Posting for traffic and to see if this is normal for an 8 year old or if I'm expecting too much and if anyone has any recommendations of how I can help him.
Every school morning its the same routine for him, get dressed, have breakfast, put his snack and water in the bag, get teeth and hair done. Shoes on, jacket if needed and then time to watch something on the TV for about 20 minutes but rarely happens as he needs to be reminded to do all tasks and he usually ends up missing out on TV time. He just seems to get distracted or sits in a day dream or he's looking for something he has misplaced like jacket or school jumper (he has a chair in his room to put these on when in from school)
If asked to go look for something say in the kitchen he will quickly scan the room and say no couldn't see it. Then when either myself or dh goes in the object is in plain sight.
He has a couple of "jobs" to do in the house after school, bring washing down after getting changed out of uniform. He will occasionally do this without being asked though will often say he's forgot to do them, again same routine since he was 6. Teacher also noticed this in school they have set tasks they need to do in a certain amount of time and she finds he's just zoned out or taking his time. Often doesn't go to the task prepared like having a pencil etc.
If we're going out anywhere I can't give him maybe 2 or 3 instructions at once, like brush your teeth and get a jumper. He will come back doing only 1 then I have to send him back to do the other one. His teacher has also notices this in school
He is also getting grumpy when he's asked to do something he doesn't really want to do such as going to the shops, it's a big moan of why do we need to, I want to do xyz. I would expect that off my 3 year old. He's also a really bad loser, will moan and complain which makes it not fun.
Sorry its been a long one. I feel stuck with what I can do for him.