For the record I really do enjoy being single! I'm not desperate to have someone or to get married, I've just always been unlucky in love and it's disheartening.
I'm honestly thinking of completely giving up. I'd like to have a child someday perhaps and I'm 33 now, so I'm going to look into alternative methods.
I left my ex after 4 years for various reasons so I'm not just desperate to stick with any man for the sake of being with someone.
People will probably say it's my vibe, but I don't go round telling men I meet that I'm desperate to "settle down" or anything. I would've liked that with my ex because I loved him, but that doesn't mean I want it with anyone, period.
It will probably get shot down on here but I believe I have a lot going for me. I'm confident in my looks, I get a lot of compliments and men generally seem to be physically attracted.
I earn a good wage, I'm buying a flat alone atm. I'm good at my job and recently won an award for my work, I speak other languages, I've lived in other countries.
I'm good at sports, I recently did some sort of team-building fitness challenge with work colleagues and I won, beating the men even.
I don't need a man financially or otherwise but frequent rejections just make me feel like something's wrong with me.
I've got friends, good relationship with my family, people generally seem to like me. People often say I'm lovely, sweet, funny and stuff. I suppose I can have a bit of a laddish sense of humour but I know how to flirt if I'm getting good vibes.
I've got my flaws too and I've shown vulnerability with these men.
I'm not going for 6'3 on 6 figure salaries by any means. All the men I've liked are considered very 'normal' or average. Some people reckon I'm intimidating to these men so that's why they don't bother. I just don't see it, I don't know.
I've possibly just been really unlucky. A male colleague of mine who I vaguely knew went on this weekend activity and we got on great. He found out I was close to him in age and he admitted he'd thought I was a lot younger. I dropped him a very casual text and he seemed to reciprocate, just general chit chat but he stopped replying after my last text so i guess he wasn't interested.
There wasn't a question on it and I didn't say anything weird, it was just general work chat, but ahh well. Just grateful for any advice.