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Is 15 st too heavy to come back from??

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Wantachangefor2024 · 04/06/2024 17:21

I am 32 and currently weigh 15 stone. 5’3. Had an accident and had to have surgery, sat around feeling sorry for myself and got depressed and the weight I’m at. I finally faced myself in the mirror and burst into tears. Am I being unreasonable that I’m too far gone to come back? I’d like to lose 6 stone and get back to 9 stone. Will I be left with terribly loose skin??

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Wantachangefor2024 · 04/06/2024 17:38

“Youdontevengohere” completely valid point and yes I would. I guess I’d just like to hear that I won’t look like a deflated balloon after. Realistically I’m looking at a year-2 to get to a healthy weight

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Allequal · 04/06/2024 17:36

Instead of thinking "can I lose 6 stone" think, "can I lose 1 pound". Now go ahead and lose one pound. Once you have done it, and you will, ask yourself the question again. And again. And again. Before you know it you will be a changed woman.

Finleyandfigg · 04/06/2024 17:34

Onelessboob · 04/06/2024 17:28

I've also had a health set back have consequently put on weight whilst I recover.

I am going to start with exercise. Is there a good place you can walk? Walking/hiking and getting moving if/when you can should make you feel better.

Also weights are great at converting fat to muscle.

In the end diet is the thing that makes the biggest difference to weight, but getting active and feeling good about yourself again, is where to start imo.

Fat doesn’t convert to muscle. It’s a complete myth. They are two completely different types of tissue.

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Wantachangefor2024 · 04/06/2024 17:34

I’m just learning how this works in how to reply- but wow “helenawaiting” and “I don’t jet wash the fucker” both amazing accomplishments and really encouraging!! To be running marathons. I feel a 90 year old would beat me up the stairs and that makes me mighty ashamed.

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ThisMustBeMyDream · 04/06/2024 17:32

Nope. I'm 39. Lost 5st in just over a year. No loose skin. I've lost this amount before at 29, and again, no loose skin.
I've got 2 more st to go to a bmi of 25 and 9st 10 at 5ft 2.5.
My challenge is keeping it off! Last time I lost the weight, my ex left me after cheating (oh the irony that I was feeling the best I'd ever felt huh!). So I kept it off whilst single, but I met my now partner and we'll, he's a bloody feeder I swear. Anyway, this time my life is more stable so I'm hoping he will help me stay on the straight and narrow. Fingers crossed I can keep it off. I've made loads of little lifestyle changes that I hope will give me the ability to stay healthy.

TheTartfulLodger · 04/06/2024 17:32

Honestly forget the idea of getting rid of 6 stone. You are setting a goal it just isn't possible to reach in one go. Think about smaller losses to get to that target otherwise it will always feel unobtainable. Set yourself smaller goes that you can reach x

Youdontevengohere · 04/06/2024 17:31

Surely you’d rather be a healthy weight with loose skin than obese with all the associated health risks?

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Wantachangefor2024 · 04/06/2024 17:29

Thank you for the quick replies! All great advice. Yes I’ve had a lot of therapy and feel over my depression, but as is often the case, family, friends, therapist - all too polite to mention my weight. Definitely I know that slow and steady wins the race. I guess I’d like to hear from someone who has lost a lot of weight and not been left with loose skin? I have been told it’s all genetic and pot luck when it comes to stretch marks and loose skin.

Thanks again ladies x

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Idontjetwashthefucker · 04/06/2024 17:28

No. At my heaviest I was around 17, lost 8.5 stone and now run marathons. I'm 50

Onelessboob · 04/06/2024 17:28

I've also had a health set back have consequently put on weight whilst I recover.

I am going to start with exercise. Is there a good place you can walk? Walking/hiking and getting moving if/when you can should make you feel better.

Also weights are great at converting fat to muscle.

In the end diet is the thing that makes the biggest difference to weight, but getting active and feeling good about yourself again, is where to start imo.

HelenaWaiting · 04/06/2024 17:26

Not at 32, you won't. I lost 10 stone between 36 and 40. Didn't have loose skin. Kept it off too. The trick is to avoid silly fad diets and anything that promises quick results. It's a change of habits, not a diet. You should also consult your GP to talk through your options. They have had great results with weight loss drugs. Try to combine with exercise. Good luck.

seensome · 04/06/2024 17:26

I wouldn't be so harsh on yourself, set yourself smaller goals, a dress size down or a stone to begin with rather than 6 stone
Slower weight loss is also better for your skin to adjust naturally.

AnneLovesGilbert · 04/06/2024 17:24

Of course it’s not too late! You’re still young. Even if you had a bit of loose skin you’ll live a lot longer at a healthier weight for up or height and be more comfortable. Have you had support with your depression?

extrawhite · 04/06/2024 17:24

stop thinking about 9 stone

and start thinking of… 2 pounds by next week and so on and so on

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