We don't like the same food - AIBU?

Your husband is a legitimate freak. What 50 year old man behaves like this?

Are we married to the same man? 😳🤣

Also been married 15 years. I’ve given up listening to the moaning. I just ignore him completely. He’s got to the point now where he doesn’t moan as much, he’ll just not eat things and then chucks what he doesn’t want. I just make sure everyone has a mix of meals they do like and if they don’t like some things it’s just tough shit.

Got to be honest, I’m not a big pasta fan. It’s boring, doesn’t taste very good and I don’t like tomato based sauces, they do nothing for me whatsoever. I don’t mind creamy pasta as much, but it’s unhealthy so I don’t bother. I’m also not a huge fan of your general list either, with the exception of stir fry.

BUT…. if you’re cooking for him every day, and you mix it up with other stuff then he can suck it up and bloody eat it.

My ex was a bit of a pasta fan, and would make bolognese, lasagna or pasta dishes sometimes and I’d just eat them. The only time I might feel really down about it was when he’d buy the ravioli style stuffed fresh pasta pieces with a tub of fresh sauce. I still ate it, but was always disappointed having to have it as I never enjoyed it.

But yeah. He can cook it himself the lazy shit. I could not, and would not, be with a man-child that cannot do things for himself. I couldn’t love someone like that. ESPECIALLY if they were not even grateful for me looking after them like their mummy!

He sounds very rude OP. I'd be raging.

I eat most things but I draw the line at hot tuna ... but I wouldn't be so rude about it.

How long have you been together? Why doesn’t he take his turn cooking meals? I hate cooking and am not very good at it (DH is a really good cook) but we are both a part of the home so along with other home stuff, take cooking in turns.

Sounds like you have allowed him to get away with not cooking.

He needs to learn to cook

A lot of people have sensory needs around food. But if he doesn't like what you make he needs to learn to cook for himself.

A lot of people have sensory needs around food. But if he doesn't like what you make he needs to learn to cook for himself.

The only response by a person over the age of 15 to a meal cooked for you by someone else is grovelling gratefulness. If you don’t like it tough luck say nothing and make yourself something else.

I have no patience for anyone behaving like that.
You eat what is served or you cook something else for yourself if you don't like what's on offer. Or you cook for the family a couple of times a week etc.
You don't get to sit on your arse and moan about the food. It's selfish and entitled behaviour. He seems to think he's the only one living there - everyone's tastes need to be considered if you have a family and that means sometimes eating something you don't particularly like because the others love it.

Wanker.

The no cooking thing wouldnt bother me if he pulled weight elsewhere.

The having food preferences wouldnt bother me - sometimes DH makes something that isnt to my taste, so il just make myself something on toast,

But to not cook and THEN criticise in such a childish and rude way? Absolutely fucking not. How bloody dare he!

It's never too late to learn to cook. I taught my DH in his 40s, and he does half of all cooking now.

am with everyone else who says warm tuna is the devil's food. We get pizza at work sometimes and there is always tuna. It is - meh. So ... i don't eat it.

If my DH made tuna pasta bake, and i didn't know, I'd just tell him that i don't like that and will make myself something. i won't push it round the plate and act like a twat toddler

He sounds like someone living in the 20th century who only likes old people food.

if he's not cooking he lumps it. Simple as that. Since you do like some of the same food he won't be "lumping it" every day.

Make sure your DCs know how to cook. Whether you teach them (by making them help you) or sending them to classes.

Unless they actually can’t read well enough to follow a simple recipe, people who say they ‘can’t’ cook, mean they CBA to bother, or to learn how.

Why are you pandering to this manchild?

Seriously, stop it now.

I do nearly all the cooking. I enjoy trying new recipes and cooking a range of food with lots of variety. There are 5 of us (me and DH and 3 teens), and sometimes there is a meal that someone doesn't like (DS2 isn't keen on some of the veggie options, DH isn't crazy about fish, etc). They are ALL without fail polite and don't moan. If they don't like it much, they have a small portion and eat a piece of toast later on. Your DH is rude and ungrateful.

Tell your DH that either he stops moaning or he takes his turn with the cooking. His choice.

I always cook as I don't work and enjoy it my DH is just glad to get a meal when he gets in from work!

Order the hello fresh meals for a month. Get everyone in the family to choose one and then make it themselves. It comes with instructions!

I wouldn't cook or pack lunches for someone who is that ungrateful. I'm sure he's capable of making toast, so won't starve. It's unbelievably rude to moan and push food around a plate in a sulk. My DH is a picky eater so won't eat 95% of the meals I enjoy eating, so we'll cook for ourselves if I fancy eating something I know he doesn't like.

Not wanting to eat things is absolutely fine (especially as you have said he is autistic). The mixed up food dislike is very common.
However he can learn to cook. My family is full of autistic people. My grandad learnt to cook at 89 after my grandma died. He was autistic and never had before. My autistic son had been cooking since he was 10. It takes him longer than his siblings but he is now a decent cook.

How can you find such a petulant man-child attractive in any way? The foods you have listed you and your kids like are not particularly adventurous foods anyway, so I can’t see how his palate is so limited that he won’t eat pretty standard fare. Very odd.

In my eyes he is weird for eating so many meals with gravy. I hate the stuff and, thankfully, so does DH.

I always think meals covered in gravy are for people with no teeth as everything goes soggy. Lovely crisp food like yorkshires, roast potatoes etc all made soggy by vile gravy. Plus all the food tastes of the gravy. Yuk