Page 3 | To hate when people say a baby is ‘flirting’

Jaexo · 2024-06-04T20:40:30+00:00

What’s everyone’s opinion on this? I was recently round my in laws for all of my DH’s family to meet out LO, after going to a family member and being passed to the next one LO was cooing and smiling, the first family member then said ‘oh she’s such a little flirt’ and continued making comment like this multiple times as she went to each person - I think it’s a really weird, what’s everyone else opinion’s?

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Jaexo · 04/06/2024 22:57

Lemonade2011 · 04/06/2024 22:39

I’m a paeds nurse and some things I’ve overheard parents saying is a bit much, wee sexy bitch to a week old baby
horny little devil is another sexy flirty pants another. Clothes being described as sexy outfits, babies/kids flirting etc that’s in between the swearing, calling them little cunts when crying etc in 18 years I’ve seen a lot and these are in shared wards, single rooms and in the community I’m almost not shocked anymore tbh,

I just think some people don’t realise how inappropriate and wrong it is as it’s the done thing/everyone speaks like that in their circles. I had a gran pin me to a wall and the language was awful she was escorted out by security and the child’s mum said to me aw but what did you do to my mum, well dear I just asked her to keep her voice down as we had a very seriously ill child in the ward, the transfer team was there and gran was talking v loudly about what might be wrong etc, the child had meningitis and wasn’t likely to survive so we didn’t want parents hearing that, the daughter then kicked off. We had security in the scbu ward for a week due to one parent kicking off and trashing our parents room and throwing things and they escorted us all to our cars until the baby was discharged. Anyway off on a tangent but it is a daily occurrence these days, moved to community and it’s not that much better.

Oh my goodness that’s awful!! I know everyone’s different and thinks different things are appropriate but I couldn’t imagine ever acting like that in a hospital, or calling my newborn a little cunt because she’s crying!! I can’t believe to some people that’s acceptable let alone normal.
I have a few friends that work as security in hospitals and some of the stories they tell me about having to get people away for verbally and physically abusing staff are unreal.

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Lemonade2011 · 04/06/2024 22:39

I’m a paeds nurse and some things I’ve overheard parents saying is a bit much, wee sexy bitch to a week old baby
horny little devil is another sexy flirty pants another. Clothes being described as sexy outfits, babies/kids flirting etc that’s in between the swearing, calling them little cunts when crying etc in 18 years I’ve seen a lot and these are in shared wards, single rooms and in the community I’m almost not shocked anymore tbh,

I just think some people don’t realise how inappropriate and wrong it is as it’s the done thing/everyone speaks like that in their circles. I had a gran pin me to a wall and the language was awful she was escorted out by security and the child’s mum said to me aw but what did you do to my mum, well dear I just asked her to keep her voice down as we had a very seriously ill child in the ward, the transfer team was there and gran was talking v loudly about what might be wrong etc, the child had meningitis and wasn’t likely to survive so we didn’t want parents hearing that, the daughter then kicked off. We had security in the scbu ward for a week due to one parent kicking off and trashing our parents room and throwing things and they escorted us all to our cars until the baby was discharged. Anyway off on a tangent but it is a daily occurrence these days, moved to community and it’s not that much better.

vacay · 04/06/2024 22:39

Luminousalumnus · 04/06/2024 22:36

Some people use the word synonymously with charming, or saying they've got you wrapped round their little finger. Presumably nobody actually means they think a baby is flirting to get sexual attention.

Im sure most don't, but it sounds fucking weird

vacay · 04/06/2024 22:38

Fatotter · 04/06/2024 22:20

Then they try and slobber all over them kissing their lips! Gross 🤮Kissing babies and children on the lips should be banned.

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Omg yes ! My sister kissed my then 6 week old on the lips and got all offended when I explained about cold sore virus etc and she then tried to say I needed to do something about my anxiety! She hadn't even had her first set of immunisations fucks sake !!!
I said we don't even kiss her on the lips, and apparently that was really sad lol just wtf

Luminousalumnus · 04/06/2024 22:36

Some people use the word synonymously with charming, or saying they've got you wrapped round their little finger. Presumably nobody actually means they think a baby is flirting to get sexual attention.

Sev3nWonders · 04/06/2024 22:29

I have never ever in my life heard that expression but if I did, it would be shut down real quick no matter who it was that said it. It wouldn’t matter if they said it about my daughter or any other baby they would be called out for it on the spot. What on earth gos through grown adult brains for them to say this nonsense?! A baby is a flirt/sexy?! How do you get from cute babbling and cooing to being a flirt and sexualising a baby?

Fatotter · 04/06/2024 22:20

Then they try and slobber all over them kissing their lips! Gross 🤮Kissing babies and children on the lips should be banned.

LoveBluey · 04/06/2024 22:18

That is a strange way to talk about a child.

Not experienced that but have had lots of comments about my 2 DDs breaking lots of boys hearts when they are older or having lots of attention from boys / fighting them off. It always makes me feel uncomfortable. They are only 3 & 6 so really not sure why people can't just say they are pretty (if they feel they must comment on their appearance)

CuteCillian · 04/06/2024 22:10

Never heard 'sexy' in reference to a baby, but my grandmother used to say my LO was flirting when they looked at her in a slightly shy way...it really gave me the ick.

PrincessHoneysuckle · 04/06/2024 22:06

I hate it when people call babies sexy.Yes really.

HenryCavillsPerfectTeeth · 04/06/2024 22:06

Yes my ex mil used to call her grandkids "sexy man" or "sexy pants." Weird. Just absolutely bizarre.

Chickenuggetsticks · 04/06/2024 22:06

I’ve never heard that before, it’s grotesque.

Comedycook · 04/06/2024 22:06

Agree. Yuck

NotAVampire · 04/06/2024 22:05

Yep, it’s absolutely gross and sleazy. Thankfully I’ve not heard it very often in person but even just reading it gives me the raging heebie-jeebies. Who are these people?

Marblessolveeverything · 04/06/2024 22:04

YANBU, I shuddered reading that.

Swingingvvoter · 04/06/2024 22:02

Yes agree op, I would call it out.. Be blunt, it makes me feel uncomfortable because this is sexual language.

Thevelvelletes · 04/06/2024 22:01

He /she's a cutie,oh what a bonnie smile... normal.
A flirt ,sexy... seriously fucked up.

KeyWorker · 04/06/2024 22:00

It’s grim and you need to put a stop to it. Thankfully nobody ever said anything like that about my DD but I would have no problem saying “please stop using sexualised language about DD, she is not flirting/sexy/whatever, she is a baby.”

Idontjetwashthefucker · 04/06/2024 21:57

I've seen FB posts from an acquaintance calling her son "sexy little man". I don't know what goes through some people's heads

Beautifulbythebay · 04/06/2024 21:56

We had 3 ds's.. Mil told us they could never go nappy free as they would get sexual feelings.. Wtaf??

iamreallyabee · 04/06/2024 21:55

That's so weird, tell her

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Jaexo · 04/06/2024 21:52

I just want to add that the family member was MIL, I just didn’t want to say it on my original post as there’s such a stigma about DILs and MILs and I didn’t want anything thinking I was being ‘one of those’ as we get on well, I just didn’t know how to feel about this

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bakewellbride · 04/06/2024 21:50

I hate it with a passion too op! See also my MIL calling children 'sexy' 🤢

GreySofaCushion · 04/06/2024 21:48

I also find it disgusting and uncomfortable and will call it out. My DB is weird about saying everyone is nieces boyfriend and they have to go through him and SIL says adult males in the family are her daughters favourite and she looks so uncomfortable.

Jegersur · 04/06/2024 21:48

Awful. I’ve never heard anyone say that, though. It’s not a normal thing to say.