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Is 15 st too heavy to come back from??

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Wantachangefor2024 · 04/06/2024 17:21

I am 32 and currently weigh 15 stone. 5’3. Had an accident and had to have surgery, sat around feeling sorry for myself and got depressed and the weight I’m at. I finally faced myself in the mirror and burst into tears. Am I being unreasonable that I’m too far gone to come back? I’d like to lose 6 stone and get back to 9 stone. Will I be left with terribly loose skin??

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Wantachangefor2024 · 04/06/2024 18:08

Idontjetwashthefucker · 04/06/2024 17:43

Don't get me wrong, it was bloody hard work and it took a few years and lots of falling off the wagon but it was well worth it, especially when I'd finished my first half marathon. I broke it down into half stones and treated myself to something new each time like an item of make up or a fancy hair dressers as an incentive. I also bought myself a Motivacelet which has silver 'beads' for half stones and stones and it was pretty full by the time I'd finished.

Honestly, really inspiring your story. And really great advice - a reward for losing instead of my rewards are daily takeouts to make me feel better and eating out on weekends. My hair is like rapunzels as I feel too embarrassed to have my hair done as I’ve lost my confidence. Don’t want to face mirrors. If I could get to a basic level of fitness I’d be happy. You’ve motivated me!

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Onelessboob · 04/06/2024 18:07

Finleyandfigg · 04/06/2024 17:34

Fat doesn’t convert to muscle. It’s a complete myth. They are two completely different types of tissue.

Ah there you go, I stand corrected! There was something I'd heard about weights being good, as the building of muscle happens a lot whilst you're resting, but that might be BS too.

YellowHighHeels · 04/06/2024 18:05

I think that'll come off nicely once you get going. As others say, loose skin isn't the end of the world if you end up with it. I don't think it'll be that drastic at 15st, I went up to more than that at a couple of inches taller (medical issue too). I still have a stone or so to lose so am not exactly toned to perfection but haven't got loose skin.

Myfitnesspal is great and I'd say see this as a gradual process rather than trying to stick to a tiny calorie allowance.

My trick was shiritaki noodles, in any sauce

Flatleak · 04/06/2024 18:01

No I was 15 stone 10 before Christmas, and now I'm 12 stone 3. I need to 11 stone 5 for a 'healthy bmi' so nearly there! Then I plan to keep going till 10 stone 5

LuluBlakey1 · 04/06/2024 17:59

Wantachangefor2024 · 04/06/2024 17:21

I am 32 and currently weigh 15 stone. 5’3. Had an accident and had to have surgery, sat around feeling sorry for myself and got depressed and the weight I’m at. I finally faced myself in the mirror and burst into tears. Am I being unreasonable that I’m too far gone to come back? I’d like to lose 6 stone and get back to 9 stone. Will I be left with terribly loose skin??

Don't be daft. Get a grip. You can easily lose a lot of that weight relatively quickly.

I am 44 and was fatter than that - started Slimming World 8th January and have lost 3st and 4 lbs. I feel so much better and my bad knee is no more. The only exercising I have done is to increase my steps.

At your age you'll spring back into shape and I bet you'll look fab.

JustWannaBeWorthIt · 04/06/2024 17:55

What's the point of the loose skin question though? You wouldn't want to lose their weight and have loose skin? Of course you still would.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 04/06/2024 17:55

BobbyBiscuits · 04/06/2024 17:50

Of course you can reduce your weight. I'd say setting the six stone goal would be a bit daunting. It's best to take it in small increments. Like a kilo or 2 every month. If you do it consistently it will stay off hopefully rather than crash dieting.
Is there some physio exercises you can do that would help mobility and burn calories?
I guess you could try injections, just to kick start the process? Though obviously not without consulting a doctor.
Reducing carbs helps a lot. For example if you were to have bread, only one slice instead of two. Only one new potato or half a big potato etc. then fill rest of the plate with veg. And up your protein. A 2 egg omelette with veg will fill you longer than just toast and butter.

Don’t forget go whole meal or brown bread nothing white.

Warburtons thins are good, plus Ryvita and oat cakes.

Switch cheese to cottage cheese or lighter cheese (cathedral city do one). Boiled eggs and skinless meat are good.

Snack on fruit and veg eg crudités, rich tea light biscuits are ok too.

Switch beer/lager/cocktails to preferably clear spirits with slimline tonic. Cut out fizzy drinks. Low sugar fruit squash is nice.

High percentage dark chocolate is nice for a treat.

JustWannaBeWorthIt · 04/06/2024 17:54

Oh and no loose skin.

JustWannaBeWorthIt · 04/06/2024 17:52

I was 15 and a half three years ago, and am now 11 and a half (still not brilliant but a size 12 rather than 16/18, and I feel a million times healthier).

Of course it can be done. Eat less, eat well, walk more.

Ponoka7 · 04/06/2024 17:51

I lost four stone post menopause. I'm still losing, slowly. I'm not getting loose skin. I was on the Exante social media pages, not everyone gets loose skin. I had to be mindful of activity, do intermittent fasting and calorie count. I used my grandchildren as motivation. I'm wanting to go swimming in the sea on next year's holiday (I'm vain), so that gets me over the wanting to eat whatever I want.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 04/06/2024 17:51

I’ve got a best friend of mine who’s a similar weight but older than you (51) and with health issues including some with mobility.

She’s recently lost 2 stone with keto but has cheat days too. She has done this over approx 2-3 months though so it’s been gradual. And if she slips up she just gets back on keto which is key.

As a pp said don’t look at it in a huge chunk rather smaller doable chunks. That’s what Weightwatchers told me when I was with them

A group like Weightwatchers or Slimming World might help you as you get support from other members plus the coach and the app to track food and fitness.

BobbyBiscuits · 04/06/2024 17:50

Of course you can reduce your weight. I'd say setting the six stone goal would be a bit daunting. It's best to take it in small increments. Like a kilo or 2 every month. If you do it consistently it will stay off hopefully rather than crash dieting.
Is there some physio exercises you can do that would help mobility and burn calories?
I guess you could try injections, just to kick start the process? Though obviously not without consulting a doctor.
Reducing carbs helps a lot. For example if you were to have bread, only one slice instead of two. Only one new potato or half a big potato etc. then fill rest of the plate with veg. And up your protein. A 2 egg omelette with veg will fill you longer than just toast and butter.

Billyhargrovesmullet · 04/06/2024 17:48

I’m in my forties and last year was 15st 7 at 5’ 3 and now im down to 12st so far, I’ve no loose skin so far it definitely can be done, 9st is my target too

Marine30 · 04/06/2024 17:47

I’ve seen a guy at my gym shrinking before my eyes. He said he’s lost about 7 stone in less than a year. He does weights about 4 times per week and tries to get 10k steps in per day. He’s 40 so absolutely doable at your age.
Don’t think of an end goal as such just yet but maybe every half stone lost have a treat - manicure, new outfit, massage etc to reward your hard work.

TeenDivided · 04/06/2024 17:46

Wantachangefor2024 · 04/06/2024 17:39

“Thismustbemydream” could anyone let me know how you reply - again massive achievement and amazing you didn’t get loose skin. You shed the loser cheater too - another ten stone. Massive win! Hope you are well xx

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mondaytosunday · 04/06/2024 17:45

Use the '@' before the user name.
Whether or not you have loose skin is pretty much genetic. Some do some don't. Plenty of young people on YouTube who have lost significant amounts of weight who have loose skin. Some don't.
Agree with others. Work towards mini goals. Going away this summer? Try and lose Xkg by then.
Download an app like My Fitness Pal and track everything. Everything. Do not guess, weigh/measure stuff. You probably need to reacquaint yourself with correct portion sizes. I find eating two meals a day rather than three smaller meals helps. I bulk everything out with lots of veg. Limits carbs, especially white potatoes/white rice kind. You want whole foods that are nutrient dense - last thing you want is to lose weight then go back to old habits and regain. You need to change your mindset about 'diet' and think more 'lifestyle'.

BIWI · 04/06/2024 17:43

@Wantachangefor2024 firstly, it's absolutely doable! And second, if you lose the weight gradually, then you shouldn't be left with loose skin.

I'm sorry that you've had such a hard time recently, but hopefully you can reframe this as a positive, new start?

As PP have said, don't look at it as having to lose 6 stones, as that is too overwhelming. Focus on a half stone at a time as your initial target.

The key thing will be the food that you eat, so think hard about the kind of way of eating that will work best for you. Bearing in mind that you'll need to stay focused for a while, it has to be a WOE that you're happy with.

Have you ever dieted before?

Wantachangefor2024 · 04/06/2024 17:43

“Gettingbysomehow” it was a spinal operation I had after falling from my horse. So much love and best wishes for your future op. Mine went amazing and I’m pain free so I have no excuses not to get my health back xx

amazing on your weight loss too.

thank you ladies. I’m realising I’m feeling sorry for myself again!

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Idontjetwashthefucker · 04/06/2024 17:43

Wantachangefor2024 · 04/06/2024 17:34

I’m just learning how this works in how to reply- but wow “helenawaiting” and “I don’t jet wash the fucker” both amazing accomplishments and really encouraging!! To be running marathons. I feel a 90 year old would beat me up the stairs and that makes me mighty ashamed.

Don't get me wrong, it was bloody hard work and it took a few years and lots of falling off the wagon but it was well worth it, especially when I'd finished my first half marathon. I broke it down into half stones and treated myself to something new each time like an item of make up or a fancy hair dressers as an incentive. I also bought myself a Motivacelet which has silver 'beads' for half stones and stones and it was pretty full by the time I'd finished.

Verv · 04/06/2024 17:42

following as I also need to shift a load of weight.
I reckon you can do it op, and even if theres loose skin these things can be taken care of.

Gettingbysomehow · 04/06/2024 17:40

No of course not. You just have to understand it will take a year and you have to do some walking. I'm 62, I've gone from 15.5 stone to 11 and I cant do any exercise at all becsuse I'm waiting for a spinal op. I need to lose another 1 and a half stone. They would not operate initially because I was too heavy but I am on the list now.
You just need motivation.

Wantachangefor2024 · 04/06/2024 17:39

“Thismustbemydream” could anyone let me know how you reply - again massive achievement and amazing you didn’t get loose skin. You shed the loser cheater too - another ten stone. Massive win! Hope you are well xx

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BashfulClam · 04/06/2024 17:39

I’m 45 lost 4 stone last year and still have two to go. I was 17st 9 (I’m 5’ 9”). Not too far at all.

LoserWinner · 04/06/2024 17:39

It’s absolutely do-able. And you are young enough that you may not be left with a lot of loose skin. I lost 6 stone in about 20 months, but I’m a lot older, and alas, my skin is never going to tighten up. All you need are persistence and patience.

xxSideshowAuntSallyxx · 04/06/2024 17:38

Finleyandfigg · 04/06/2024 17:34

Fat doesn’t convert to muscle. It’s a complete myth. They are two completely different types of tissue.

Completely agree, you have muscle under fat and when you lose that fat you see the muscle. I wish it did convert to muscle I'd be ripped.

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