s what we did as children), and my in laws are dressed by 10am whether they’re going out or not. My DP is quite happy to now have a PJ day once a week!
I think what someone does in their own home, and what works for their family, is up to them.

LazyGewl · 08/06/2024 06:59

blackheartsgirl · 07/06/2024 13:37

I’ve occasionally done this and tbh it’s done me the world of good.

I don’t stop normally, I rush about, never have a minute to myself and I have a lot of stress in my life.

the fact that I don’t have to get dressed, can stay in pjs all day, I’m not needed, don’t have to go anywhere, can just breathe does more for my mental health than anything else.

other days I will shower, get dressed, go for a little walk, get the teens to do the same but often we don’t and it’s our time to spend together.

Hygiene bloody hell, the occasional day isn’t going to hurt 😭

I suppose if you see showering and dressing as a chore it is a treat not to have to do it occasionally, but my daily shower is something I really look forward to. For me it is more relaxing to shower than not to.

When my boiler broke down I took temp
membership of the economy gym just so I could have my morning shower.

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 08/06/2024 06:46

LazyGewl · 08/06/2024 06:30

It actually isn’t bollocks - unless you are not ovulating (I am not as I am post menopausal), peeing, sweating or pooing.

It doesn't mean you stink though.

Smelling like roses or coconuts isn't "better" than smelling like a human woman.

Smelling like you've been soaked in urine is one thing, but smelling like you're a human is absolutely fine.

LazyGewl · 08/06/2024 06:35

Yesterday, I held off showering till around 4pm and worked in my lounge gear - just to see what it’s like. I just didn’t feel great. I felt that I hadn’t fully woken up. When I jumped in the shower it was so beautiful. I came out of the shower feeling and smelling really good and that elevated my mood. I felt somehow perkier. So the not showering thing isn’t for me.

I was going to try not showering and staying in my PJs on a non work day, but I think I shall give it a miss.

LazyGewl · 08/06/2024 06:30

SnowFrogJelly · 08/06/2024 01:12

To those people who say it’s not unhygienic and they don’t smell - yes you do. There’s not a woman alive who doesn’t need a wash EVERY morning so whip off the pyjama bottoms and sort yourself out. Ugh!

Utter Mumsnet bollocks

It actually isn’t bollocks - unless you are not ovulating (I am not as I am post menopausal), peeing, sweating or pooing.

SnowFrogJelly · 08/06/2024 01:12

To those people who say it’s not unhygienic and they don’t smell - yes you do. There’s not a woman alive who doesn’t need a wash EVERY morning so whip off the pyjama bottoms and sort yourself out. Ugh!

Utter Mumsnet bollocks

Toptops · 07/06/2024 20:52

I find people who don't get dressed if they're not ill rather depressing. Seems a bit slack.
Showing my age no doubt

blackheartsgirl · 07/06/2024 13:37

I’ve occasionally done this and tbh it’s done me the world of good.

I don’t stop normally, I rush about, never have a minute to myself and I have a lot of stress in my life.

the fact that I don’t have to get dressed, can stay in pjs all day, I’m not needed, don’t have to go anywhere, can just breathe does more for my mental health than anything else.

other days I will shower, get dressed, go for a little walk, get the teens to do the same but often we don’t and it’s our time to spend together.

Hygiene bloody hell, the occasional day isn’t going to hurt 😭

Poorlymumma · 07/06/2024 13:18

I have a chronic illness, sahm due to this and I have a lot of comfy clothes. I have a bath or shower mostly every day and get changed from leggings into pyjamas and vice versa, never spend all day and night in the same thing. And I make my child get dressed from pyjamas into joggers if we're having a comfy day at home, and he has a bath every night.

For me it's really important to maintain whatever routines I can though because I spend a lot of time at home.

BigMandsTattooPortfolio · 07/06/2024 12:58

I. Do. Not. Smell. And I like staying in all day and pottering around - it’s my idea of bliss.

LazyGewl · 07/06/2024 11:13

I am working from home today and have decided to give it a go. I haven't showered yet, but am wearing really nice lounge gear in case anyone calls round. I have to say that so far I can't stand it and can't wait to get in the shower. wearing lounge gear is OK as it is very comfortable, but the not showering feels minging (no judgement on others. I just don't like it). Let's see how long I can last. The work is going well, though.

Edit: I guess it would be different if it was a lazy day rather than a work day, so I may try again at the weekend and see what results it yields.

Airspice · 07/06/2024 08:57

Not for me, I always get dressed, even if I have no intention of leaving the house. Ok so I don’t always shower if I’m not going out in public but I will always get dressed. Same for my kids, as toddlers, primary age, teens, they would always be dressed, even if just joggers and t-shirt or something. For my own personal ‘feeling ok’ I couldn’t stay in PJs all day.

Rubyupbeat · 07/06/2024 08:50

It's not minging, its that persons choice of chilling.
I have to get washed and dressed, otherwise I start to feel tired and down. I tried wearing 'loungewear ' but it did the same.
We are all different, it's what suits you.

Mrsjayy · 07/06/2024 08:29

Orangeandgold · 07/06/2024 02:03

I have something called “home clothes” - if I’m staying in then My PJs come off and the home clothes come on. It’s clothes that I wouldn’t wear out but 10/10 for comfort. Could be old T-shirts; old PJs; loungewear.

Im sure I’ve had days I’ve stayed in my PJs.

I don’t think it’s an issue to be in PJs all day. It doesn’t set a bad example. I think when your children become teens and they start smelling - then it’s minging.

My mum has home clothes it's usually joggers and various old jumpers she can get changed 2 or 3 times a day and still be back in her pyjamas by 7pm 😀

Catsmere · 07/06/2024 07:59

chocolatemademefat · 07/06/2024 07:57

To those people who say it’s not unhygienic and they don’t smell - yes you do. There’s not a woman alive who doesn’t need a wash EVERY morning so whip off the pyjama bottoms and sort yourself out. Ugh!

Are you sticking your head down for a sniff? I know my mum was never smelly and she didn't shower daily in recent years.

chocolatemademefat · 07/06/2024 07:57

To those people who say it’s not unhygienic and they don’t smell - yes you do. There’s not a woman alive who doesn’t need a wash EVERY morning so whip off the pyjama bottoms and sort yourself out. Ugh!

Jack80 · 07/06/2024 07:46

Some people clean in pjs/lounge wear, some people will change in to clean pjs after a shower/bath for the day. I like to get dressed even if it's into some joggers and a top/hoody but each to their own. I wouldn't be saying it's minging. It's just your opinion.

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 07/06/2024 07:22

Iaminthefly · 05/06/2024 06:37

@Mrsjayy But it wasn't just one day. Some people were saying they do it multiple days. One woman said she wfh three days a week and never gets dressed when she does!

I think not getting dressed for work is different to a "lazy day". I WFH but I still have to drop DD off at nursery and walk the dog etc, plus deliveries come (we don't like going out 😂). So clothes, even just "comfies" and a shower feels necessary.

A day where you're gonna sit on the sofa and watch films? PJs are fine.

UncleHerbie · 07/06/2024 05:54

Iaminthefly · 05/06/2024 06:35

I don't mean to sound like a bully. I meant it more from the personal view point that I would feel sweaty, smelly and basically minging if I sat around in last nights PJs all day!

I love my PJ days (as does my lovely husband) and occasionally we PJ it for days on end, particularly during covid. We sniff each other for pit stink but otherwise, we neither care nor judge anyone’s quirks. My early 20s stepson would be 🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢 if he knew, my awesome 19 yo stepdaughter would probably join us 😂😂😂😂😂

Bowies · 07/06/2024 05:47

I don’t think it’s of concern, but agree it’s healthy to get kids outside most days unless they are ill or exhausted.